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Anonymous No.82794214 >>82794233 >>82794272 >>82794298 >>82794305 >>82794307 >>82794326 >>82794370 >>82794410 >>82794438 >>82794458 >>82794520 >>82794553 >>82794691 >>82794765 >>82794813 >>82794977 >>82795353 >>82795369 >>82795756
My BF is dirt poor
Please help.

I met this awesome guy online and we meet twice a year. He lives in Boston and I'm from Portland Oregon. He is my first BF

But he is literally jobless and I have to pay for his tickets and food every time

I'm disgusted by women who only like men for money. I am happy to pay as long as he loves me back

He keeps promising to try to find work so we can get married

Should I stay with him?
Anonymous No.82794229 >>82794243 >>82794776 >>82795468
Chad can be poor, dirty, homeless and still get a gf who loves him. Meanwhile autistic men can have a stable job, clean and life on their own and get nothing.
Anonymous No.82794233 >>82794259
>>82794214 (OP)
man back in my day BAIT used to be BELIEVABLE
Anonymous No.82794243 >>82794253
>>82794229
I think he is autistic though. He is awkward I just don't care because I love him.
Anonymous No.82794253 >>82794280
>>82794243
He is chad he can be whatever he wants women will still love him no matter what.
Anonymous No.82794259 >>82794305
>>82794233
Sad bitches are desperate enough to date broke losers
Anonymous No.82794272
>>82794214 (OP)
Tits or gtfo you baiting nigger
Anonymous No.82794280 >>82794311 >>82794327 >>82794353 >>82794354 >>82794880
>>82794253
He is at most 7/10 but has horrible under eye bags and depression and he has no nice clothes. It's just I believe we can make a marriage work someday.

He literally said he loves me and I believe him.

If I just wanted a "Chad" I could go find one. My BF and I see eye to eye on politics and anime and worldview.

This is a partnership from the heart not from pure stupid animalistic lust.
Anonymous No.82794298 >>82794326
>>82794214 (OP)
>Portland Oregon

A foid... from my city?.. impossibru...
Anonymous No.82794305 >>82794328 >>82794428
>>82794214 (OP)
Dump him. You have a good attitude, but I've known lifelong (25+ year old) neets who instantly started working in fast food after meeting a chick they liked online. I bet his living situation is awful and that he can barely take care of himself.

>>82794259
yes. :(
Anonymous No.82794307
>>82794214 (OP)
>I'm disgusted by women who only like men for money.
>Should I stay with him?
Anonymous No.82794311
>>82794280
>It's just I believe we can make a marriage work someday.
lolol crazy how insane foids are, like this is so stupid I'm still convinced it's bait
Anonymous No.82794326 >>82794347
>>82794214 (OP)
holy shit Portland fembot what high school did you go to i might know you

>>82794298
how are there 3 of us in this thread
also you too nigga what high school you go to
Anonymous No.82794327 >>82794335
>>82794280
Before I can give you advice, how old are you two?
Anonymous No.82794328 >>82794479
>>82794305
He is severely depressed and has no support or family. I love him way way too much to abandon him but we have to make this work somehow.
Sigh
Anonymous No.82794335 >>82794399 >>82794404 >>82794479
>>82794327
Late 20s him mid 30s me
Anonymous No.82794347
>>82794326
OP here

I was homeschooled and it's why I only do online dating
Anonymous No.82794353 >>82794377
>>82794280
wtf?? why are you talking about me like that?
We need to talk.
Anonymous No.82794354 >>82794383 >>82794389
>>82794280
>This is a partnership from the heart not from pure stupid animalistic lust
>ummm we both like the same anime ok
chad doesnt even have to try
Anonymous No.82794370
>>82794214 (OP)
Being NEET in MA is pretty good desu. I can see why he doesn't want to better his situation.
Anonymous No.82794377
>>82794353
He isn't ashamed he knows he isn't perfect. I'm just not superficial enough to care about those minor flaws.
Anonymous No.82794383
>>82794354
We both love Golden Boy and Great Teacher Onizuka

Only the best 90s anime

He has taste
Anonymous No.82794389
>>82794354
So is OP treating her BF like a chad or not? I'm confused...
Anonymous No.82794399 >>82794406 >>82794497
>>82794335
>mid 30s fembot in my city
are you into hopeless romantic early 20s nerdy white guys that don't watch porn
Anonymous No.82794404 >>82794415
>>82794335
oh then it's fine and actually expected for you to be the wallet. I don't understand the problem
Anonymous No.82794406 >>82794416
>>82794399
No

Only my BF who is late 20s. He is my king. Sorry. My heart belongs to him forever probably unless he dumped me.
Anonymous No.82794410 >>82794432
>>82794214 (OP)
is he promising to start looking for work at some point or is he actually looking for work and promising to succeed? big difference. If he's actually doing something to find work then stay, if he's just talking about looking then go.
Anonymous No.82794415 >>82794428 >>82794440 >>82794441 >>82794628
>>82794404
It's not fair

He flies out for free eats free and then ... I'm worried he sees me as just free sex and food and it's making me insecure.

