Thread 82231537

Anyone been in abusive relationship before and on the receiving end as a man?
I find it endearing someone can care so much that they would beat me as well. Maybe I am retarded.

>>82231537 (OP)
I am in one. Wish I wasn't.

>>82231537 (OP)
>Anyone been in abusive relationship before and on the receiving end as a man
Ya. But looking back it wasn't much different than my childhood

>>82231547
elaborate plz

>>82231537 (OP)
These women don't really care about you, dumbass. They still cheat on you.

Someone who cares about you doesn't abuse you.

>>82231557
My wife is hostile and abusive, verbally and physically, she beats me.

>>82231537 (OP)
I had one that assaulted me twice while we lived together, kicked her drunk ass out.

Had another one that I would hog tied when she got violent, eventually she started coming at me with kitchen knives , I bitch slapped her and called the cops, I got arrested for smacking her and spent 18 hours in jail, they told me I had to move when they released me. I got an apartment and she ended up homeless and turning tricks, I think she died of a herion overdose not too long ago.

>>82231537 (OP)
>tfw no abuse pig gf

>>82231593
>eventually she started coming at me with kitchen knives , I bitch slapped her and called the cops
how they believe you over her? Did you record it

>>82231657
I was public policy at the time to always arrest the man and always require the man to move.

The cops did go back to get her statement, then arrested her and tried to charge us with mutual combat. That woman was many things, but she wasn't a liar and she didn't play the victim.

>>82231570
Love is always one way, anon. If you love her, she doesn't love you. If you feel absolutely nothing for her, she might, in actuality, have feelings for you.

And its not abuse if its consensual. Its just a different way of experiencing what it means to be loved, what deviates away from normie cuckold relationships (*vomit*).

In reality its quite dreamy. Who wouldn't want to be lovebombed and feel loved?

>>82231836
You're actually braindead. Hope you get stabbed by your dream girlfriend.

>>82231862
>implying I want a girl to do that to me
Huh?
I think only willfully epistemically ignorant people think feeling love for someone is a good or desirable thing.
Feeling validated, feeling loved, feeling desired, feeling powerful in a relationship, that's whats actually meaningful.

>>82231537 (OP)
I'm into abusive women, but straight shots? I'm fighting back

>>82231537 (OP)
She can punch me in the face, but I get to punch her cervix

>>82231936
NORDBAT get in here!!

>>82231951
I have been looking into the Yugo breakup and it's the most fucking boring shit ever.

Aftermath was basically: Ok you guys get yer own countries and shit and Bosnia has a Serb, Bosnifag, and Croat in office at the same time

Like can somebody actually win? Although the Serbian militias and random serbs took some awesome pics

>>82231537 (OP)
Wish it was me, still Im not a bitch who would let my face get punched like that, only just their common little slap and punches they think does damage, deadass would snap any foid arms like a twig if they did the same as in the video, not mom tho

>>82231537 (OP)
Not physically
But I had a GF who liked to do the learned helplessness and had some kind of "condition" for everything
>I can't do that anon, muh anxiety
>I can't eat that, muh allergy that's not really an allergy
>Don't say that or act that way, anon, muh ptsd
I got really annoyed with her

>>82231537 (OP)
>Anyone been in abusive relationship before and on the receiving end as a man?
Not physical, just BPD, emotionally and mentally manipulative, to the point I was ready to off myself

Nothing physical, he was just an asshole.
I wish I could erase that part of my life. I am deeply embarrassed by it was well, and only partly because it was mad gay.

>>82231537 (OP)
Yes. It lasted a year and a half. Even though she was mentally ill and very open about it, my mum told me this girl was a keeper. We had lived together for about six months before her abusive patterns of behavior were inflicted on me. I could probably fill two posts with the shit she inflicted on me emotionally and still have two posts of things to say about it. My sister saw what was going on, but not the extent of it and told me to put my foot down. That rhetoric stopped the minute my gf started cheating on me openly. The break-up was rough and I didn't eat for three days because my stomach was churning while I tried to get her to pick her shit up while she sent nothing but threats of violence in response. Eventually, my dad and my brother delivered it all for me. I wasn't free of this girl until some relative of hers kicked her out for smoking all their weed and her ire shifted on them.

