Thread 82798928

I am a virgin. There is this guy I am seeing and I have given him a handjob. I am planning to suck his dick soon. I know that he will eventually want to see me butt naked and touch me. But I don't want that to ever happen.

For some reason, I don't mind seeing him naked and interacting with his dick but the thought of myself being naked from the waist down and him touching me there freaks me out so much. I could tell him that I am on my period and come up with excuses once or twice but I can't get away with it forever.

I wish we were able to have relationships where moids never expect you to be naked or have penetrative sex. Because giving a blowjob wouldn't bother me. I just don't want anyone to see and touch my genitals.

>>82798928 (OP)
Just tell him lmao

>>82798945
What if he thinks I'm weird

>>82798928 (OP)
He will see your penis and throw you out.

>>82798928 (OP)
You're externalizing your autistic OCD thing. People have sex. Were you abused as a kid? Are you a very anxious person? Are you germophobic? Are you religious?

>>82798928 (OP)
>touching me there

can't even say it. well, the thing is, he's going to want to see you, unless he has a cfnm fetish or something.

>>82798959
No, I have a pussy and I hate how it looks I don't want anyone to see it.
>>82798966
>Were you abused as a kid?
No
>Are you a very anxious person?
Extremely
>Are you germophobic?
Yes
>Are you religious?
No
>>82799008
I wish I could find someone who is okay with me staying dressed during sex

>>82799041
dont the mormons do that? or jehovas witnesses or something?

im sure if you told your moid bf about this he might be understanding, youre going to have to, or you'll have to be naked. i dunno what choices you have here desu

>>82799041
>are you an extremely anxious person
>yes
>germophobic?
>yes
well there you go. It is less about sex and more with you and your mental or psychological hangups.

I just want to say: I am not a therapist, a licensed doctor, I have zero credentials, I know fuck all, take it with a grain of salt.

You're repressed and your germophobia or anxious hangups are manifesting through your body, through sex. You're also a virgin so you don't know what to expect. You probably have all these insecurities and are worried about performing, about being good in bed, about satisfying him, or enjoying yourself. You have no frame of reference and you look at pornstars getting choked, slapped, riding, being drilled and piped rough and you get cold feet, you are turned off and it looks like too much.
Sex can be awkward when the two of you don't know what you're doing.
You can feel the way you feel, but it is less about vanilla penetration monogamy being wrong and more you projecting your hangups.
A man and woman getting intimate in a monogamous context is not the same thing as a 20 man orgy gangbang and getting nutted on by all of them

>>82799075
I didn't say it was wrong? It just makes me feel very uncomfortable to be naked and be touched, I want a relationship where it is not expected

>>82799089
You can feel the way you feel. That is the way you feel. The way you feel can change. You can work on it so you can become more comfortable with having penetrative sex or accept that you will be looking for a needle in a haystack. You might not want to be touched, your ass or pussy touched and licked, you might not want to be naked, maybe a man will be okay with that. However never having full on penetration and only doing handjobs and blowjobs like you are 15? I don't know if most men will be able to accept that. Again, you can feel the way you feel, you are allowed to have those feelings. Once you make it a lifestyle, base your life choices around it, you might have a hard time finding what you're looking for.

>>82799041
If you dare not let him see and touch your genitals, and then he somehow finds out that you let other guys who do so, he will never forgive you

>>82798928 (OP)
Just be honest you fucking dipshit. Not just with this, but with everything you're thinking/feeling in a relationship. It's the only way.

>>82798950
He will, and it might be a dealbreaker for him. Or maybe he'll be understanding and help you through it. You'll never know until you say it. My ex was basically like this, and it was a huge pain, but I still stayed with her and helped her through it, and she got better. We broke up for other reasons after a few years.

>>82798928 (OP)
Interesting story femanon, so how tall is he?

>>82799295
I'm a virgin, no one has done that
>>82799338
I don't see my preference changing
>>82799405
178 cm, why?

>>82798928 (OP)
How old are you and how long have you been together? Intimacy issues are a pretty major roadblock to any relationship.

>>82798928 (OP)
Get therapy to work through the issues around your frigidity. It's not normal and not conducive to a healthy and happy relationship. Obviously you have some issues with your self-perception and possibly have experienced some past trauma. If you can't get past this then it will eventually be a problem for your relationship and it will be a major roadblock for relationships in the future thus making you increasingly unhappy. So either get some professional help from an appropriately qualified therapist, or talk to your bf about it and develop some resilience and work though the issue with him.