What if he leaves me?
Anonymous No.82794416
>>82794406
I respect you for that. I hope it works out
Anonymous No.82794428
>>82794415
I agree with >>82794305
I'm a NEET of almost 4 years, but if I got a gf I would have a job the same week
I don't think this guy appreciates you enough
Anonymous No.82794432 >>82794446 >>82794452 >>82794471 >>82794809
>>82794410
He says he is too depressed to look hard for work since both his parents died. He has PTSD from trauma and wakes up sometimes making loud noises and talks to himself loudly

I'm trying to help rehabilitate him

He is Irish American if that helps
Anonymous No.82794438 >>82794446
>>82794214 (OP)
Is he looking for any work or something specific to a degree? If the latter I can somewhat sympathize as a compsci fag.
Anonymous No.82794440 >>82794467
>>82794415
I wish I had answers for you femanon, If I was in his position and I had someone who cared about me like you I wouldn't take it for granted. I'm not sure if it's just his depression holding him back.
Anonymous No.82794441
>>82794415
well yeah ofc he doesn't love you if he did he would've gotten a job and tried to make a real future for you two. He might leave you when he finds a younger girl he actually feels motivated by, but you already knew all of this.
Anonymous No.82794446
>>82794438
See >>82794432 this is where I answered this already
Anonymous No.82794452 >>82794480
>>82794432
>both of my parents die
>Older bitch gf says I don't appreciate her because I'm too depressed to get a job

gang, should I leave her?
Anonymous No.82794458
>>82794214 (OP)
My cousin has a relationship kinda like this. Ended up having a daughter with the guy, broke up multiple times as they had issues. The guy never changed, most likely because she let him.
My childhood friend had a girlfriend that was like this, it didn't work out either and she also never changed.
Anonymous No.82794467 >>82794487 >>82794508 >>82794537
>>82794440
He claims to have extreme depression and trauma and I believe him
Anonymous No.82794471 >>82794503
>>82794432
Only if one of his parents was actually from Ireland, otherwise he is American with Irish roots.
Anonymous No.82794479 >>82794495
>>82794335
>>82794328
that's a fucking hobo you're fucking
Anonymous No.82794480
>>82794452
Ouch this is kind of mean. I am doing my best OK
Anonymous No.82794487 >>82794509
>>82794467
fembot you sound really nice, but every single person here has trauma and depression
and I think I can speak for every guy in this thread when I say we would NOT be acting like this if we had gfs
Anonymous No.82794495
>>82794479
He isn't homeless though. So no.
Anonymous No.82794497
Jesus christ you faggots are pathetic, can't stand a guy having a nice thing can you? Especially this crab right here >>82794399.
You'll forever remain in that bucket btw
Anonymous No.82794503 >>82794523 >>82794557
>>82794471
His family are Irish Catholic from Boston

Its his culture
Anonymous No.82794508
>>82794467
I live in the area, want me to go talk/beat/suck some sense into him?
Anonymous No.82794509
>>82794487
I had a gf and I acted like this, it doesn't really change you like how you would think. it takes the right girl to actually make a difference.

OP, when you really love someone you're willing to change for them. And I've only ever changed for the girls that I've actually loved.
Anonymous No.82794520 >>82794529 >>82794538
>>82794214 (OP)
you are such a stupid, worthless bitch for paying for a moids expenses and looking down on smart women that only use them. you doing this for a moid tells me you must be especially fugly, too. i hope he genuinely cheats on you every day and leaves you.
Anonymous No.82794523
>>82794503
I fuckin hate Irish people. Dump him
Anonymous No.82794529 >>82794538 >>82794545 >>82794551
>>82794520
I'm good looking enough because he loves me back. So you are wrong.

I'm happy to pay because it's LOVE
Anonymous No.82794537 >>82794613
>>82794467
You know those relationships where the girl is being abused horrifically but stays because he threatens to kill himself and "has no one else"? This is textbook how they start
Anonymous No.82794538
>>82794520
You're a dumb bitch that's going to end up getting beat by some npd chud you're obsessed with

>>82794529
he doesn't love you back, all the evidence points towards it. But are you ok with that?
Anonymous No.82794545
>>82794529
>I'm happy to pay because it's LOVE
fembot...
I'm afraid this love may be one-sided...

