Thread 82174274

How do I go about telling my mum im dating a 30 something year old. Im 22 and shes always been up the ass crazy about age gaps.

I thought only zoomers cared that much. As long as you are both adults and you are then it's none of your mom's business who you date. inform her such.

>>82174293
I think its cuz im considered developmentally delayed and cant make my own decisions, according to her.

give her the wrong age, you are not legally in the wrong to lie about it since yuo're an adult
also i feel like this is yet another chickn thread

>>82174307
she is an abusive mother than using that as an excuse to deny your freedoms, I'm sorry

>>82174311
I actually recently banned that cunt from a server. Cant stand her ass.

>>82174274 (OP)
Gaslight her.
Tell her that her neuroticism about age gaps made you internalize a fetish for it and now you'll never recover.
The pussy wants what it wants

>>82174320
It gets embarrassing when I have to ask my friends to ask their own mothers to talk with my mum.

>>82174334
I did that once by calling her schizophrenic for not letting me hang out with a friend. Ended with her crying to MY therapist and the therapist siding with her. I cant do much

>>82174366
I'm sorry that you ended up in a situation where your mom changes the narrative with the therapist, that's unfair and it should just be you talking to them

>>82174366
You answered your own question I guess. She's human too and that might be a liiitle harsh if you took it as literal as i suggested.

If she cares then i guess the biggest concern is your success. Even if it does turn her into a baby.

Other anons have pointed out that you're old enough to make these choices.

Think of it like a phobia (not the prejudice kind), like being scared of spiders.

>>82174274 (OP)
half your age plus 7. it's the age old rule anon, it's like financial advice. it never changes and spans across generations
let's say she's 34
>17 + 7 = 24
you're a little young by boomer/soccer mom standards! oh no!
you wouldn't let that stop you though, ne? love is love, and you're an adult
and frankly, your love life is none of mommy's business. set some boundaries, especially if she's as crazy as you say

>>82174713
>setting arbitrarily strict rules around numbers and age
you realize this kind of math makes it worse, right?

>>82174274 (OP)
I dated a girl who was 12 years younger. It was kinda awkward being around her parents

>>82174786
not necessarily. it maintains the optimal gap with minimal potential for power dynamics, but i think that should be obvious
if you want you can eyeball the age difference and judge for yourself. a guideline is just that, and many boomers happen to follow it

>>82174713
I cant set many boundaries since she will go out of her way to stalk me and the people I hang around with. I think its cuz she still considers me little girl for some reason

>>82174876
Have you ever researched how narcissist mothers treat their daughters?

>>82174274 (OP)
"Mom, I'm normal"

isn't he just grooming you? Is this just online?

>>82175019
She isnt a narcissist thats for sure.

>>82175375
Think of the movie dinner in a America