Thread 82246428

If my boyfriend suggests polyamory to me (not with a specific other person just in general) is that a sign he doesnt actually love me and Im not enough for him?

>>82246428 (OP)
He loves you he just wants to shoot ropes on Stacy too. Its a man thing. You will get used to it

>>82246428 (OP)
>If my boyfriend suggests polyamory to me (not with a specific other person just in general) is that a sign he doesnt actually love me and Im not enough for him?
Yes. You can have open or you can have a relationship. An open relationship is a paradox.

>>82246443
If he actually loved me he wouldnt want anyone else. if he wants stacy so bad he should be with her instead
>>82246448
He said an open relationship is different from polyamory

>>82246461
>He said an open relationship is different from polyamory
Mechanically, sure, but the same principle applies, unless you also like the girl.

>>82246428 (OP)
He's an aggro automaton that's designed to shoot ropes in foids and take over as much territory (to shoot more ropes) as possibru. Don't take it personally. Also, this doesn't take away how much comfort (love) he perceives from you.

>>82246461
Its probably just a sex thing desu

>>82246428 (OP)
As soon as non-monogamy is on the table, the relationship is over. If you aren't okay with being demoted to a fuckbuddy, you should just break up with him. Sorry to break it to you.

>>82246428 (OP)
He can still love you, I doubt that he respects you though.

>>82246428 (OP)
he must be able to separate out love vs sex if hes suggesting polyamory and not an open relationship. can you?

>>82246428 (OP)
He needs more bussy boss

>>82246480
>>82246518
This is 100% what is going on in the mind of your bf OP

>>82246478
Im straight so I dont like women
>>82246479
If he only wants to shoot ropes in foids he doesnt need me for comfort. If he needs to fuck other women so bad he should just stay single and hire prostitutes

>>82246554
>Im straight so I dont like women
There's your answer then

I thought foids love getting cucked?

>>82246554
>If he only wants to shoot ropes in foids he doesnt need me for comfort
No, you don't get it. He can do with or without the comfort (love), but he NEEDS to shoot ropes or he ropes(thinks about it).

>>82246428 (OP)
>is that a sign he doesnt actually love me and Im not enough for him?
that's exactly what it means, I'm sorry.

>>82246493
Im not going to break up with him even though Im pretty sure he doesnt love me. I love him even if the feelings arent reciprocated, and plus Id feel bad leaving him alone considering all he has been through. I really hoped for once in my life id be someones first choice and actually feel loved, but im realizing now that its impossible and at least i can contribute something to the world by taking care of him and raising his kids

>>82246569
Funny wordplay top kek

>>82246428 (OP)
did he propose one sided or mutual polyamory? like are you allowed an extra boyfriend? if its one sided he blatantly hates you. if its mutual it might not be personal, he may just not value monogamy the same as you. which is an incompatibility and still sad, but not as bad

>>82246588
Yasss. We Stan a loyal cuckquean!!! Period!

>>82246563
youre thinking of trannies. different thing
>>82246585
if I broke up with him I know he would be super sad though so I cant. So I might as well stay since if literally not a single person has ever loved me in my 18 years of existence im sure as hell not gonna find anyone else who will

>>82246600
He only wants an extra girlfriend I think. He said he would be jealous if there was an extra guy
>>82246603
doesnt count as a cuckquean if I just cry instead of flicking the bean when he inevitably cheats on me

>>82246636
>He only wants an extra girlfriend I think. He said he would be jealous if there was an extra guy
he does not love you, does not respect you, you are not enough for him, he hates you
>>82246588
>at least i can contribute something to the world by taking care of him and raising his kids
you should not do this, dont allow this man to put more people like him into the gene pool. you wouldnt be contributing to the world, you would be making it a worse place for everyone else

>>82246428 (OP)
It means you don't put out enough, but he likes you for other reasons. Maybe you're a good cook and you do nice things, but you're too frigid or just boring in bed. The whole 'love' thing doesn't matter to guys if it's not fun and reasonably frequent in bed.

>>82246636
Honestly OP try to spice up things in the bedroom. Maybe it will give him second thoughts. OR you can just ask him straight up why you alone arent good enough. That could work too

>>82246656
my only two options are marrying him and hopefully raising his kids to be better people or dying alone

also I dont think hes a bad person for not really loving me. Im too much of an annoying sperg to ever actually be loved by anyone, even my own parents dont love me

>>82246668
>>82246680
We havent had sex before its only an online thing

>>82246622
No, you deserve self respect. If he doesn't love you enough to stay mutually exclusive, then he's not the one. You have needs and they matter, if you need and want exclusivity, don't stay with him out of fear of not finding somebody else who will love you. You WILL find somebody else who is going to love.

I had my first girlfriend ever at 19, having ONE partner by age 18-19 does not make you a desperate or hopeless case, it's perfectly acceptable. I want you to have the respect you deserve, if somebody wanted to open up the relationship, I'd instantly break up because clearly I'm not enough. They're asking for permission to cheat basically. I know you may have low self esteem but you don't deserve to do yourself like that. You just don't.

