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Anonymous No.82784471 >>82784684 >>82785000 >>82785127 >>82785604 >>82785636 >>82785902 >>82785992 >>82786571 >>82788034 >>82788106 >>82788488
30 year old or older virgins, have you just given up on losing your virginity?
>tfw you're 38
>never ever kissed or dated either
Anonymous No.82784684 >>82785325
>>82784471 (OP)
i don't care anymore, it stopped bothering me for some reason.
Anonymous No.82784805
>given up

I never wanted to in the first place. I've always based my life around avoiding other people as much as possible, and I try my best not to form any kind of relationships with other people. Sex and all other forms of affection especially repulse me on a visceral level.
Anonymous No.82785000 >>82785105 >>82785385
>>82784471 (OP)
scale is inaccurate, here's the canon one

>younger than 14
you're probably poor and/or nonwhite
>14-15
you're probably just high T and/or attractive
>16-17
was normal in the 2000s, but this is slightly early in currentyear. You're probably not ugly or socially retarded
>18-19
current average, you have normal levels of social retardation
>20-22
this is the second to last train. If you haven't lost it by the time you're out of college, then you have serious social issues. Chances of ever losing it are low at this point, but it's still doable if you try really hard
>23-25
legitimately the last train. If you haven't had sex by the time your brain is fully developed, your chances of doing so without seeing a whore are negligible. They'll continue to decrease exponentially over time, but it's the difference between .00001% and .000000001%. Both are basically zero
Anonymous No.82785105 >>82785446 >>82785604
>>82785000
honestly the real problem for an average looking male with social anxiety boils down to availability of females in relation to spaces said male occupies

if he is out of college, not working or works in a male-dominant environment, all his hobbies are online or devoid of women, then he is never going to encounter opportunities to meet women. this will create a chain reaction where the longer he remains isolated from females the more discouraged and disconnected he will become from the very concept of interacting with them in the first place

the only fix to this problem is rapid exposure therapy, the virgin must be flung head first out of his comfort zone and forcibly integrated into environments populated by females. it must turn into a game of numbers. even if 99% of women reject the virgin, if he is asking nonstop every day, he will inevitably find an acceptable mate to perform the deed with in a relatively short amount of time

this is why you see retarded autistic faggots with girlfriends sometimes like pic related. if you have absolutely no shame and are oblivious to the fact that nobody wants you around them, eventually you will find someone willing to tolerate you enough to take your miserable smelly virgin penis
Anonymous No.82785127
>>82784471 (OP)
Have they invented a way to be swallowed alive and full toured cleanly?
No?
Then shut up I dont care.
Anonymous No.82785172
I've said this before but I genuinely think it's something that's not physically possible in this universe. It doesn't even bother me anymore because I genuinely do not believe it's real.
Anonymous No.82785311
I cant even be with a woman or even become gay. Failed the troon phase, never been friend zoned, never had a boob hug, always rejected by friend groups for being open or too quiet, been through lots of psych wards of having mania, forced meds on me that fucked up my brain. Now too oblivious to feel anything. My docs say I will die from early dementia soon, thank god.
Anonymous No.82785325
>>82784684
that's very naive of you. it doesn't matter if YOU care, the only thing that matters is that OTHERS care. that's why you will keep hearing about on this board.
Anonymous No.82785385 >>82785561 >>82787643
>>82785000
I lost my virginity at 28, its never over bros. Wasn't a whore just a girl on Tinder
Anonymous No.82785446 >>82786553
>>82785105
>the only fix to this problem is rapid exposure therapy, the virgin must be flung head first out of his comfort zone and forcibly integrated into environments populated by females. it must turn into a game of numbers. even if 99% of women reject the virgin, if he is asking nonstop every day, he will inevitably find an acceptable mate to perform the deed with in a relatively short amount of time

