Thread 82826839

Why do men say I love you so fast? Its such an ick.

>>82826839 (OP)
>then when I get space i start to miss them
BPNigger.

>>82826839 (OP)
Idk if your a woman or not but men usualy do this when they mistake their lusts for love, or are trying to say anything so that you drop your pants. Most like this would rather say i want to fuck you becous your hot. But they know its not exactly acceptable so they say i love you instead. Real love is fighting over cleaning 5 years into a relationship and still going to sleep in the same bed

>>82826894
>Real love is fighting over cleaning 5 years into a relationship and still going to sleep in the same bed

>>82826960
u ever been in a relationship that lasted more than 1+ years?

>>82827000
yes and what that post is describing is the simmering hate for each other that gradually rots away at your soul, while calling it "real love"

>>82826960
god this shit makes me puke. If you're still 5 years into your relationship, still fighting over petty shit like chores, just get it over with. No wonder boomers were miserable

>>82826839 (OP)
>saying "I love you" before the woman does
They deserved it. Never admit shit to a woman unless it can benefit you.

>>82827061
no it goes over in a few hours or after you have fucked
>>82827081
xd what your relationship history faggot?

>>82826894
>>82827000
>>82827061
>>82827081
Is this board unironically more normalfag than any other board on this website? Jesus christ I hate you faggots.

>>82826839 (OP)
Anyways, this is more proof that despite being capable of attracting men who love them, women are incapable of loving.

>>82827095
i'm currently in a relationship that's lasted 6 years. And i had a previous relationship that lasted 2 years. And you?

>>82827095
>>82827101
Yeah thats it, Im done with this board.

>>82826839 (OP)
when men say "I love you" they're really saying "I forgive you"

>>82827061
if you're 5 years into your relationship, and you're still arguing/fighting over who does what around the house, it's over bro. That shit tapers off around the end of the honeymoon phase or like a few weeks after you move in together, not fucking YEARS in.

>>82827101
fair enough.In my 5th year in my current only had some bang buddies before
>>82827106
noo dont go your so hecking lonely haha

>>82827123
hey no problem man, but i just run into alot of people who think that "oh you know, we're 7 years into our relationship and we still argue with each other over who does the dishes". Like this is the reason why women divorce. Not even just women, people just in general hold resentment, and fucking/sex wont resolve it if you're back to the next day. Trust me, been there, done that. It's not fun. Also, if your relationship hinges on the fact that you guys NEED to have sex to resolve issues, it's beyond over. Shit is cooked. Fried.

>>82827123
Whats your address?
I dont deserve love. Then Neither do you.

>>82826839 (OP)
>>82826894
Men can fall in love fast, as in real love, their heart burns when they see them, their voice stutters. You might call it a "crush", you might think love is something different where you demonstrate your commitment and care about their happiness in the abstract, but it is the same feelings, the same hormones et cetera.. it can be called "love". It is difficult to confuse some feeling in your pants with this kind of love.

Modern society thinks its great when some black dude scrunches his face up when looking at a fat black woman's ass and go "DAYUM DAT AAYAAAZZZ NIGGA" then grab your crotch, but apparently it is creepy to fall in love. Apparently if you fall in love with someone you will instantly turn into a creepy stalker or an icky nice guy who thinks he is entitled to sex for buying her chocolates. But for generations up until the past 10 years or so it was normal for men to fall in love and pursue a woman.

>>82827129
why?!
>>82827112
how come?

>>82827131
idk track my ip or something. are you a woman or man?

>>82826839 (OP)
How dare someone say they love me eeewwwww

>>82827146
Pussy ass faggot.
Dont talk shit if you're not prepared to see the person on the other side of the screen

>>82826839 (OP)
>go to a party with a girl I suspect likes me a bit
> next day she sends "Hope you got home safe. I'm thinking about you <3"
>I reply with a "made it home in one piece ...thinking about you too"
>she never replies back

What could have given her the ick?

