>>82416957
Others are more tricky and rely on close watch with fine adjustments. When teaching her to cook she will likely be sous chef at most, one technique at a time, a side dish, finally a main. New techniques, side, main. As she learns she gets to take over the executive functions of the kitchen. Strict budget, only provide enough for household needs. She gets no allowance. But you reward frugality. You set the budget, but if she can arbitrage she keeps the difference. Obviously she can't skimp, if you're expecting a ribeye and you get pork loin that is an issue. But also don't make it hard. Toilet paper allotment, I'm going by the four pack price. If she realizes the 32 pack is cheaper per roll, she's growing and deserves to be rewarded. Ideally you want her to "find" at extra $200-400 each month in discretionary spending. She's probably spending it on the kids anyway.
Shekelfy the kids too, but less subtle carrot and sticks. Permanent time out sit in the corner 16 hours a day if they don't do anything. If they do chores then give generous allowance. If they take initiative and start their own thing on the side, be a bit more lax. But at minimum everyone eats so everyone is out there with garbage bags picking turnip greens.
Rites of passage: at 8 you get a pocket knife and lecture. Violation using knife results in a good beating that won't be forgot, but they keep the knife. Shotgun at 12. Where are you going/what's the life plan + beater car at 15, provided they file for hardship and get full license before 16. Rifle at 16. Handgun at 18, revisit life plan where are you going. Free ride through community College for a mini rumspringa. If they're still at home past 22 push them into a sort of sharecropper arrangement. Can't kick them out, but they'd be better off earning above median household income. Kicked out of the house but provide a cuckshed with the requirement you're just buying minimum to get it water, heat, and power. They figure out installing
