Thread 82467612

Im scared of being touched or getting affection, it unnerves me or makes me anxious

>>82467612 (OP)
What if I touched you, Anon? What would you do if I touched you cock with my hand and started to jerk you off slowly >_<

>>82467628
Ehh please dont. Ive only ever been with one girl and even being close to her just made me want to push her away

>>82467646
>Ive only ever been with one girl and even being close to her just made me want to push her away

Oh, are you gay or something? I'm sorry I said what I said.

>>82467668
No not at all lol, I love women and often fantasize about being in a relationship Im just really fucked up mentally and cannot handle affection, I feel like I might seize up or break down or something

>>82467612 (OP)
Yeah, just remember that your aversion to affection is totally justified because 90% of long-term relationships end with the woman just making more and more demands of the man to do things for her while doing less and less for him so you really truly are not missing out on much

>>82467697
Oh, well I'm sorry to hear that, Anon. Have you tried talking to a therapist about your problems? They might be able to help you.

>>82467718
I think thats the case logically but I dunno, sometimes I feel the deep need to want love regardless, even if most of the people out there are not great. For a while I really wanted women to rape me just because I feel like I would be really wanted even if its just as an object

>>82467735
I have been recently yeah. I actually got pulled off a military course for an unrelated mental thing that happened so Ive been getting help slowly but I wonder how deep seated it is, since I think its rooted in childhood shit that Id rather forget happened.

I'm not SCARED of being touched, I just hate sex because its conservative bullshit. I wish females would date incels like me and would be ok with a nice normal equal affectionate relationship, just without the horrid sex garbage that they always want

>>82467767
Oh, well, I hope that you're able to recover and succeed, Anon. Somethings in life can feel like they're impossible to overcome, but with courage and strength we as people are able to push through and become better and heal.

>>82467792
Thank you anon, you are nice and made me feel a bit better.

>>82467612 (OP)
Same, I was bullied relentlessly growing up. In one occasion a group of guys grabbed me and stripped me naked in front of the whole class.

Never recovered and can't be naked in front of other people, and I'm deeply afraid of being touched or make emotional connections.

>>82467744
Yeah this is exactly why you need to forget about sex as a value
>>82467767
Sorry you have to deal with that anon. If you are trying normal therapy make sure to be strict with who you choose and make sure you get actual results. Too many therapists are just kind of lazy

>>82467818
Im sorry to hear about that man, people can be fucking assholes. My situation was kind of the opposite, my parents homeschooled me and neglected me growing up in addition to some heavy guilt they instilled regarding sex and being around women so I just never got accustomed to affection, I just feel more accustomed to punishment or fear or anger than being touched or cared for

>>82467612 (OP)
I'm going to touch you, chuddy chud chud

>>82467828
I dunno, in my mind I just see sex as the highest form of love or loving someone in a non platonic form.my therapist is okay though, she has been challenging shit Ive said but work on past stuff is slow, since I dont really vibe with the idea of loving your past self or whatever, I fucking hate myself if I saw myself on the street Id cave his head in right then and there

>>82467859
Dont get those grubby fucking fingers anywhere close to me

>>82467839
yeah it sucks, especially if you're a man since you're supposed to be the one who leads and makes women comfortable.

>>82467914
Too late
I'm like, 5 minutes away

>>82467929
Absolutely, it is what it is I guess. Just gotta keep beating my head against the wall until something changes, even though there is something fundamentally wrong not with what Im doing but what I am

>>82467868
Sounds like your therapist is at least being useful in some way so that's good

>>82467786
No you don't get it chud if your gf isn't having sex with you at least 3 times a week that means you're not le sexually satisfying her bro and she's also fucking other guys.

Sorry for that reply, I feel the same way. People care too much about sex and women are whores who just want to be creampied all day.