It's unironically harder to find a good partner if you're attractive than if you're ugly. Incels and femcels are typically decent-looking but years of social ostracization from mid normies gives them extreme personality flaws and poor self-esteem. Ugly people gaslight hot people into thinking they're worthless because ultimately they see you as competition. Most of our world leaders are ugly for this reason, there is a legitimate conspiracy against conventional attractiveness.