>ka ka ka ka ka TA OMOI
Anonymous No.82794551 >>82794578
>>82794529
why do you think he loves you?
Anonymous No.82794553
>>82794214 (OP)
>bf
off my incel board. you're not welcome here
Anonymous No.82794557
>>82794503
I'm an Irish catholic from the Boston area and I don't consider myself Irish-American, just a bit of a pet peeve of mine since so many fucks tried to claim they were Irish in my school growing up. I thought being a ginger I would have lots of Irish DNA but I'm mostly Welsh.
Anonymous No.82794571 >>82794590 >>82794605
Take notes everyone...

This is the ideal relationship you want. A woman to pay for it all. That's how you win.
Anonymous No.82794578 >>82794588 >>82794610
>>82794551
HE SAYS HE DOES AND WE ARE PLANNING ON FUTURE MARRIAGE
Anonymous No.82794588 >>82794600
>>82794578
ignore what he say
what do his actions say?
Anonymous No.82794590 >>82794968
>>82794571
Men should pay it makes everyone happier. Get the fuck out.
Anonymous No.82794600 >>82794608
>>82794588
He keeps flying out to see me so I trust him completely.
Anonymous No.82794605
>>82794571
Tfw no sugarmomma GF to bang
Anonymous No.82794608 >>82794628
>>82794600
ON YOUR DIME. THIS IS AN ALL EXPENSES PAID VACATION FOR HIM
you are really too sweet for this world
Anonymous No.82794610 >>82794629
>>82794578
Yeah all males do that idiot. Is that really it? No seriously? that's really it? Is this your first relationship?
Anonymous No.82794613 >>82794647
>>82794537
This never happens IRL
Anonymous No.82794628 >>82794645
>>82794608
lol
no OP is an attention whore look

>>82794415
>it's not fair

she already knows what's up, she's just here fucking around and acting like a little deer so she can convince herself she's the victim when she pays chad to fly over and fuck her lonely holes.
Anonymous No.82794629 >>82794655
>>82794610
You sound like you.just hate males

Do you call them Moids too???
Anonymous No.82794644 >>82794662
OP is a stupid bitch who was homeschooled (she said so earlier). She is being used by an Irish street thug for sex. RIP OP.
Anonymous No.82794645
>>82794628
yeah i've seen this before, girls will do anything before accepting responsibilities for their actions.
Anonymous No.82794647
>>82794613
happened to me. (original comment)
Anonymous No.82794655 >>82794671
>>82794629
no I am a male, and I find the little victim act girls do disgusting. OP wants this, and she knows she's being used. Don't listen to her bullshit cries.
Anonymous No.82794662
>>82794644
Women are not okay
Anonymous No.82794664 >>82794711
It really depends on how long he's been this way. It's hard to tell since typically it's when a partner has accumulated enough good points and evidence of their love being mutual, that they gain the privilege of not being abandoned when they hit rock bottom
Anonymous No.82794671 >>82794695 >>82794700 >>82794710
>>82794655
OP could end up happily married to the guy you don't know shit
Anonymous No.82794691 >>82794712
>>82794214 (OP)
i would say to my ex that i was looking for a job but i never did because i like being neet
either accept he is a lazy jobless loser and stay with him knowing you'll have to pay for you both or leave
Anonymous No.82794695
>>82794671
You're saying some baseless shit, I have 20x more reason for my shit, and I know OP reads this and knows it's true.
Anonymous No.82794700
>>82794671
Lmao yeah freaking right. Ngmi
Anonymous No.82794710 >>82794723
>>82794671
>yeah the situation is terrible but maybe it will all work out for no reason
yeah nigga maybe he'll win the lottery who knows lol
Anonymous No.82794711
>>82794664
Also although I'm a neet I'd probably avoid mooching too much off anyone, I'd even be willing to pay sometimes
Anonymous No.82794712 >>82794764
>>82794691
I love him too much to end it now so I am kind of stuck with stuff

But also I want to marry him but it's difficult
Anonymous No.82794723 >>82794737 >>82794741
>>82794710
People change for love you stupid fucking cynical incel
Anonymous No.82794737
>>82794723
after age 25, people usually don't change without experiencing extreme trauma
yes, there are exceptions. But they aren't the rule
Anonymous No.82794740 >>82794769 >>82794783 >>82794789
Women should be paying for men more it's only fair. Women are given more opportunities in the modern economic landscape. My sister is married to a poor guy and they are very happy and it's not perfect but it can be done right.
Anonymous No.82794741 >>82794756
>>82794723
name one time when she actually fixed him
Anonymous No.82794756
>>82794741
Deep depression is cured by sweet gentle love.