I thought I put up with it for too long because I was cowardly and too enamored with her and was kicking myself for weeks about being a little bitch, but I was visiting my parents and my mum was watching this TV show called You Can't Ask That where people answer anonymous questions about sensitive topics. That night it was a panel of battered women. I noticed a pattern in how these women answered questions about how it started and why they thought they couldn't just leave. What they described was very familiar and I didn't like it, but it helped a lot to know that I didn't bitch out and she was an abuser.

I would be over this now, save for one detail which is unique to my experience and it's hard to put into words. When the manipulation became obvious, she changed the way she smiled. It was like her face was a completely different shape and it activated a fight or flight response in me to the point where I had to look away. I don't know why that was.

>>82231537 (OP)
I was in one, I left because I won't tolerate abuse. I'm in my 30s, I know what I god damn want in life and abuse has no place in it at all.

>>82231537 (OP)
Yeah you're retarded. They do not care. They will hurt you. They will use the legal system against you. And if your retarded enough to give them kids then the sins of the father no doubt. Don't get with unstable women

Being in an abusive relationship is still better than being lonely. My last relationship was 10 years ago. She was manipulative, abusive and cheated on me multiple times. I wish she never broke up with me. I just hate myself so much.

>>82234382
You need better people in your life.

>going out with girl for 3 months
>everything is fine, sex is great, she even agrees to do cosplay sex a couple of times (awesome)
>sunday evening, getting ready for work the next day
>doorbell rings
>GF and a moving truck
>wtf?
>"sorry I got into a fight with my uncle, I need to move in with you for the next few months..."
...
>"I need you to buy this thing for me, and this other thing, and that other thing..."
>"Sorry I can't help with chores or get a job, I have a chronic health condition that I forgot to tell you about until now, so I'm just going to stay in bed all day."
>"I need to use your phone to make some calls. I'll give it back later today or tomorrow."

This situation lasted almost 3 years. At the end of it I was nearly bankrupt and deeply in debt. She demanded a lot of expensive gifts, vacations, etc and would cry and scream and pull her hair out when I said no. I was afraid she'd file a false police report and get me arrested if I tried to kick her out.

my parents didnt help. I told them I was in a fucked up situation and asked them if I could move back in with them and they said "sorry, we dont have enough space." getting rid of her was very tricky.

Only mentally and psychologically. They would be be normal and I'd have a wonderful time with them, but every so often something would set them off. When they were set off they'd become very cruel or psychologically abusive. In the mildest cases they would get angry and mock or put down an aspect about me, my accomplishments, my family, my health, and more. None of it was playful banter, they could do playful banter when they weren't set off.

Typing this now I realize in hindsight that every mockery or put down was always a delusional projection about something they themselves did, were insecure about, or worried about about. Examples would be how they would mock my mental health, despite being sent to psychward nearly biweekly since I have known them. Mock my intelligence, despite never completing higher education and making choices in life that put themselves in harms way often. Whereas others find me fairly smart, I have a degree, and I am a subject matter expert at work in a studious field. Mock my income, when they were unemployed, I paid for everything, and I made a good salary. Accuse me of randomly of not trusting them, when I shared everything with them. When they'd clam up, compare me to their abuser, or make while accusations about me. Accuse me of not loving them or seeking to harm them. When they would try to instigate fights, made my mother cry by putting her down, tell me it was good when I was hurt, tell me they felt nothing for me, and mocked me for almost dying one time. You get it.