>>82827281
>made it home in one piece ...thinking about you too
this is fucking disgusting. just say yeah im fine or something less fucking wormy. Also What the fuck are you supposed to say in respons to >made it home in one piece ...thinking about you too
good for you i guess lmao

>>82827324
>wormy

how? I literally just mirrored her exact words.

>>82827350
>how? I literally just mirrored her exact words.
yeah exactly you little faggot, she thinks your trying to suck up to her. idk if its intentional on your part but it sure sounds like it

>>82827367
why would she send "I'm thinking about you <3" ?

>>82826839 (OP)
Well if I have to represent all man kind I've waded into a puddle on the street filled with chemicals thinking oh cool that's a puddle of water.

>>82827381
>why would she send "I'm thinking about you <3" ?
shes a woman they say retarded shit like this whitout meaning anything i think its cute and why they are nice to be around. If she really "thought" alot about you, you would not have gone home alone

The better question is why are women constantly looking for reasons to hate a man even if she likes him

>>82827410

I'm a girland I don't send guys "thinking about you" notes after we'd hang out. If I was worried about him I'd sent something like "hope you made it home safe" with a thumbs up or smile emoji or something not like that.

>>82827096
There are literal sexhavers here. Of course it's normalniggerfaggot central.

>>82827420
She's pre-justifying the breakup for when a better option comes along.

>>82827439
i guessing your a pretty selfaware person. atleast half of the world ain't. girls sending shit like this is akin to guys pulling the i love you card at the second date in order to get pussy. but yeah
> thinking about you
this for a inexperianced guy means they think you want to be whit them romaticly or sexually as the idea of reseving something like that as a friendly gesture is uterly Alien

>>82827475
>I'm thinking about you <3

Neither me nor any of my friends communicate with guys in the friendzone like this. Less obvious things sent the wrong message, ending it with a "thinking about you" is ambiguous, but still intentionally "about him". even chat gpt says its a flirty text. I don't see any way around it really.

>>82827324
>Also What the fuck are you supposed to say in respons
something romantic.

>>82827527
well then wise woman, why is she ghosting him?
>>82827515
>something romantic.
well she didnt

>>82827590
Sometimes women find a guy attractive and entertain the thought of him being into her without committing to anything (Yet). I don't know the backstory of >>82827281, but her response comes off as her being into him in a more than a friend way, but is cautious. Its one thing if you send a text like that to a gay bestie and another if you sent it to a straight guy. Trust me, we know how you guys read into shit. Women will not phrase it this way unless they're testing the waters. Hence why she went silent. She could have responded with a generic "thats great to hear buddy" putting him firmly in the bro zone, but she's quiet.

>>82827679
so the correct move for anon her is to take the first step the no? just ask her out and if shes says she isnt interested just go next. I always found being wery direct works well whit women, giving to much wrigeling room makes them insecure

>>82826839 (OP)
i dont see a fucking issue with it. being told i love you is awesome. i told my crush i love him within 3 weeks of talking

>>82827731
And then you dumped him in week 4 when Chad 2 matched you.

>>82827747
>god i love making up retarded delusions

>>82827759
>thing that happens all the time and gets screenshotted and posted here
>retarded delusions

>>82827768
youre projecting actions of few onto everyone. you are retarded

>>82827773
>few
You mean every last woman on Earth? That's 4 billion "people."

>>82827783
no point arguing with a faggot. go fuck men if you believe that bullshit

I get irrationally upset seeing people on the internet saying they've been dating for 6 months or like a year and still haven't said "I love you". How do you not know if you love someone after that long? Am I too much of a virgin to understand this?
I blurted it out to my internet gf when I called her in the hospital and we'd only been talking for a month when that happened. It didn't feel wrong or too soon.

