Thread 82411450

have you anons ever had any success in finding a fwb or even a hookup as an average looking guy? everyone has always said thats what everyone on dating apps are looking for but every girl i come across is looking for a "long term relationship" ive been out of my first and previous relationship for about a year and a half now and im beginning to want to dip my toes back into things but slowly. but its been a little under a month on both hinge and bumble (with about a week of the paid subscription on both) with ONE irl date that ghosted afterwards, and a few matches that stopped responding. should i just turn to fucking a dude? like whats happened lately?

/r9k/ is the same as pic related. Nobody but turbo normalfag whores left.

>>82411450 (OP)
no luck with dating apps, speed dating events, approaching foids at the bus stops and on the street. my advice for you is to build wealth and forget about fwb degeneracy and dating humiliation rituals. no pussy = more money for me.

>>82411450 (OP)
You end up being a bf without any of the non sexual positives anyway. Not to mention she'll leave your ass once an above average guy comes along

>>82411518
i think my desire to get laid is not unique

>>82411535
i dont really need commitment right now anyways , just some tantric release

>>82411450 (OP)
you think foids just fuck anyone that walk by?

If you're here you should know they only give it up for chad.

>>82411537
Hey, that's what I said! You're a turbo normalfag, of course your desires are all bog standard.
>>82411526
What do you do for work? I'm strongly considering living with my parents til I save enough to retire in the Philippines or some other hyper low CoL country.

I have had a lot of luck with tinder, bumble and hinge. Only been in two serious relationships in the nearly ten years since my divorce, everything has else been FWB

I would say it is fairly easy if you are not a complete autist, it is like a video game these days

>>82411561
i was able to get with my looksmatch at least once surely its not impossible to recreate right..

>>82411450 (OP)
I did find one girl who wanted to fuck me years ago but i didnt have a car at the time and she lived like 40 miles away :( sucks too because she had a really nice ass. girls used to be easier to match with on okcupid back in like 2018

>>82411574
>divorce
does the crowd get looser as you age? are you past 30? i dont mind dating up in age but i thought it wouldnt be so difficult with my own peers (mid 20s)

>>82411574
>divorced boomer sluts on my /r9k/
Holy fuck lol. How do you end up here when you're so decrepit?
>>82411585
>only 1 girl wanted to fuck me :(((((
boohoo normalfaggot.

if you're above 30 just give up...

>>82411565
>What do you do for work?
i work for the government
>I'm strongly considering living with my parents til I save enough
good
>to retire in the Philippines or some other hyper low CoL country.
low cost of living = low quality of life

>>82411585
i seriously think the amount of women on apps has significantly shrunk since then. thats around the time i met my ex and i remember getting a decent amount of likes as a 4/10ish dude working retail

the phillipines=poor mans japan

>>82411592
>boohoo normalfaggot.
that was like 7 years ago and im still a virgin tho. havent been able to find a girl thats down to fuck ever since

>>82411609
its a shame so many of their women arent very pretty

>>82411596
You can spend ~20k/yr in ultra-low CoL countries and live relatively like a king (nice studio apartment, eat out all the time, can afford to uber/take decent public transportation anywhere nice, etc.).
>>82411609
If I was rich I would go someplace better, correct. The economy is horrendous in the U.S. rn.
>>82411615
How many irl rejections per month? 0 I'm guessing.

>>82411574
How old are you? Are you attractive/tall?

>>82411450 (OP)
"Hook up culture" is largely an egotistical lie from men and women both trying to seem less like losers and more worldly experienced without having to actually do a lot or obtain dating success. Every single guy I've worked with or acquainted with that bragged about how much "action he got" is always outed as a liar just making up stories and exaggerating to try to seem impressive. Most real world "friends with benefits" are usually people who were in a relationship and haven't really moved on so they still have a convoluted situation of using each other going on. The only fwb you're going to find as an average guy is if you pay for sex, a whore, or as they often call themselves these days "a numbers girl" (yes I've known actually females that call it this, numbers refering to money) they don't consider themselves "professional prostitutes" even though that's what they're doing just through their own network of people.

are you still young?

>>82411626
>0
Yeah, i dont approach women and i dont use dating apps these days. Im sure if I did I wouldnt have any luck, im kind of a loser
>>82411606
It might be your age, I think that the sweet spot for finding your looksmatch is like 21-25. Above that and youre competing with higher quality men who have more money/status, and the women get even pickier

>>82411645
there actually is a whore i used to see every few months but i thought that while im still youngish i really should try doing this normally, maybe itll help me end up more well adjusted? it also wasnt cheap and i wanted to cut my spending on retarded shit

>>82411678
what do you mean by youngish

I cant hook up with u since I have a serious boyfriend but you sound cute do you have discord? I'm kind of infamous and hated on 4chan doebeit.

