Thread 83023532

Redpill me on pair bonding, what is it? How does it happen? What does it include? How does it work? How long does it last?

>>83023532 (OP)
Yes
I would love all these answers as well. With peer reviewed studies to back it up

pair bonding isn't real, they will always cheat

>>83023561
you're lying schadenfoid, people never cheat and you're a poopy liar!

>>83023561
What if I mkultra the bitch into loving and worshipping me like a God with psychological tricks and drugs?

>>83023532 (OP)
the brain releases oxytocin, a feel good hormone that interacts with other chemicals like dopamine, which makes people want to attach and connect with one another during intimacy. however, the more meaningless sex a person has, the higher their tolerance becomes and eventually they stop forming bonds relying instead on novelty to achieve that same dopamine hit

>>83023561
>they will always cheat
You mean the w*man right?

>>83023532 (OP)
Pseudoscientific incel terminology for love.

>>83023580
im sorry, anon..
>>83023593
you'd have to completely keep them away from other people. if they have the opportunity to cheat, they will cheat

>>83023612
That sounds more like using relationships like a drug to feel good.

>>83023619
either gender, they both do it

>>83023637
Well, do you cheat schadenfoid? you're people aren't you?

>>83023637
I've never cheated physically but I've been cheated on so many times I think it's my turn to do it first

>>83023628
that's pretty much what it is though. these chemicals in your brain literally make you feel good like a drug when you're in a relationship, and their evolutionary purpose is to bond people together for reproduction and child rearing

>>83023649
i have cheated, yes. years ago i sexted with someone else while in a relationship.

>>83023668
i've never been in a relationship where i wasn't cheated on. i basically accept it as part of the territory of being close with another person

>>83023683
NOOOOOO, fucking why schadenfoid? i saw you as a cool alcoholic older sister i never had, you were supposed to be my example on how to lead life!

>>83023703
alcoholic? i barely drink, goober. i know it doesn't justify my actions or make things any better, but this happened after finding out i was already being cheating on by the person i was with. i regret doing it and it felt really bad

>>83023671
I know enough about addiction to know this is all bullshit

>>83023696
We should enter a toxic cheating relationship together

>>83023532 (OP)
The concept of two people becoming one family unit. It happens through the development of an intimate relationship, just like you develop an identity of self you can (sometimes) develop a pair bonded identity. It works through the same mechanisms that you learned that you are a separate human being and that you don't wake up in a different body every day. It lasts as long as you are reinforcing the behaviors and functions that support that bond.

People who watch porn are often observed to lose their ability to pair bond.

>>83023735
I mean, might sound like i'm downplaying cheating but it's ultimately just sexting, not even sure if i count that as cheating unless there is a exchange of nudes or whatever. You're still my cool older sister i have a parasocial relationship with if that counts for anything, just a little depressing that you have accepted cheating as a normal part of relationships, you deserve better than that, i hope you find someone good

>>83023755
checked. that sounds like an actual nightmare

>>83023742
what has any of that to do with addiction, and why would someone experienced with addiction be an authority on neurochemistry? it's all fairly established science you can look it up yourself

>>83023773
>an actual nightmare
Is reality really a nightmare tho?

>>83023779
Relationships are the second worst addiction behind money. And guess what. Every addiction stops working and that includes relationships. Addictions only make you feel good for so long before you have to find a new addiction