>>82798928 (OP)
I recommend starting with the lights off and idk maybe finding a way to build trust so that theres not much to fear. I did that to a girl and had a positive relationship but I never had sex with her.

>>82798928 (OP)
You have body dysmorphia OP

>>82798950
But, you are weird. What you are suggesting here is very weird. 90% chance that he will like your pussy no matter what it looks like.

>>82798950
>>82798928 (OP)
This is super normal to be freaked out about being seen naked. The best thing you can do is be honest with him.
Pretty unlikely that he runs with head on the table. What is he going to do, say no to a blowjob?

>>82798928 (OP)
Tangential, but:
>tfw no virgin trying to give me a handjob
I'm so jealous. Must have felt very intimate and endearing from the guy's perspective, even if not at all efficient or successful at getting him off. The idea of a girl putting her hand which has never touched a penis on mine feels so special.

Rip of the band aid and go straight to anal. Just be like ~uwuu im a shy virgin can we just leave my panties on and you fuck my butt

>foid talks about having sex with chad in the virgin board.
I fucking hate women.

>>82798928 (OP)
>>82798928 (OP)
Talk to him. 99% of relationship problems can be improved just by fucking TALKING TO YOUR PARTNER ABOUT THEM. Maybe he's ok with only getting blowjobs. Did you bother to ask or are you just assuming?

BTW lying to him and saying "I'm on my period" or coming up with other excuses is a recipe for disaster. Strong relationships are built on honesty and you owe that to one another. Lying to him will backfire one way or another.

Why do you have these feelings by the way? Have you considered what it is about this that makes this so scary to you? Figure out where your feelings are coming from and you will have more answers.

It's also possible that once you blow him you'll get horny and feel more comfortable and you'll want to do more with him. Young and inexperienced people like you usually work their way up slowly before going all the way. And you can have sex without him seeing you- just be mostly clothed and keep the lights off. Wear a skirt with no panties, snuggle your ass up to his dick under a blanket, and he can fuck you without ever seeing you naked. People do that sort of thing all the time and he would probably be ok with that.

BUT YOU'LL NEVER KNOW UNLESS YOU TALK TO HIM.

>>82798928 (OP)
You don't have to get naked to have sex.

Man, I'm so fucking jealous of the problems people here have. Like how do you even get into a situation where you're giving guys handjobs

clothed female, naked male...hot

>>82798950
He'd be right.

>>82799041
>I wish I could find someone who is okay with me staying dressed during sex
It's probably a lot less impossible than you think. Most guys prefer looking at boobs over pussy anyway

As everyone else has said, talk to him about it if you want him to be your partner.
Worst case scenario is doesn't like it and then you know he's not the one so you can both move on quicker.

Ok boys, you cannot be fat, must have a large dick, must have a lot of money, must be attracttive (7.5+), and MAYBE you'll get oral sex.
What, you expected vaginal sex? From your gf? What the fuck is wrong with you? Don't you know she's self conscious!?!?

>>82798928 (OP)
Blowjobs are demeaning anti woman bullshit. Females should let men eat them out without needing to have their dicks sucked. Females have horrid sexual taste.

>>82798928 (OP)
vocaroo because i'm in a rush and wanted to rant a bit
https://voca.ro/1cpQqi7TOyjY

where are you from and how did you meet him? I want an anxious fembot gf that just sucks my dick 24/7 and never wants me touch her roastie

>>82801617
shut the fuck up and go straight back reddit. That's were you belong cuckold.

>>82801543
Spoken like a virgin

>>82801617
Also spoken like a virgin

>>82799855
I am in my early 20s and we started dating a month ago
>>82801067
Yeah, doing it in the dark would decrease my discomfort by a lot
>>82801134
Aww I am not sure how well I did, he did not say anything negative, told me how to do it and it was a sweet memory. I feel very comfortable and excited about touching him
>>82801237
>>82801969
Okay I understand your point that I'll have to talk to him eventually but I am too shy. It feels embarrassing to say "I can suck and jerk you off but I am not comfortable with being touched and seen". But it is still the elephant in the room. I guess we could figure something out. I don't know how he would react but I don't think he would literally break up with me over it

vaginas/vulvas look absolutely disgusting OP. you'll just have to get over it.

>>82799821
>I'm a virgin
Wow so you're shy and insecure about your first time. Who could have ever have imagined it