>>82827789
Faggots are just as promiscuous, it's a lateral move at best.
>>82827795
If you do you'll know it immediately. Foids are influenced by their fat friends who aren't capable of being loved to get the ick when they hear it, so guys have to pretend like they don't until the fat friends are out of the sphere of influence.

The majority of men have never received attention or interest from any woman for an extended period of time. A woman returning to a man for conversation, wanting to be in his presence, wanting to see him again, letting him touch her, letting him have sex with her, is something the man has spent his whole life imagining. Now it's happening he thinks The Time Has Come, this is what he has been waiting for.

This isn't all just a series of cold thoughts either, each interaction and step is accompanied by a massive dump of brain chemicals within the man's brain thanks to his biology. It doesn't matter how many years you've stoically spent miserable and alone, the moment a woman you find attractive brings you in from that barren hellscape by acknowledging that you exist and showing interest in you, parts of your biology and brain that have long been dormant suddenly wake up and compel you to act, to continue pursuing this woman. Your world that was black and white before is now in full colour. The 'you' that exists in your brain is merely along for the biological ride at this point.

>>82827132
Shut that inexperienced faggot up quick

>>82827281
>What could have given her the ick?
She didn't get the ick, Chad scooped her up while you weren't looking.
Women do not get irrationally attached like we do. If they can trade you in for an upgrade, they will.

>>82826839 (OP)
>god why do people love me??? it's so annoying and icky!!
I would call this out for being just a reddit larp but I have heard this from many women irl. The empathetic gender that has ALL the problems, everybody. Fucking ridiculous.

>>82827807
So it goes...it is what it is... thats the deal...

Future faking/love bombing. I was once hooking up with a guy that kept calling me his "gf" and dropping "I love you"s constantly so I just went look do you want to date me or not? Then we started dating and he started calling me his wife before it blew up. Men just try to manifest shit, like horoscope babes, it's kind of cute. My bf I have now did the same exact thing and is in the marriage talking stage and constantly calls me his wife, so I told him I'm expecting a ring by the spring. Talk is easy but you have to also look at his actions

>>82828243

what is your take on this situation >>82827281

>>82828262
The first anon that responded to you was harsh but correct, you could've said something smoother. We don't want a mirror we want romance. She already put herself out there texting you that and you didn't give her back enough

>>82828243
>marrying before children
go fleece that fucker real good honey jesus christ what a retard.

>>82828271
wtf? As a guy I thought he was obvious and head on with flirting. If I got that message from a girl I'd ponder whether she is just being nice and if me mirroring her "thinking about you" part would come across as "ugh another twerp thinking I'm into him while I was just being nice". Lmao.

>>82828317
Your bait is too confusing for me are you black or being a trickster

>>82828347

If anything >>82827281 was being too vague and would have kept me second guessing if I were the recipient.

t. femanon in her late 20s

>>82826839 (OP)
I guess because they are desperate, and fickle cunt foids hate that. Male inceldom is common now.
Despite my decades of inceldom, if I were ever to escape, I'd NEVER be the first one to say 'I love you'.
Evidently the 'power' is with the one who cares the least about the relationship. These days, that's always the foid.
I'm too cynical to believe in love, or to ever expect loyalty from a foid. At this point, I just want 'my turn'.

>>82826894
reddit as fuck post

>>82828354
white as a ghost actually, just saying i would never consider marrige pre children. As it allows my "trustable" wife to gain leverage and can simply decide yeah tihi xd children are hard i dont want any suck fo yu guess your gona have to divorce if u want them i bet that will be fun for you tihii. But if a guy is prepared to do it then i say go for it its a smart move on your end. kinda have everything to gain

>>82828414
true tho, but since you hand is your longterm relationship you cant really have arguments about cleaning, you just dont clean at all

>>82828429
Normal people marry first then have children. I don't know what shithole you live in but having children out of wedlock is fucking retarded for women and only for trashy people where I live

>>82828504
>retarded for women
but wery fucking good for the guy isnt it? im from the nordics (born and bred) fyi.
>normal people
X to the D yeah sadly one always loses in a relationship and it SURE AS FUCK WONT BE ME!

