>>82391441
Not them.
Personally I lucked into it. If you go to any big-name place like a gaming discord it will absolutely never work. Too much political backstabbing and literal trans moderation with zero banter allowed.
Small groups are usually fine, medium groups are okay, these are the meat and potatoes. Eventually activity peters out and it's usually a smaller group than it starts from the beginning due to some stupid drama. If you keep your nose clean and don't participate in it you probably won't get too sucked up into the worst of it.
For one group I writefagged for a thread (requires some autism, I just wrote glorified shitposts for the most part).
Another was just happenstance, when skype was a hip new messaging app and wasn't a shadow of its former self.
I'm not the charismatic one of the group by any means but I do chip in ideas that get the more talkative ones going. Both groups I am in are incredibly lax about slurs even with trans-people in both of those groups. Basically, they laugh at everyone a little. Minimizes the drama that way too. Generally the people that take their (identity) politics too seriously get filtered out from the groups I am in, and they're usually the ones that start petty shit.
If the group dynamic lends itself to drama like one of the bigger discords do, then you're going to encounter splits. If that happens, and you happen to end up in both groups, don't participate in the bullshit. If one the splits pressures you to spy consider leaving that one because if they're petty enough to ask then it's not worth the social pressure for something that should just fizzle out over the years.
In general I would recommend groups that actually let anyone in to start with, because before these splits settle everyone those groups tend to have a lax environment. It's fine to have an interest or topic but contrary to the gatekeeping chart that gets posted usually the healthy gatekeeping only comes when the splits occur.