Where can someone find these environments? My experience is that men, and especially men with poor social skills, are NOT welcome in female-dominated spaces. If OP shows up at a Yoga class and starts awkwardly talking to women he's going to be booted in record time. Even if places with a more balanced ratio close to 50/50 like a party or a club, of a guy starts making girls feel unsafe or just awkward he's going to get kicked.
Anonymous No.82785561 >>82785571
>>82785385
I get 0 matches though
Anonymous No.82785571
>>82785561
I took a picture of myself shirtless try doing that
Anonymous No.82785604
>>82784471 (OP)
I gave up decades ago but it still hurts
>>82785105
if he's out of college, it's fucking over
Anonymous No.82785636
>>82784471 (OP)
yes
but you get an achievement for never having sex
and only shame for losing it so late
Anonymous No.82785902 >>82785960
>>82784471 (OP)
What should be my first spell to cast when I become a wizard? I think it's customary to cast either lightning bolt or firebolt.
Anonymous No.82785960 >>82785979
>>82785902
Summon succubus.
Anonymous No.82785979
>>82785960
I don't know by what authority, but I'm pretty sure succubi are "male" demons who disguise themselves as females. That's gay.
Anonymous No.82785992
>>82784471 (OP)
>30 year old or older virgins
The real +30 thread!
Anonymous No.82786553
>>82785446
its a tough situation, Im 32 and was speaking from experience. it does seem impossible because it feels like you arent welcome anywhere anymore at this age

what I decided to do was to override the rules that barred me being around other people in the first place, I started a speed dating event for young adults to not only insert myself into environments with women but to also automatically belong there and be the authoritative figure

honestly it was the biggest fucking brain move ive ever had in my whole life, but you kinda need to not be a total retard to make it work, try to have at least some social skills and looks obviously
neptune !!oR5JntD5E5m No.82786571 >>82786596
>>82784471 (OP)
mfw no 30+ khhv man to play dnd with me :[
Anonymous No.82786596 >>82786603
>>82786571
dnd is for tranny zoomers, 30+ play pathfinder or oldschool 3.5
neptune !!oR5JntD5E5m No.82786603 >>82786695
>>82786596
my previous dm went on to do pathfinder, but idk anything about it. what's different about it vs dnd? i have like 0 knowledge about anything tabletop
Anonymous No.82786695
>>82786603
Nearly everything (skills, combat maneuvers, class abilities etc) has specific, written mechanics. Heavy focus on character building and optimization. Over a dozen base classes + a dozen more hybrid classes plus hundreds of archetypes, thousands of feats, traits, and class features to customize character builds, freedom to multiclass and stack archetypes and class features, Dozens of separate skills with ranks assigned every level. Characters gain skill points and feats often which encourage build planning and long term progression and metagaming. Detailed rules for attacks of opportunity, flanking, combat maneuvers (trip, grapple, bull rush, etc.). Full-round, standard, move, swift, immediate actions. (Instead of just Action, Bonus Action, Reaction, Movement). Huge scaling numbers on pretty much everything, power fantasy to the max.

In pathfinder you cant just do something amazing because you think it would be cool if your character did it, there is literally a rule and system for everything and you need to invest in your character to perform feats that are beyond normal human capabilities. For example, in DnD you can usually get away with telling your DM you have your character do a backflip off the wall and plunge your sword into the dragon's eye to blind it. In pathfinder, you need to actually take your move action, pass acrobatics, pass your attack roll, deal damage, have a feat that allows you to blind on a simple attack (yeah right) and by the way you get AoO'd and knocked out of it anyway because the dragon threatens the vertical spaces you have to move through to do your stupid backflip.

That might sound incredibly lame but the gatekeeping and "rule for everything" is what makes building a character that CAN actually do ridiculously broken things like that so rewarding. In DnD its just storytelling with light RPG mechanics, Pathfinder is an actual RPG
Anonymous No.82786729 >>82787517
>mid 30s
I've largely given up. I watched everyone I know seemingly get married or start having kids now. At this point, most the weddings have dried up. Even the most awkward kids from my childhood seemingly have families now. The fact I've never even been in a relationship by comparison makes me think something must be fundamentally wrong with myself. No amount of introspection reveals anything. I know it's not an appearance thing, as I am more fit (got fit in late 20s) than most I know. can also rule out differing environments and the like. I am not that awkward. I can at least put on a fake mask and uncomfortably get by. I really don't know what it is, other than a lack of effort on my part. But, relationships are a two way street. No interest has been reciprocated back to me.

I've never tried dating. I view myself as having nothing to offer, which I base on the fact that no girl has approached me (except one). I've hinted to a few women that I like about interest. I am never considered an option to them. no friends after isolating out of a sense of shame for years now. Feel unable to relate when most have kids. Always thought things would happen by chance. Never did. Became more avoidant with age.