>>82828513
You should get a vasectomy you seem too dumb to be a dad

>>82827807
I wish they understood this. I genuinely am convinced that only men feel love, because you described the feeling down to the fucking atom.

Women really don't understand or care how much men love them and it's just, why are things like this

>>82828548
yeah its abit unfortunate but nothing you can change im afraid
>>82828537
yeah your probably right

>>82828572
I decided on being alone until I find my goldilocks. I'm seeing someone right now who i thought was different but women are women I guess, no matter how different they seem to be

>>82826839 (OP)
>>82826894
you're all fucking retarded. Humans in general are retarded.
>wyh he said luv
because the goal is to fuck and to make a baby. whatever he thinks or she thinks or will live through is fucking irrelevant. It's all made up bullshit, inside of the brain only. You make baby, you continue to live. Simple af biology. Your feelings are irrelevant.
>Real love is fighting over cleaning 5 years
get a roomba and a dishwasher, you retarded broke ass bitch. And never bother a man with your irrelevant retarded cleaning bullshit. Whatever a man wants to see/keep clean, he is cleaning. Everything else is irrelevant. You want it clean? press a button you ungrateful worthless waste of oxygen and other resources.
TL:DR: Instead of being drooling retards like all of you are and making babies with each other, you decide to overcomplicate the mating ritual for no reason, whatsoever, going as far, as completely making up retarded bullshit like "love".

>>82826839 (OP)
I think men are often rash hopeless romantics prone to getting caught up in the honeymoon phase of meeting a woman. I never really understood why saying I love you is this big sacred thing anyway. If it turns out it wasn't real love later who gives a fuck. This just leads to the opposite where men will basically have a girlfriend of a year but refuse to call her that because he's been trained to be uber non chalant about everything

>>82828788
Literally me

I was a Golden retriever boyfriend to all my previous relationships and it wasn't appreciated, now I'm non chalant but somehow that's wrong too, there is no winning with women

>>82828770
im a guy my dude

It may simply be a survival strategy. If you get a 99% reject rate, then spending 2-3 months on each attempt you will run out of lifetime before you succeed.

>>82829038
all of the points still stand, you retarded fucking broke ass bitch.

>>82828811
Golden retriever is just goytalk for performative nice bf that hides behind it to excuse his misdeeds, the type of scrote that will cry when he hurts your feelings and make you comfort him
You aren't wise you're just like all the rest. A worthless bloodsucker masquerading as a victim

>>82828811
>there is no winning with women
This. It's because women don't ever actually know what they want. Because the way they feel can change abruptly at any instant, and because they're never direct with you either, you really never know what you're doing right or wrong. Too much attention? Bad. Too little attention? Bad. Talk about yourself too much? Bad. Don't talk about yourself all that much? Bad. Honestly it's almost as if you have to constantly read their mind to get anywhere. And it's the same with the whole 'I love you' thing.

>>82829262
or just dont care. also pretty easy

It can be love dumping or desperation, but really, men are just biolocally inclined to fall in love fastly and carelessly and it is pretty sincere. Basically men, hormonally so, fall in love in first 30 minutes of knowing a person.
For women the onset of "love hormones" only starts after 3-6 months of dating. Is when they forma bond and start to feel attached. So when womenseemen bei g fast on those feeling it seems kinda ingenious and manipulating.

But no one is in wrong in this situation, it's just biological differences and both are completely normal and valid way to love. The problem is just ignorance and prejudice

>>82826839 (OP)
to moids, love just means horniness. moids are always horny but they actually hate women

sucks to learn because imagine if you could just chill with someone and suck his dick, but no, he's gonna hate ur guts no matter what :(

>>82826839 (OP)
>like ..... be serious no you don't love me???
>but then i get space i start to miss them
Mentally ill and no self esteem.

