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Anonymous No.82297514 >>82297604 >>82298598
how should *i* reject someone for once?
I got more or less politely rejected by some grill on a dating app that I honestly only took interest in because I considered her to be ideal arm candy, she just said that we're definitely no match judging by my profile description. No big deal in the end, at least she was honest and didn't bullshit me for some free expensive meal or other w*man trickery.

I've been on that app on and off for months now and there's some 6/10 cookie cutter grill that always matches me and today she texted me with a simple "hey how ur doing?"

quick side rant, I find it absolutely infuriating that women expect some funny, witty, interesting, bold and creative opener from men but hit you with the most basic shit ever if they out of a million times decide to text you first.

Anyways, she has two giant red flags for me, being a nurse since I work at a hospital in an administrative position for years and have lost all respect for nurses because they're insufferable, smartasses, whores or generally just unpleasant to be around except for a handful I get along with who hate their jobs and coworkers. Second red flag is that she's part of a volunteer fire department, i've been coerced into joining by my parents in the youth, didn't like the people there to begin with and got hazed as a newcomer ritual, so I quickly left.

Should I just ghost her? I know it's a shitty thing to do and I'd hate it if someone did it to me, but I'm too autistic to come up with a respectful rejection and I think straight up telling her I don't like nurses and firefighters makes me feel like a massive autistic retard. also its been a few hours since she texted so should I even bother now?
Anonymous No.82297604 >>82297704 >>82298013
>>82297514 (OP)
>nurse
I don't blame you one bit. Avoid avoid avoid.
>volunteer fire department
If it comes with the Tomboy perk I might tolerate it. I hadn't even thought about it before but it's a pink flag for me.
>ghost?
Ghosting is really shitty. If she doesn't reach out again it's not ghosting though, it's just a convo dying out.
If she texts you again, I recommend "straight up telling her".
I've never had any chick give me attitude for calling myself / acknowledging I'm an asshole.
Often followed by denial on their part. Let them cope.
TLDR:
If I was in your shoes, I'd tell her I don't date medical professionals but we can still fuck.
Anonymous No.82297704 >>82297721
>>82297604
>If she doesn't reach out again it's not ghosting
Haven't looked at it from that perspective, but it makes sense tho
>I don't date medical professionals but we can still fuck
I'm incredibly incapable of pretending that I like someone just to get laid, I envy people who have this skill and I have tried, I'm kinda hardwired to let people feel I have zero interest in them through nonverbal communication. Also I'm content with hookers occasionally if the urge overwhelms me, it's also less hassle.
Thanks for your thoughts.
Anonymous No.82297721
>>82297704
You're welcome Anon.
>pretending that I like someone just to get laid
I'm not sure where the pretending comes in but you do you.
Anonymous No.82298013
>>82297604
>I got more or less politely rejected by some grill on a dating app that I honestly only took interest in because I considered her to be ideal arm candy, she just said that were definitely no match judging by my profile description.
Anonymous No.82298598
>>82297514 (OP)
Damn I hate vet techs. I imagine human nurses couldnt be worse. A volley firefighter might actually be cool.