>>82864514 (OP)
It's both. Whenever I overcome my retardation there's this wall I can't get past mentally. No matter how hard I try. If I actually force myself to address it I start breaking down crying and punching myself. I've been trying to break past the wall for decades. I simply can't.
I think it has to do with me not being enough mentally and if I push past the wall I have to address that truth. It means realizing I'll never be enough, I can't ever be loved, and I will never be accepted and all my work and sacrifice is in vain. It also means accepting I will be severely miserable for the rest of my life and trapped in a job I hate and so much more. I payed thousands seeing professionals, therapists, psychiatrists, nothing worked.