>>82829092
I know I'm not perfect at practicing what I preach, no one was and ever will be.

I do know that I used to be a piece of shit and I probably still am, but I really do try to be a good boyfriend and I try to make sure whoever I'm with feels loved and appreciated.

I just never feel the same appreciation back, I'm sorry you got hurt by a horrible person. Not everyone is bad

>>82829772
>because imagine if you could just chill with someone and suck his dick, but no, he's gonna hate ur guts no matter what :(
yeah im sure this happens ever id work myself to death, i mean id cut out one of my kidneys for that kind of woman

>>82827101
Why are you on /r9k/?
God i fucking hate women

>>82829092
What if in performative nice but I would never cry in front of her because I don't feel comfortable displaying any negative emotions in front of women.

If you want a woman to open up you gotta use your fists. It's literally that simple.

>>82829772
and there's the projection
in reality it's women who can't distinguish between lust and love
when a man makes a woman wet, she assumes that she loves him
it's the same as when women assume a guy wants to fuck a girl because he finds her attractive, she doesn't know that men distinguish between cute and fuckable

for a woman fuckable = love and that's it

>>82830574
yeah idk bout that one chief
>>82830356
>>82829092
wtf is a permormative male? a clown?

>>82826839 (OP)
>engages in intimate acts
>shocked pikachu face when they feel something
Smdh

>>82827420
Because alot of women are damaged from previous relationships and/or brainrotted from social media and have grown a general dislike for men and male sexuality. Alot of women like this will self sabotage and believe any dude saying shit like this or trying to move the relationship phases along are only doing it for nefarious reasons

>>82830728
Women want us to dismantle toxic masculinity but the only thing they allow men is to be nonchalant 6ft6 finance greek gods whose only noise they ever release is a manly grunt during sex before they return to dominating everyone around them.

>>82827132
off topic but women that dye their hair like that are walking red flags.

>>82826839 (OP)
I am guilty of this
Both times I was with a girl I blurted out that I love them within a week...
I couldn't help it because I did. The first girl pretended to not hear me at first, then hesitated and said ok and we stayed together for like a week before she bolted.
The second was happy and we're still together after a year and a half.

>>82826839 (OP)
ya well what if i was wanting to follow a rule and not say i love you until later on after actually meeting her friends and stuff but she says it first and i do feel for her and repeat it but then it's this endless slow burn and she ends up being avoidant? that's kinda rough but still gotta fight through it...

>>82827731
>>82827759
glad people like this exist honestly, sorry but you can understand why so many here are resentful and hopeless
maybe you can empathise with us some and give us advice?
>>82827807
this is the reason

>>82829092
who hurt you lol?
I call out the misogyny in a lot of the incel dudes here but this is ridiculous assumptions
>>82829772
another one

>>82831353
what a faggot you're a fag

>>82831461
Thank God you are here to think of the men and be nice because we are so unreasonably mean and nasty I hope you get picked Becky

>>82826894
Women cheat dozens of years into a relationship all the timr. Love isn't real from women, even "le maternal bond" is just sunk cost and societal pressure, women abort gorillians of babies every year.

>>82831485
dang that bad eh?
i'm not female if that's what you're assuming
ppl need to touch grass and quit the terminally online brainrot reflexive hatred/projecting tho

>>82831547
Abortion isn't the same as infanticide admit it you'd abort too as a woman and also be a slut. A birthed baby is a whole other ballgame.
>>82831620
Fuck off hippie

>>82826839 (OP)
I have come to the conclusion that women were made by God as primordial evil and as punishment for man's mistakes, I am yet to be convinced of the opposite.

>>82827281
How long?
Send her a text like "Hey I had a fun time with you the other night at the party and would like to hang out again soonish if you are down"

>>82827281
>What could have given her the ick?
She met a guy with a bigger dick, sorry happens :/

>>82827281
You're supposed to be active and make follow up plans you autist.

