Thread 82458191

Have you ever made a good friend off this board?

>>82458191 (OP)
No, only bad friends that I don't speak to anymore.

>>82458191 (OP)
>this board
All of them are mentally ill and I guess I got "better" because they can't stand my positivity and words of affirmation

I made friends off of /int/ though
Some of them I've been talking to since last year

>>82458194
Well, if they were bad friends, it's probably for the best... I hope you have or find good friends though, wherever they may be from!!

>>82458235
I can relate to that... It's so sad, I only want to help but they write off so much of what I say as BS even though all the advice etc. I give is from first hand experiences.

I'm glad you've made some friends, anon!!

>>82458191 (OP)
another karen-anon thread?

the only person ive talked to from 4chan that wasnt the guy i like was this one alcoholic guy who was honestly really awful of a friend but i felt bad for him. i ended up blocking him cause he just became too much stress, but i did tell him why first

>>82458191 (OP)
any time i think i made a good friend they eventually hate me

>>82458254
I'd make threads more often if I had more ideas for them!

It's good you told him first, though I'm sure it still hurt him unfortunately... I hope he's working on his alcoholism. I've been relaxing on my own drinking, though I was never anywhere near having a problem with it, I just shouldn't drink for my health's sake! It's good you stood up for your own sanity and boundaries!!

>>82458191 (OP)
no every person i have added here stopped talking to me after a day or week

>>82458283
Are you sure they hate you, or do you just feel hated? What makes you think they hate you? And why would they?

>>82458191 (OP)
Yeah I made a irl fren off r9k or soc, he said he doesn't remember if he added me from r9k or soc. thanks r9k!!!

I'm chickn btw

>>82458292
So many cases of this... It's so hard to find people that stick, it can be really demotivating.

>>82458304
Wow, an irl friend!! That'd be pretty scary to me. How were you not scared they were going to stab you or something?

>>82458191 (OP)
I'm too scared to give my discord because I think they'll send gore, scat, or csam to me

>>82458319
After da first meet up it was obvious they were fren and not enemy

>>82458319
>So many cases of this... It's so hard to find people that stick, it can be really demotivating.
i have given up and accepted ill die without ever having a friend

>>82458326
This is unfortunately a rather rational fear...

>>82458327
I'm glad you didn't get stabbed, Nugget!!

>>82458332
I get where you're coming from, but also I feel like it's only a matter of time before someone sticks! Maybe give up for now, since I can totally get being demotivated, but try again in the future, when you have more energy and courage? I don't want you to quit for good, anon!!

fuck no, social /r9k/fags are the absolute worst people on this entire website, the only good robots are the ones who don't try to contact each other offboard. i've talked to a few girls from here longterm which naturally ended badly to no one's surprise, even though the few times i was feeling like making "robot friends" i was more interested in talking to other young disaffected males and playing video games and commiserating with them. the simp men who add people to messenger apps on /r9k/ are only interested in talking to you if you're a girl they can latently beg for sex. i still think the core of veteran /r9k/ users (males only) are mostly decent, but again, they're smart enough to keep to themselves.

>>82458191 (OP)
"good" friends don't keep me entertained very long.

>>82458369
What entertains you about a bad friend?!

Yeah I had two pretty good efriends I met on /r9k/ decades ago back in Skype/MSN threads.
We silently drifted apart (probably partly because of my obsession with a stupid MMO and partly because they had better things to do as well) and one day I just uninstalled skype without getting an alternate way to contact them.
I feel guilty for not being a better efriend after so many years. but I also kind of don't need people in my life.

>>82458191 (OP)
Fairly recently, yeah. Met an ex marine that I play vidya with. Chill ass dude.

Haven't met anyone else though. Had a couple of people add me just to ghost me.

>>82458376
they are usually crazy or have very unique interests. also when i get bored, i can ghost them and not care.

>>82458349
why bother after more than four tries

>>82458285
its always nice to see them even if it isnt often!!

it likely did, but it was necessary unfortunately. i dont think he'll ever work on it, cause he'd been a hard-core alcoholic for over half a decade at that point

thats great to hear tho! even if it wasnt a super bad issue, it is better for your health

Never. I wouldnt even know how to begin.

People associated to here don't see others as human beings. They abandon or be mean towards the people they care about. Emotionally dysregulated, flight or fight reactions and saying it's okay because they have problems. Honestly if you fitted everyone here with an impossible to remove shock collar that electrocuted them everytime they tried to ghost or act like a jerk, you'd cure most people's mental illnesses here as their lack of empathy would be overcome by associating doing hurtful things with being in pain.

>>82458254
You probably pushed them into a Leaving Las Vegas scenario now.

I used to have a friend group from this board but we all fell out of touch. The one I kept the longest ended up really disappointing me. He stole jewelry and weed from me so I ghosted him (yeah the dealer told me bro you think he wasn't gonna?)