Post discord i wanna befriend u

And yeah idk how to give u advice. I get permablocked and told to kms by many men but im still somewhat successful in dating/romance/ and hook ups. Tldr; men hate me but other men still date me irl and have sexual encounters with me

Things are different for men and women

>>82411669
the shrinking dating pool does occasionally freak me out but then i realize its probably already over for me anyways. some days i think i should just resolve things with my ex since i likely wont meet someone who is better than them anyways.
>21-25
im 24 now so i should probably get my shit together huh...

>>82411669
>a girl wanted to fuck me when I barely tried
>I don't try at all anymore lol
Most """in"""cels are like this. None of you would last a week being actually unlovable.

>>82411626
>The economy is horrendous in the U.S. rn
>he thinks the economy is better in a country that is despised by its citizens
foolish fool who foolishly fools

>>82411721
I'm saying "retire" in the Philippines or some place similar like Mexico, not to work there. Most people want to work till they're 67 then "retire" in a high CoL area and still pinch pennies. You can retire far earlier if you just live with your parents, save 90% of your income, then retire somewhere low CoL.

>>82411586
I should say I got married at 22 and divorced the next year, I am over 30 however. The girl I am seeing now just turned 28, but I have only slept with one older lady (35) on the apps. She said that as a 35 year old woman she did not feel like she had to lie and could come outright and say she wanted to have sex with someone, which is what we did the very first day I texted her.
I have had a beautiful fucking feminist girl who I did not fuck or even meet say that girls do not feel as though it is acceptable to come outright and say what they want due to peer pressure, essentially saying the same thing young girls are not going to be as loose as old maids

>>82411721
i work with like 20 Filipinos and they all speak highly of that place and say theyre just gonna stack their money and retire there. even they understand living here is way too expensive

>>82411678
You're right to cut out the wasteful spending and you'll get HPV or a worse STS if you keep using whores. Whores can be useful if you have no real sexual experience and want to understand it in the real world not your imagination. All that said you're not going to find a fwb or easy sex as an average man without paying. There's a reason so many guys of all ages are dropping out of the dating scene and giving up on women all together these days. If it was easy enough to get sex wouldn't guys just date to fuck around for their owm benefit? It's as I said it's been shilled in popular media so much most people don't want to admit it but "hook up culture" was largely a lie. I remember 10 years ago when Gen X and fellow Millennials were hyping "how easy it was to get laid on tinder bro" if you stuck around those people long enough you find out they're lying and are suicidal losers desperate for sex and attention as much as anyone can imagine. It's like those people that pretend to be upper middle class and so well off then you dig a little and they're in a lot of debt and live way beyond their means to seem better off than they are.

>>82411628
I am 31, I am short I think I am attractive otherwise though

>>82411704
Idk enough about your situation to give good advice, but I guess go for it lol. 24 is still pretty young, imo 30 is when things get really rough
>>82411707
Oh yeah? tell me what makes you a trucel then

>>82411758
How short are we talking? There's a big difference between 5'8 and 5'2.

>>82411769
5 foot 5 which I feel like is short enough to where it should really hurt but I have heard women are more single in my city (Atlanta), the only one I have ever been single in post-divorce

>>82411745
mootxico???!?!?

>>82411794
5'5
30+
dead end job
yeahh.... you've got it hard ngl lol

>>82411764
>but I guess go for it lol
i know for sure she isnt gonna be dating anyone anytime soon, we still keep in touch on a friendly basis. id still like to try and find someone new though, she is a good (well my only) backup

>>82411764
I'm not an incel I just defend them

>>82411922
sureeeeee
wwwwww

>>82411755
"Hookup culture" isn't a lie. ALL women participate in it as much as possible and that's how most women have body counts you need exponents for now as well as a few very attractive men. It exists, you just aren't welcome.

this is the true advice, as a girl

1.) be friends or ex friends with her ex who she hates. mainly works if they had an atrocious relationship/breakup

2.) be an authority figure of some sort, not like a cop but her tutor or something.

3.) give her drugs (prescription or illicit) and do risky shit in front of her

4.) find a girl who has a fetish for you. for example, if you are east asian, a weeby yellow fever victim. if you have an accent, lean into that.

5.) spend time walking or driving with a girl in a huge city at night. you sound american, so for advice, driving is better in LA, and walking is better in NYC. works like a charm, trust me. alcohol helps.

of course, you won't meet the love of your life this way, but you asked for hookups. also, this only works if you aren't hideous (fat/old looking) and if you aren't retarded. short works if the girl is short and doesn't care. and desu using dating apps at all, male or female, is kind of retarded.

>>82412157
>3.) give her drugs (prescription or illicit) and do risky shit in front of her
well i do have access to a pretty steady supply of adderall. not sure how i can leverage this though since i dont actually know any girls irl. i am near a university too.. ive thought about this before as a possible in but i feels a little scummy and is also illegal (but is it more illegal than having sex with whores for months?)

>>82412228
lmao im on adderall (i have a prescription, didn't fuck someone for it just to be clear) and i can tell you rn that college girls LOVE stimulants

>>82411450 (OP)
I want a fwb arrangement with a fembot but only online and never meeting.

this was never going to end any other way
i am just a fish.