"Thinking about you too. Do you want to get dinner tonight?"

Don't leave it on her to have to come up with the next step. You need to be a leader.

>>82831641
who unironically uses 'hippie' in 2025 lmao

>>82826839 (OP)
>>82826881
>Dated 5 guys and none of them slept with her.
This bitch is clearly insane

>>82831310
goomba fallacy

>>82830826
i am a virgin BECAUSE i hate moids. males admit that they hate women and want to rape and torture us

>>82830574
bullshit. moids say they love women because theyre horny, but moids hate women.

>when a man makes a woman wet, she assumes that she loves him
more bullshit. i sure as hell get horny, but i know that all moids hate all women, and they always have

moids always want to fuck.

>>82826839 (OP)
Their fault for falling for it. It's a cold no-love world and if a woman can feed on that it's in their rights. Might makes right (sexual)

>>82833978
im a virgin because yall are evil. this is why theres a moid horniness epidemic

>>82829772
i was horny until i got a gf
she stole my heart and ruined my life then left
i dont feel horny since that day
just the despair

>>82826839 (OP)
Fear of being alone. They're not wrong, knowing you will die alone unless a miracle happens takes away a lot of the joy of living.

Interestingly enough the fantasy book "The Wheel of Time" has some great insights on gender relations, one of them is:
>Women want to be in love, Men NEED to be in love and will take it from where ever they can get it.

Your love means nothing because it's not a hot commodity, it's desperation, while women's job is to protect what they have against men's passion- passion is a hot flash in the pan and can fizzle out pretty easily leaving the woman in a worse place for trusting that love.

>>82826839 (OP)
I have been dating someone for two months and neither of us has said it yet. To be fair we also talk about not wanting to move too fast, to be sure that this is what we both want. I plan on saying it in November on a trip I have planned for us both and I hope its not too fast to use those words

>>82835030
>someone
Foid or faggot?

>>82835136
Perhaps I will not say so you can think of all the neat possibilities

>>82835171
very based of you anon, but i know you're a heterosexual man dating a woman.

>>82826839 (OP)
This is what happens when you date guys that you don't actually like.

>>82827132
Beautifully said.

However, the roastie in this thread will not be able to comprehend your post at all, unfortunately.

Women are incapable of love. I can prove it.

If you lose your job, does your mother stop loving you? Of course not.

If your girlfriend or wife loses her job, do you stop loving her? Of course not.

If you're a husband and you lose your job, does your wife stop loving you? Absolutely, happens all the time.

Keep in mind women are the initiators in over 80% of divorces. Keep in mind the odds of being divorced go up by 68% after a husband loses his job.

Women are genuinely incapable of love. They can only love their children and their pets. Only women, children and pets are loved unconditionally. Men will never, ever know what it's like to be loved in their entire lives.

>>82826839 (OP)
It's so interesting how easily detestable women are

>>82827806
if a foid has fat friends, fuck her. Everything you say will be twisted by the unlovable, leeching, jealous, envious, fat bitch that she calls a friend

I say it within 3 weeks usually and never learn my lesson

>>82835702
u get what u pay for

>>82835339
moids hate women, but refuse to go volcel
"women are incapable of love, because they love you unless she's a woman who you chose"
choose better women.
>Only women, children and pets are loved unconditionally
moids literally admit that they unconditionally hate women and want to rape and torture women.
moids choose to be fucking evil yet they demand to be worshipped

>>82836199
>want to rape and torture women.
I would never provide such satisfaction to a woman, fuck her she can go be a dyke

>>82827281
>didn't kiss or fuck her at the party
>let her know it's because you're a pussy and not because she didn't do enough to turn you on and make you take action
you have a long road ahead of you anon, others may disagree but this is what went down, subconsciously at least on a primal level, because women find weakness and passivity unattractive

>>82827807
Can a woman with above average IQ please respond to this anons post. I need proof you aren't all demons and at least one of you has empathy.