>>82246428 (OP)
exactly he doesn't love you and you should leave him

>>82246682
>my only two options are marrying him and hopefully raising his kids to be better people or dying alone
they wont be better people if they have bad genetics. die alone. or consider sperm donation?
>also I dont think hes a bad person for not really loving me. Im too much of an annoying sperg to ever actually be loved by anyone, even my own parents dont love me
hes not a bad person for not loving you, but hes a bad person for lying about it, and entering a relationship under false pretenses of love and monogamy

>>82246689
Rip.
You can always find another. Plenty of fish on web

>>82246699
thanks anon, but that still doesnt change the fact that I know he would be super sad if I left him and I could never deal with the guilt. And like I said, I do really love him. So hopefully he wont ignore me too much before he bangs other girls and ill get to at least hug him a few times

>>82246428 (OP)

When someone wants to open up a relationship, it's because they don't love their partner enough to stay mutually exclusive. They're going to cheat and by asking to open up the relationship, they are asking you permission to cheat because if you approved, it's not immoral, right?

You deserve better than this. Aren't you worth better than that?

>>82246428 (OP)
You are not enough for him, yes.

>>82246689
LDRs aren't real. This entire thread has been a waste of time. Move it off the internet, or let it go.

>>82246727
Watching you breaks my heart, it really does. I feel for you even though I don't know you at all. Even if it would make him sad, it's his job to be loyal to you and treat you right. I can tell that you are very giving but you shouldn't accept that your man goes and bangs other girls. You shouldn't have to hope for him not to ignore you too much and you shouldn't have to hope for hugs. He'd be sad but he's also being completely selfish in that regard. You're breaking my heart with your situation.

>>82246428 (OP)
just fuck him more often

>>82246732
I dont think I deserve better honestly. lazy untalented beckys with no social skills dont deserve love anyways
>>82246749
I know plenty of people who were in LDRs that ended up getting married and even having kids

>>82246689
>my only two options are marrying him and hopefully raising his kids to be better people or dying alone
absolute sperg, yes there's something missing in your 'relationship' - ofc he goes searching for sex if you're like this.

>>82246805
>I dont think I deserve better honestly. lazy untalented beckys with no social skills dont deserve love anyways
>>82246805
You're so fucking wrong, I want to beat you up to death, like leave you with bruises and stuff. You do deserve better, you're clearly a considerate person and you yourself have your own qualities that even he finds in you. To define yourself as lazy and untalented is harsh and I don't know you enough to properly contest that, but you definitely suffer from having low self worth. I wish I could get to you and prevent you from the incoming suffering but you'll have to see with time that I was right. You've made this thread for a reason, you hesitate, you wonder, you think. A part of you knows this isn't right and this is why you made this thread. People like you are taken advantage constantly, how can I or we wake you up to this reality?

Tangent here. But you're not supposed to "love" your man btw. Men perceive love as respect and that's what he desires from women (they feel respect as you do love).
Ergo, if you can't respect him, then eventually you won't love him neither. Let him know this and move on, or not?

>>82246428 (OP)
if your boyfriend is asking to open the relationship, he's almost certainly either already cheating on you, or has another woman lined up that he's planning to sleep with, and just wants to make it official.
every single case i've seen where someone (man or woman) has asked for the relationship to open and the other person agrees, that person coincidently ends up fucking someone within literal days, and it's hilariously obvious they were already fucking beforehand. if your partner ever suggests this, make plans to dump their ass ASAP.

>>82246428 (OP)
people who ask for open relationship usually have already cheated and want your approval for the open relationship so that what they did ends up not being bad. You said Yes so me cheating on you isn't a bad thing, you were okay with it.

OP stopped replying. Did OP commit suicide?

>>82246428 (OP)
Your boyfriend is a cheating fuckboy and you should dump him. I almost pity you... almost.

>>82246428 (OP)
Is him fucking someone else over you not a sign of him not actually preferring you? I swear you fuckers outsource your critical thinking harder than tech companies do their work to indians.

>>82247128
not yet. he is trying to justify him wanting a poly relationship in dms but its just making me want to kill myself more honestly. why did I think anyone would ever actually love me

>>82247193
noone owes you love, foid.

>>82247128
op's a guy who got bored trolling idiots

grats on being so gullible

>>82246428 (OP)
>is that a sign he doesnt actually love me
Yes, this goes for either gender. If someone loves you, he/she would never suggest something like that ever. It's very disrespectful

>>82246499
Is there love without respect though? I don't think there is.

>>82247248
Love is perceived, not given. In my experience - foids don't care for respect, it's attention that they crave. Specifically aggressive attention.

>>82247218
I know they dont. it was dumb of me to try
>>82247231
no im a female

>>82246689
>online
>wants an open relationship
it's toast but it's weird that he'd admit anything when you couldn't possibly know

>>82247289
he means for when we are irl

>>82247300
do you have a reason to believe him?

>>82247300
>>82247289
he probably already fucking some girls behind OPs back kek. He just wants to continue it irl I guess

>>82247322
not really i guess
>>82247350
yeah true

Just find another one. Next. No problemo