Thread 82426796

After insane amounts of struggle i landed myself a virgin cutie 3 years ago. She really just awesome and i suffered tremendously in my incelyouth bc i was alone and i had to selfimprove like crazy to get charismatic and get a good girl.
I did lots for that girl. Moved to 2 countries so i can be with her. Now we moved to the netherlands because i can get a family reunification paper for her here. But it drives me nuts. I live with here in this tiny, crampie place and all ever ever wish for every day all day is quiet time. I really cant handle being with somebody att. I need some time for myself or i get insane, stressed and overstimulated.
What the fuck i do? Chances to get another 18 year old with 34 are low and especially low considering how good the one is i have. But i just cant live like that!!!
Inb4 how got girls, sir?
I tried to tell this board few times but its hopeless, fuck off with that i really tried helping you tards.
Inb4: talk with her.. i did. Doesnt help
Also anybody know which anime character is pic related? Hes cute! (Hint)

Just talk to her and tell her about your needs bro... Mature relationship delevop and improve through honest and open dialogue... if you need your time tell her GENTLY that sometimes you need time to think and be by yourself to process your emotion and stuff, but do not put it in a way that she might feel she is the problem. There's no problem at all actually, I have a girlfriend and it happened several times that we slept in different rooms and yes, because we had different daily schedule, but also just to be by yourself, being and feeling your own energy and body and stuff. To me personally it's not just new age shit, but when i need alone time i just tell my girlfriend and she maturely accepts, even if we are idk on vacation together and I need one afrernoon of alone time. If she love you she will understand. Be grateful for what you have and try to not fuck it up. If your person need alone time, this is not going to change just because you changed partner, if this is really a trait of your personality, everyone is different and who loves you will understand when you are overwhelmed and need time to process by yourself. Sorry for my broken english but I hope you got the point

>>82426796 (OP)
>I tried to tell this board few times but its hopeless, fuck off with that i really tried helping you tards.
Tell us how you got her at your age.

By the way, honest question: you say nothing works, then why are you still asking to 4chan? If you asking it means you still have hope, so as we say in Italy, get the straw out of your ass, take responsibility and stop whining, or just leave her, I don't care man, it's not my relationship, but please try to be grateful, especially if you had so much struggle in the past. What is going to change if you change person? You know what they say, you may change the sky but not the stars, meaning, that even if you move, your problems will still be same, unless you work on yourself and try to understand what this "uncomfort " is trying to tell you

>>82426969
>Sorry for my broken english but I hope you got the point
No worries, thanks for replying.
Your right, another girl also would cause me to want to be alone sometimes..
I am and was open about this. I told her before we left that i will lose my mind if she cant give me space. I told her it drives me insane to be with others for too long. She promised shell give me space. But it didnt work

We'll, the age differs a lot so that's one point. Try to be grateful but at the same time don't be with a person just because you are afraid to be alone. Being with someone out of fear and not love is very dangerous. But this only you can know what your true feelings are... love can overcome almost anything except violence and abuse..

She won't be young forever. When she's lost her youth she'll still be blabbering your ear off ALL THE TIME.

>>82426796 (OP)
>a man after years of "suffering" from loneliness finally lands any girl
>keeps having mental issues
>maybe even worse mental issues than before
>tells himself he is lucky and has scored
>is afraid he'll lose her more than anything
what makes people that desperate? assuming it's not some kind of a bait

>>82427160
wait, nevermind
what the fuck is this thread?

>>82427132
>youth she'll still be blabbering your ear off ALL THE TIME.
She doesnt do that..

>>82427160
>>a man after years of "suffering" from loneliness finally lands any girl
>>keeps having mental issues
>>maybe even worse mental issues than before
>>tells himself he is lucky and has scored
WTF this is literally me. Relationships are depressing...

>>82427195
incels feel only 1% of the suffering that unhappy gf-havers feel

>>82427160
>A cute, intelligent virgin with balls of steel and insane willpower is "any girl"

>>82427047
Me not got where i am by giving up...
>What is going to change if you change person?
Yes. I dont want to change her

>>82427246
either that or you're simply idealizing her, people do that sometimes to rationalize these efforts required to get something
>intelligent
>balls of steel
are we talking about a woman?

>>82427187
>I need some time for myself or i get insane, stressed and overstimulated.
Sounds like it to me.
If she's actually quiet, then just go on a walk if you need the physical space to yourself as well.

>>82427264
I am really impressed by her mental strength att..
>to rationalize these efforts required
Oh i doubt id like to go back to be a scrawny, sick, anxious and depressed guy that is completely broke and drunk every day..
You cant imagine how much learning social skills improves your live. Its worth more then money. Also getting healthy.. same. My biggest expense last month was buying france state debt. I know what i talk about, i made it financially aswell. Improving yourself to be maybe able to have a family one day is worth it anyway, even if you never get a girl. But i said it already, im tired of explaing these things here, pleople hear dont wana hear that its in their hands to improve if they put in effort. I search advise for my current predicament. And some loners here can maybe understand me

>>82427357
>Oh i doubt id like to go back to be a scrawny, sick, anxious and depressed guy that is completely broke and drunk every day..
not a single of these things is caused by not having a gf
besides, judging by the fact that you "cant handle being with somebody att. I need some time for myself or i get insane, stressed and overstimulated."
I guess you're not that much better than before meeting her

>>82426796 (OP)
Posts like these make for better demoralization than the actual demoralization posts

>>82427522
"you will never have a girlfriend" is less sinister than "you will wish you'd never had a girlfriend"

>>82427009
>Now we moved to the netherlands because i can get a family reunification paper for her here
There's your answer. Easy to get a girl who wants citizenship in a 1st world country. The hard part is keeping her after she gets her citizenship and no longer has a use for you, which OP will unfortunately learn the hard way.