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>>82234852
That wasn't the worst of it, the worst of it is when ever they got in really bad mental state they'd randomly say something concerning about their safety, say something hurtful, or doubt I loved them and vanish. Then I'd be a stressed out mess, because I'd be worried until I got in touch with them and make sure they didn't do anything to themselves and were alright. Each time they'd calm down, say they loved me and go back to normal. They started to do this more frequently once they learned it causes me a lot of stress.
I once learned that in one of these distressed states they lied and told one of their friend I was forcing them into a relationship, or "manipulating them to stay." I don't know if they actually believe that, or it is one of those things when they get in that state. But randomly ghosting your long term partner after saying something that makes them worry about your safety isn't a break up, nor is doing that and physically walking out the door and vanishing into a crowd of people when you both are reliant on each other for a ride home. Going back to them immediately when you aren't in an anxious state also isn't them forcing anything, it's calming down.
When they are stable and normal they are the best person and a wonderful partner, but when something in them gets set off or they get into that extreme state they cause extreme suffering towards others. I regret not knowing what I could do to help them, but when something sets them off or they get worse and enter that state it's like they are oblivious to what they are actually doing, how they treat others, and replace the real world with a world made up only of their past traumas or their pain and lash out at everything. Because everything has become a threat until they snap out of it.

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>>82231537 (OP)
Yes. It was hell. I was young and didn't know better. She invaded every part of my life, and I felt trapped. Every time I tried to kick her out or just set some boundaries, she'd do retarded shit like taking a handful of pills or slitting her wrists.
Is it because she loved me oh so much? No, she was just insane. She was still out cheating, looking for a guy with a bigger wallet. Gave me an STD in the process. Still, her being a whore is what gave me an out. When she went to spend a weekend with another guy, I packed up all her shit, gave it to her folks, told them where she is, what she's doing, and why I'm leaving, I also warned them that she might be suicidal and to keep her on a short leash. I Changed the lock and changed my number. Her parents ended up putting her in a loony bin when she started beating her mom.

>>82234439
>>"sorry I got into a fight with my uncle, I need to move in with you for the next few months..."
No *slam*
EZPZ

There are only a couple of appropriate responses to a sucide threat
>do it faggot
>do a flip
>can I have your stuff?

>>82234952
So the relationship was a normal happy relationship, but in the background there was always the constant fear something would set them off. I had to always walk on eggshells, rush plans, and many times I had to put off critical tasks to prevent one of these episodes. If I wasn't available, or didn't do what they wanted as soon as they wanted it would set them off or cause them to enter that state. That state had to be prevented at all costs, because the stress of it was crippling. Until it was resolved you could do nothing but worry about their safety. Everything else goes by the wayside, and it takes your health, stability, and sanity with it. So you'd always have to do anything to prevent that from occurring.
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>>82235038
The last one is the best response.

>>82235038
I didn't want to deal with a dead bitch in my bathroom. She was crazy enough to do it.

>>82235110
Was the pussy at least extra grippy?

>>82235130
Overall, not the best I ever had, but pretty up there.
that's how they get you. BPD chicks have like a charisma/hotness boost in the first few months of the relationship.

>>82231537 (OP)
fuuuuck I wish that was meeeee

>>82234439
wtf. westoid parents are so selfish and retarded. lol

>my bfs face when I tell him that I sometimes think about bashing him in the face while he's asleep next to me in bed
>my bfs face when I beg him to just let me hit him so the bad feelings go away
>my bfs face when I get blackout drunk tell him I don't love him anymore and never cared then switching up and asking why he won't watch a movie with me
Lovebombing right now after I was particularly nasty and made him cry

>>82234985
Yes, that's what I should have done.

>>82235130
yeah, a few actually.

I kinda have, but I was abusive to the same degree in return.

She would get randomly angry at me, throw down my books, scratch me with her nails, until I would have enough, slap her face, lock her neck in my arm and throw her out of my studio while locking the door.

Then she would stay behind for an hour crying and asking for me to let her in r8

I was somewhat scared she might knoife me at some point too, but it thankfully didn't happen.

>>82234953
Was she never institutionalized during your relationship?

>>82235274
Four times. Twice inpatient and twice outpatient. Like I said, I felt trapped and guilty. Couldn't bring myself to leave her during her lowest.

>>82231537 (OP)
Satan just makes these webms using his clones. These people know they are being filmed and both are consenting. An evil omnipotent god makes gore films. This reality never existed without the knowledge of cameras.