>>82458385
Well, drifting apart does happen all the time for one reason or another... It's okay, I'm sure they enjoyed their time with you!

>>82458393
All it takes is one to really change things up!

>>82458397
Anon, you might be the "bad" friend...

>>82458401
Only four? That's not very much at all, anon... If I took into account all the amount of people I tried to make friends with in the past decade it would be something in the hundreds for sure! And few stick, but when they do it's really nice! But I personally don't get very demotivated when someone stops talking to me, I'm not a very lonely person to begin with, thankfully. It's rather rich get richer, now that I'm thinking about it...

>>82458402
I might drink tonight though. Tonight's my tabletop group's game night, and it's really fun to drink and get silly with it. I'll try not to go too overboard like 2 weeks ago. (I drank like a liter of whiskey, it was bad)

>>82458419
If I have a good conversation with people, sometimes they'll ask how to keep in contact, like discord or sometimes burner emails for the slightly more paranoid. It's pretty rare unless you're in a thread that's specifically for friend making though, which is more for /soc/ anyway. You could always be the person that asks! Though I get not being brave enough or not motivated enough to.

>>82458444
I dunno, I've met some really thoughtful and empathetic people here that were just very sad and a little awkward. Though that's not to say you're right about many of the cases here... Finding that diamond in the rough feels really satisfying, but it's definitely going to be hard.

>>82458453
What happened with the rest of the group? Just normal drifting apart?
>He stole jewelry and weed from me
Damn... Was the rest of the group the kind of people to do that?

>>82458459
>I'm not a very lonely person to begin with, thankfully. It's rather rich get richer, now that I'm thinking about it...
thats why it doesnt harm you
i have never had a single friend

>>82458191 (OP)
I come here to be anonymous, I've never contacted someone from this site outside of this site

>>82458459
>All it takes is one to really change things up!
Indeed. Might be adding him to a pen and paper game I run too. I still troll here looking for interesting people. May find another some day.

>>82458459
>It's pretty rare unless you're in a thread that's specifically for friend making though, which is more for /soc/ anyway.

it isn't "more for /soc/ anyway," it's entirely the preserve of /soc/ and has nothing to do with /r9k/, which is supposed to be an original posts only board with a view to creating more original content by imposing such limits on users. attentionwhoring is so discouraged (or was, before jannies all became trannies and started letting the worst offenses fly) that there's a sticky on the front page explicitly telling you not to post real life pictures of yourself or other users. threads encouraging offboard contact are quickly pruned and you can get a 3 day ban for posting your discord tag if someone reports it.

it just so happens that the meta-community that formed around /r9k in the 2010s / was all about feeling dispossessed of your station in life, social awkwardness and alienation from the ingroup which was expressed in greentexts and relatable memes which brought a very particular type of person here, then all the nu-/r9k/ blood came and turned this board into a race fetishist lgbt drugfag shithole full of the most insufferable faggots ever and the rest is history

>>82458459
you honestly seem like a really boring fake bitch

>>82458492
It's true, I hope good things come your way though, anon.

>>82458495
It makes sense!!

>>82458507
I'm part of the mid 2010's crowd and it feels like it's the same since then, other than when the script was off for a while there... I wonder what it was like before it all.

>>82458514
I wouldn't say fake, but I would admit boring!! I blame growing older.

Most people I've met on 4chan have been quite nice and there are some I still talk to years later.
One was some dude with BPD and he was the single worst person I've ever met in my entire life.

>>82458890
>One was some dude with BPD and he was the single worst person I've ever met in my entire life.
many have said this about me

>>82458976
many have also said this about me
don't get too stressed over it

>>82458191 (OP)
never made a friend on the internet

>>82458248
Some folks just don't want to be helped, anon
I *could* be more patient, handle them with *more* care, but if they decide to just ghost me? Then what else can I do but move on

>>82459011
But I always want to save all my friends from everything ever! Just because I can't doesn't mean I shouldn't try!!!!
But yeah I do need to be more realistic in general...

i fucking hate when people set their status to offline on shitcord just saying

Yeah. I'll never see my friend again though

>>82459068
You will. You always run into him again.

>>82459073
I won't, trust me

>>82459140
You already did. You said you wouldn't before, yet here we are.

>>82458191 (OP)
Yeah but he deleted his account or something due to irl drama. It hurt because I felt like I could chat with someone about my dogshit life for the first time ever but it is what it is. What sucks more is that I'm bitter, jaded and can't put effort into anything now and will probably never have that kind of friendship again.

>>82458191 (OP)
Yeah and then they ghosted me. Happens every single time.

>>82458191 (OP)

No, but I haven't been back on here in ages, so...

>>82458191 (OP)
no and ive been on 4chan since 2005. never not once
this place isnt for friends

>>82458191 (OP)
Yes but that was in 2012

How can any1 make friends on 4chan?

>>82459068
This. Where are those I care about? I wish I could see them again.