"Try a little tenderness"
Anonymous No.82794764 >>82794783
>>82794712
then start planning it on you being the breadwinner after the marriage, you can get married but understand that you'll probably always be the one working and providing for the house
Anonymous No.82794765
>>82794214 (OP)
well what are his skills/education/job prospects and ambition? as long as you know he isnt a bum deep down and wants to make something out of his life ur prob good
Anonymous No.82794769
>>82794740
Based opinion. It can actually work out.
Anonymous No.82794776
>>82794229
OP is a horny slut paying for her Chad bf to fuck.. I HATE FOIDS OMFG FUCK YOU ALL.....
Anonymous No.82794783 >>82794822
>>82794764
I love him so much I probably would do it.

>>82794740
Both genders should pay together
Anonymous No.82794788 >>82794794 >>82794802
So much powerlessness and envy, you all wish this foid would pay for your flight to fuck her. She doesn't so you just try to destroy it
Sad!
Anonymous No.82794789
>>82794740
Women paying shouldn't be considered a bad thing
Anonymous No.82794794
>>82794788
It's insanely unfair and I hate this dumb bitch DESU
Anonymous No.82794802 >>82795234
>>82794788
Know why I feel powerless

Because no woman has ever been supportive to me in any way not even my own mother. Women are satanic snakes to real men like me. Not pretty boy Chad creeps like OPs bf
Anonymous No.82794809
>>82794432
At some point a guy has to be in a do or die situation to actually make a change. If he can talk about his mental problems and you just indefinitely support him, then that's going to be the script of his life. At some point you're going to have to make demands of him and force him to act, but do you really want to have to do that? I think you'll fall in love again. Money doesn't have to be important, but you need him to do be doing something with his life to consider marriage with him. You're just wasting your time with this guy. Like other anons are saying, he knows he's taking advantage of you and your patience. If he had it in his head that he wouldn't find a loving gf like you unless he was gainfully employed, he would get over whatever his obstacles are and get to work. You're enabling his shiftlessness
Anonymous No.82794813 >>82794841
>>82794214 (OP)
so long as you can see he is actually trying, then stay

if not, leave him

job market isn't great right now
Anonymous No.82794822 >>82794828
>>82794783
>I love him so much I probably would do it.
then just do it tell him that you are fine with him not getting a job but you want to be lawfully married and want to live together and he has to go live with you now
Anonymous No.82794828 >>82794840
>>82794822
Or we could live in Boston he owns his own home and I rent an apartment
Anonymous No.82794840 >>82794855
>>82794828
>he owns his own home
what?
what is his economic situation? How is he paying the property tax and keeping the lights on?
Anonymous No.82794841
>>82794813
She is only datting him cos he's sexy to her.. she's a horny slut who wants dick.
Anonymous No.82794855 >>82794867
>>82794840
He inherited a big house from his grandparents in 2023. I'm not sure.
Anonymous No.82794867 >>82794889
>>82794855
this kind of complicates things, unless you're able to work remotely. The house gives him a reason to stay there
Anonymous No.82794880 >>82794889 >>82794901 >>82794970 >>82795426
>>82794280
>He is at most 7/10 but has horrible under eye bags and depression and he has no nice clothes. It's just I believe we can make a marriage work someday.

LMAO OP is dating an ugly loser with horrible under eye bags
Anonymous No.82794889
>>82794867
I would like to live in a house I hate my apartment

>>82794880
He looks fine except for the eye bags and it's not a problem
Anonymous No.82794890 >>82794903 >>82794958
OP I'm confused, you're willing to bankroll this guy because he... is a 7/10 and watches GTO?
like idk I haven't met the guy but that is not a terribly high bar. It would not be hard to find a guy that has those attributes AND has a job lol
Anonymous No.82794901 >>82794913
>>82794880
maybe she likes him as a person anon

think about it
Anonymous No.82794903
>>82794890
We bonded really strongly from years of talking online. He is my person and I am his.
Anonymous No.82794913 >>82794946
>>82794901
Under eye bags make me gag

