Thread 82224915

why is communication so hard between people? neither philosophers nor scientists will ever really have the answer and solution to it, will they?

>>82224915 (OP)
becoming social is just practice anon

although the initial wall of fear is hard as hell to overcome

you can do it

just have to be brave c:<

>>82224915 (OP)
psychologists and normies have the answer

Because people are also fucked up and manipulative. Give away too much information and it becomes a weapon for anyone to use against you. On the opposite end, giving too little pushes people away. It's a delicate dance of giving enough so that people can grow attachment, but not enough for them to destroy you, and it can feel as if it's just another fucked up microcosm of nature. Survival of the fittest, look for weaknesses in others, discard others when necessary, people are nothing but tools to be used.

>>82224915 (OP)
communication is already perfect you just don't get it and that's ok because that's part of it or something

>>82224927
i practiced a lot but you cant practice deeper stuff yknow..
but sankyu for the encouragement

>>82224975
my therapist was my neuropsych and he could not find the answer

>>82224990
i do not want to do that, so surely there are others who do not, too?

>>82224999
oh okay that makes perfect sense nod nod mhm uhu *doesnt get it at all

>>82224915 (OP)
Low trust society please understand

>>82224915 (OP)
that it's so hard is proof that it is unnatural. quietly getting on with things with minimal verbal communication should be the norm

>>82224915 (OP)
It's not hard. You sound young. Once you're older and have more experience, you can quickly spot patterns, intuit what people want, and read between the lines. You can use your autism powers for this. It's like balancing a chemical reaction, there are certain rules and you achieve success.

>>82224915 (OP)
>why is communication so hard between people
That's a question with a lot of moving parts. It also depends on whether you mean at large, or interpersonally.

Assuming the latter the summary would be that all people are fundamentally different. Our neurological pathways that shape our brain mean that people's thought processes are physically distinct and as such understanding another human being when you are working with different hardware is an uphill battle. Language is an axiom agreed upon to try and get two (or often more) distinct systems to converge on the same process. Even when you and another person come to the same conclusion or have the same thought, the minutia of emotional connotations, attached memories and experiences, and habitual cognition will create a separate understanding of the idea between the two of you. The more different you and another person are, the wider this gap becomes.

It's why talking to girls is so fucking confusing.

>>82224915 (OP)
I have the answer and there is no solution

>>82224915 (OP)
For most people here it is anxiety or some other form of fear avoidance that hinders connection. You can't get close to people if you don't let them in. Yet if you let someone in you also run the risk of being hurt. You have to accept that risk and be prepared to hurt to truly bond with someone.