its disheartening to realize women will only be with a guy for status or for personal reasons, and yeah it does make sense, if you didnt like somebody then you wouldnt have them in your life, but if a woman was to ever like me it would be for arbitrary reasons and not because she actually liked me as myself, but only if i hit some arbitrary quota to her preferences. like the opposite of an ick, if i have enough yums then she will consider me a worthy partner.

and yes this works the same with men, if a woman were to gain weight then the arbitrary preference of a guy (for a girl to look attractive) would go away and he might leave her, on a broad aspect men are usually more desperate/romantic/clingy than women despite what society tells you, and most men would probably just stay anyways out of obligation or sunk cost fallacy because men like normalcy and routine. women always want to adventure and try new things and will leave on a moments notice. most people who chase and get girls would all agree that the hardest part is actually keeping her when u get her