I have low standards but I'd dump any woman like that
Anonymous No.82794946
>>82794913
Good taste but it's not a deal breaker for me
Anonymous No.82794958
>>82794890
Chad can be total dirt but he gets free pussy and love. This is the brutal reality.
Anonymous No.82794968
>>82794590
Someone is angry lol
Anonymous No.82794970
>>82794880
hes literally me

op how do i get one of yous i am in need
Anonymous No.82794977 >>82795003
>>82794214 (OP)
OP how did you two meet?
Anonymous No.82795003 >>82795012 >>82795038
>>82794977
Rather not say but somewhere online and we bonded by doing voice chats
Anonymous No.82795012 >>82795084
>>82795003
What was it tinder
Anonymous No.82795038 >>82795104
>>82795003
I'm lonely come on, how'd you meet
Anonymous No.82795084 >>82795154
>>82795012
No it wasn't a dating app
Anonymous No.82795104
>>82795038
You can easily meet people online forget OP she's a desperate whore paying for Chadcock
Anonymous No.82795154
>>82795084
was it a degen disc server
Anonymous No.82795200 >>82795224
I hate OP I hate her I hate her I hate her fuck ing guts.

I Hate women sooo much it's unreal
Anonymous No.82795220
fuck op, she probably has aids and that's why she settles so hard
Anonymous No.82795224 >>82795234 >>82795253
>>82795200
Lmao are you males seriously this triggered over a thread
Anonymous No.82795234 >>82795250
>>82795224
Yes you fucking pathetic demon spawn whore and no one read my earlier post here >>82794802

You are the DEVIL
Anonymous No.82795250
>>82795234
You have suffered a lot. But you have to calm down and stop hating. Hating women is not helping you champ.
Anonymous No.82795253 >>82795261
>>82795224
if you're a foid and OP doesn't disgust you, what is wrong with you?
Anonymous No.82795261 >>82795326 >>82795337
>>82795253
Why would I be disgusted

She is acting like I have before with guys I was nuts about. It's kinda cute
Anonymous No.82795326
>>82795261
You are psychotic all you women are goddamn nuts
Anonymous No.82795337 >>82795364
>>82795261
ok fine im just going to use women from now on, I wont respect them since they dont respect themselves. im tired
Anonymous No.82795353
>>82794214 (OP)
Don't go into a relationship with the expectation that things will change. It's a shitty dynamic that is unfair to you both. It places pressure to conform instead of placing emphasis on acceptance and mutual nurturing. If he can't hold his half financially, and that's a problem for you even long-term, then it's hardly sustainable. That said, if he's actually putting action to his plans, well, you do you.
Anonymous No.82795364
>>82795337
Women deserve to be slaves and pay for men
Anonymous No.82795369 >>82795392
>>82794214 (OP)
No, break up with him and tell him because it's about the money. It'll either toughen him up and he'll know how the real world works like, or he'll crumble under the pain

I don't give a fuck about you and what happens to you, i just want the dude to man up.
Anonymous No.82795392
>>82795369
Fuck off cuck traitor. OP is female she should pay for it all.
Anonymous No.82795409
You sound like an awesome girlfriend.
Anonymous No.82795426 >>82795458
>>82794880
Ewww what the hell is wrong with her lol
Anonymous No.82795458
>>82795426
Being this judgemental is not a good look sir
Anonymous No.82795468 >>82795512
>>82794229
Chad always wins because women are evil and disgusting trash
Anonymous No.82795512 >>82795597
>>82795468
Stop watching incel slop videos
Anonymous No.82795597
>>82795512
Indonesia is my home no men are INCEL here
Anonymous No.82795610 >>82795674
Post nudes I'll give advice for it
Anonymous No.82795674
>>82795610
This is uncalled for omfg are you kidding
Anonymous No.82795756 >>82795809
>>82794214 (OP)
I had an LDR while a loser and I wasn't even mad when we broke up because I knew it wasn't feasible and made me feel a bit guilty. We both knew what we were getting into. It was fun while it lasted though.
Anonymous No.82795809 >>82795822
>>82795756
No one is a loser. That's subjective.
Anonymous No.82795822 >>82795830
>>82795809
I'm pretty objectively a loser
Anonymous No.82795830 >>82795842
>>82795822
Did you at least bang?
Anonymous No.82795842 >>82795853
>>82795830
No, thats one part of why i'm a loser.
Anonymous No.82795853 >>82795985
>>82795842
You retard you fumbled
Anonymous No.82795985 >>82796497
>>82795853
Oh, I'm a different anon.
Anonymous No.82796497 >>82796755
>>82795985
Oh what you confused me bad
Anonymous No.82796755
>>82796497
>confused me bad
Lol
Anonymous No.82796807
You are evil pussy