Thread 82510108

is it possible to be happy as an adult male with high functioning autism?

>>82510108 (OP)
I guess if you are financially set.

>>82510108 (OP)
>with high functioning autism
At what age were you diagnosed?

>>82510108 (OP)
Just play Factorio.

>>82510108 (OP)
>is it possible to be happy as an adult male with high functioning autism?
It more about realizing you are not a normie, and the things normies value are not the things you value, you have simply been told that so long you have internalized it.

>>82510108 (OP)
high functioning means you can get your hierarchy of needs met entirely
if you're asking that question you aren't high functioning

>>82510152
Are you implying that the needs of NTs and non-NTs are the same? Are they?

>>82510152
high functioning means you're just able to do general things without assistance

ITT: clueless non autists giving advice

>>82510108 (OP)
No. Even when things are going well, I haven't felt happiness since I was a small child.

>>82510108 (OP)
No. At most you can get a STEM job and have income if the cards align right. No one will ever stick around by you, or care about you in a significant manner. People will see you as what you can do for them or a piggy bank.

>>82510212
It is always like this I just ignore them. No point in talking with them they can not give any advice since they act, think and value completely differnt things to us.

>>82510257
this is basically where I am in life. 31 years old. Just ignore what people say completely about how I should live or what will make me happy.

>>82510146
>and the things normies value are not the things you value
This is the most important part to actually be happy. If you are coming from the normie approach to life, you will be wretchedly, rottenly miserable. You can't be a normie and they will never, EVER accept you on any level.

Do exactly what you want, how you want to do it, and don't tell anyone anything. Every normie is waiting to judge your life, tell them nothing. Do your job and ignore their words, treat their mouth sounds like the bleating of sheep. It means nothing to you.

Want to fill your apartment with WW2 model planes? Do it. Do it until you're satisfied. Even if it takes 30 years. Whatever thing you do that makes you satisfied while you're doing it, do it and don't stop.

Your happiness comes from within. Search for happiness in other people and you will find none. Scorn. Rejection. Hate. Don't do it. We warned you. Ride your autism train to the grave (or alternately come here and whine sometimes, I do.) and keep your mouth shut, or get ready to be the fucking Quasimodo of your community.

>>82510243
so just average man life then?

>>82510108 (OP)
He's looking at her

>>82510502
Dangerously based. At best, normies will tolerate you, but only if you mask nonstop.

>>82510502
Im starting to notice its this, people never stay, its hard to get people to stick and they forget you, I was friends with a group of dudes my entire time as school from being young, stayed in a groupchat until like 24 and I didn't say too much but one time a dude randomly said ''I genuinely cant remember who you are ngl'' in a half joking way but they couldnt remember shit about me. After 3 failed relationships I am now going to attempt to be completely self sufficient, I spent 19 years being sad and on my own, 29-24 trying to normiemaxx and it half worked but I was never one of them, I had experiences but it never stuck, I will now truly accept this.

>>82510502
the most mind bending thing to me is that normies aren't actually pretending to be normal. Like for the most part they just wake up and genuinely be themselves in the world for most of the day. Yes, there are the social masks etc and I understand they aren't totally unmasked, but the idea that they don't have to spend any energy monitoring whether they just said something weird, walked weird, did something in a strange way etc is so alien to me I can't even imagine not having to do it.

I'm not even that extreme of an autist. I can be natural in some social situations but it's very context dependent.
But I know that in most cases if I just let myself truly be "myself" I will almost instantaneously say something extremely bizarre and be cast to the weirdo bin forever by that person. This is what has made the "normal" adult world an absolute hell for me.

I've seen some stuff and apparently it all comes down to "thin slicing" behaviour. You can have a perfect normalfag mask on 99% of the time but if they see that 1% they will be able to detect you're a complete autist, because neurotypicals aren't masking at all. Thus have no 1%
That tracks with the last place I worked where I had an almost immaculate normalfag mask most of the time that I honed but people still treated me like a complete autist because occasionally it'd slip and I'd say or do something really odd

>>82510760
Your examples are a textbook case of Asperger's. One can mitigate it with acquired knowledge and experience, but it truly never really goes away.

>>82510108 (OP)
>is it possible to be happy as an adult male
No. Grow up and get used to it. Cope and survive how you can like everybody else your suffering isn't unique or special.

just want to point out that "high functioning" and "asperger's" were eventually merged together and are now known as level 1 of the autism spectrum disorder

>>82510551
Much worse. They will be very competent at what they do, and will get taken advantage of by coworkers who can't perform and be paid less than their peers while doing more of the real work. Outside of what you can do, people behind your back will think you are weird and you will be othered from everyone unless they want something.

>>82510784
feels like everything I try in life is just utterly pointless. Like there are things I can do to mitigate suffering a little (exercise, eat well, hobbies), but no matter what, at the end of the day I'll be a sperg incapable of adapting to my environment in a meaningful way.
The real curse of this is being so close, yet so far. You can almost taste being a normal person but never quite get there.
It's just pure existential cruelty. I don't think I genuinely mean this. But it'd almost be better off being full retard

>>82510108 (OP)
I don't think so. I work in IT which means my autism is relatively tolerated and my material needs are satisfied. I learned what to tell normies to get them to like me but deep inside I can't stop craving someone to love me which isn't going to happen. Every day is a torture because I'm a 30 yo adult man but I can't even imagine the idea of being in a relationship which honestly is very pathetic.

>>82510108 (OP)
Sure, just hang out with queer punks :-)