I had one girl interested at work ~30. I didn't want to make things awkward there though. Mostly, it was a personality incompatibility. the girl was mentally ill, already divorced, political diff - etc. I did consider it, but I kept my distance a bit. At the time, that led to my first/only kiss and such. I think she gave up, as I avoided due to sensing the incompatibility and feeling too inadequate. Told her she deserves better.

I still hope things might happen by chance, but I view myself as undeserving at this point. I take the lack of interest (except by my desperate coworker) as a sign of my worthlessness. I just continue saving for a future I don't want to see. social life has collapsed. always felt like an outsider. now that feeling is eroding my career.
Anonymous No.82786733
I have no interest in DND beyond it originally being a wargame. I don't want to engage in creative storytelling I want to strategize with a finite set of limited actions that were established before the game even started.
Anonymous No.82787517
>>82786729
> no friends after isolating out of a sense of shame for years now.
>I've hinted to a few women that I like about interest.
>always felt like an outsider.
However
>I am not that awkward.
You're definitely awkward. You've mentioned multiple times about your lack of self-worth, that you have abysmal social connections and that you aren't "putting yourself out there" (which is different for everyone.
You also don't really mention anything about yourself aside from the fact you are fit & have a job.
You also contradict yourself with
>I've largely given up.
>I've never tried dating
Either you've attempted dating and failed (giving up) or you never dated and thus never had any thing to give up
> No amount of introspection reveals anything.
You've possibly waited until your 30's, after your friend groups vanished before asking these questions to anyone else. Or atleast until you've been given a proper answer
Anonymous No.82787643
>>82785385
>she did it for free
Anonymous No.82787765 >>82788125
>be me
>since elementary school i have been the akward nerdy kid
>everyone was disgusted by me, and bullyed me to oblivion
>grow up isolated and with an inferiority complex
>this keeps up until highschool
>puberty hit. Become attractive
>brain is too fried by being bullyed and looking gross all my life, that now when a girl approach me, i think she just want to make fun of me

Ffw to my 20ies

>got a very nice group of friends
>become less akward in public
>still don't know how to approach girls
>depression hit

Ffw now

>30y kissless virgin
>never had a relationship
>realize all the opportunity i missed because of my retard brain
>stop carring
>have a job, a house and a car
>spend all day playing or hanging out with friends
>life feels ok

So this was the magic of the 30y virgin uh
Anonymous No.82788034
>>82784471 (OP)
Stopped caring after ~25. I used to be able to control my depression until I burned out from work and now it feels like my brain is in a blender constantly.
Anonymous No.82788106 >>82788194 >>82788214
>>82784471 (OP)
There's a certain point where the social damage is a fixed part of your life forever. You don't "bounce back" from extreme isolation throughout all of your adolescence. You don't learn how to have romantic relationships in your 20s, how the fuck would that work?

Undiagnosed and untreated ADHD really fuck you up and leave you without any real executive function. I'm almost middle aged and slowly learning to be responsible enough to take care of myself.

Every day is a struggle, the sex thing is so far away from my actual problems it's like asking me why I haven't been on safari in Africa. Gee, I dunno, maybe I'm barely hanging on to living indoors and I don't think about shit that will never ever happen.
Anonymous No.82788125 >>82788194
>>82787765
>have a job, a house and a car
>spend all day playing or hanging out with friends
Sounds pretty great all things considered.
Anonymous No.82788194
Yeah i second this >>82788106
>sex thing is so far away from my actual problems it's like asking me why I haven't been on safari in Africa

>>82788125

It is good but i have a lot of stuff to do. The idea of having someone to engage constantly makes me want to kill myself. And i don't crave sex or affections anymore. I crave the 4/5 hours of free time per day i have to play vidya. I guess at some point you just stop carrying about love
Anonymous No.82788214
>>82788106
This is how I feel about relationships even tho I've had sex before. I don't know how to talk to people and that's why I'm alone. When I think about relationships they feel like a far off thing like a owning a Ferrari
Anonymous No.82788407
I somehow avoided becoming a wizard last minute and lost my virginity at 29. I'm 38 now in a new area. Contemplating shooting out a bunch of messages to women to see if they want to hang. If I get declined I'll just crank one out, no biggie.
Anonymous No.82788488
>>82784471 (OP)
I haven't given up hope, but I don't want it to just be to some random woman. I want to be loved by a woman and not just fuck whores. It feels bad that no one has ever wanted me or been attracted to me; if I gave up it might hurt less but I don't know how.