Thread 83023932

Fembots, why are you single? List your shortcomings in detail.

because i'm retarded, but others are even more retarded

>>83023932 (OP)
I am a red flag shizo felon

>>83023971
Give me more details, what kind of retardation are you afflicted with?
>>83024029
What felonies?

>>83024048
>what felonies
I'm not American, I just said that to be funny. I beat people up in the past.

>>83024121
>not an actual hardened criminal
lame
Why were you beating people up?

>>83024140
"Felonies" isn't a thing here... I think.
I was angry.

>>83024164
A felony is just a serious crime. You probably have them but call them something else. Misdemeanors get punished with fines or short jail sentences, felonies will be a longer stay in prison maybe upwards of a year.
>I was angry.
What made you angry nona?

>>83024189
>What made you angry nona?
Shizo and I feel like people shit on me. I'm trying to calm down now. Using this site doesn't help.

>>83024227
This site is kind of rage inducing at times. Is there anything that helps you calm down?

>>83024245
>is there anything that makes you happy
Vidya, eating (I know), showering and making my bed (something I need to do), being outside for once.

>>83024260
Those are all good. Maybe you could try exercise too? That helps me calm down and it balances out the eating a little. How long have you been schizo for?

>>83023932 (OP)
I feel like I hate myself way too much and I would reflect that on others. I feel like if I can't even love myself how could i ever expect to love anyone else? People shouldn't have to crunch through a million problems just for a relationship i think.

>>83024121
would you beat me up?

>>83024227
I need you to be my abusive shizo baddie.

im a narcisisst with schizophrenia with a drug addiction, i smoke cigarettes all the time, im weird and i only leave my house to go for a walk that only lasts an hour

>>83024274
I'm not literally shizo, just crazy. I am literally autistic though.
>Maybe you could try exercise too
I like just walking around outside. Just being outdoors makes me feel very grounded... it makes me feel better.

>>83024279
No
>>83024282
No also I'm no baddie

>>83024278
>People shouldn't have to crunch through a million problems just for a relationship i think
Some people enjoy helping their partner deal with things
>>83024287
What drug?
>>83024301
>I'm not literally shizo, just crazy. I am literally autistic though.
Well if you're not schizo that's great, schizophrenia can be really difficult. Autism is a lot more understandable to people, usually.
>Just being outdoors makes me feel very grounded
What stops you from getting out more often?

>>83023932 (OP)
I don't go out to meet people besides work.

>>83024321
>what's stopping you from getting out often
Idk, maybe it's just due to mental reasons rather than my actual situation.

>>83024331
If you set goals and start slow it might easier to build up a habit. If you're anxious you could try very early mornings or later at night too, but night might be dangerous depending on your neighborhood.

>>83024330
>2037
>working
no one likes a tryhard

>>83024502
>>2037
yeah I will have enough money saved up by then to not work

>>83024547
How are you retiring in 12 years I want to be rich

>>83024579
Just live with your parents so you don't have to waste any money on rent, food and bills.

>>83024681
ok but I'm NEET so my money goes from 0 to 0 every month

>>83023932 (OP)
that'd be too specific so I'll have to be dishonest, but the gist of it is:
>sub5
>bad physical and mental health
>jobless useless hikineet
>never built a habit of being functional growing up, so tasks, routine and any work feels overwhelming to me and I can't keep up at the pace of a normal person
>averse to human interactions
>listless and feel nothing most of the time
>religious trauma
despite being lonely I feel like I'm lacking whatever it takes to maintain relationship. I feel like I don't have much to get out of life and that everything is underwhelming and overwhelming at the same time

>>83024694
Well, then you gotta get a job or get neetbux or wait for your parents to die so you can live off any money and/or property you might inherit

>>83024751
>religious trauma
What happened to give you that?

>>83024330
I have the same problem. Sometimes I think about using dating sites but I doubt I'm gonna find anything good there.

Really I guess I just doubt I'd find a woman that isn't either crazy or trying to take advantage of me.

>Black (I have dated guys from 4chan, but they were racist and didn't truly like or accept me)
>Pretty tall (this limits my dating pool)
>Traumatized (lots of bad stuff happened to me, I avoid people as a result)
>Weird (people seem to be put off by me eventually, even if they know me for a while, I am pretty awkward and make off-color jokes, kinda clingy also)
>Loser (I had a career and everything, but I tried to kill myself, so now I'm a depressed NEET)
It's a miserable existence. I'm tired.

>>83024804
how do you date someone that is racist towards you? like how does that even work? not trying to talk shit, I'm genuinely curious

>>83024824
Both relationships happened when I was a teenager with very low self-esteem. I thought that because they showed enough interest to want to date me, it was okay. With the first guy, he never explicitly said it, but through how his family felt about me it was pretty clear, and some of the comments he made about me. With the 2nd guy, it was more explicit but eventually he stopped, but it never really went away and he just hid his contempt better.

>>83024804
How tall are you? It must be very difficult to date on 4chan as a black person that just sounds like self harm to me.

>>83024873
That sucks, I'm sorry to hear that. I've been lucky enough to not have to deal with that as a latino, but I've also barely dated so pretty small sample size. Hope you find someone good.

>>83024888
I'm close to 6 feet. Yeah, definitely a form of self-harm. I never engaged in physical self-harm, really, so I guess that's my method.
>>83024905
Thanks. I hope the same for you as well.

>>83024905
Nta.
I got rejected specifically for being latino. We had dated for a while and then she said that she could never actually be with a latino.

>>83024917
>I'm close to 6 feet
Wow so tall that's cool
Do you think you'll stop being NEET at some point? Getting back into the workforce might make you feel better. It'd give you something to do at least.

>>83024924
that's fucked up, did she just suddenly say that one day or was there some buildup to it?

>>83024781
indoctrinated since birth, things like dating weren't allowed. I do think that I'm personally more prone to stress and catastrophizing however

>>83024966
Are you still religious or have you rejected it?

>>83024937
Thanks, I like being tall. And yes, I don't enjoy being NEET, especially considering the circumstances. But I'm also terrified of being in another job situation that makes me want to rope.

>>83025000
I wish I was tall sometimes but my bones hurt enough as is. What kind of job situation makes you want to rope?

>>83025013
>bones hurt
That doesn't sound normal. Do you have arthritis or something? It hasn't really been an issue aside from clumsy moments, but I think that's more of stuff wrong with me than my size. I got bullied a lot at my job.

>>83024121
>no abusive girlfriend to beat me up and stomp on my balls
why live

>>83024981
Nope. I'm 100% not, though even when I didn't years ago I still felt extreme guilt about it. It just never leaves you because it's not just about religion as a concept but also upbringing

>>83024873
but did you ever like it? a lot of black girls get turned on by that. most mixed race relationships are like that though nothing more than a fetish

>>83025050
>Do you have arthritis or something?
It's just bad joints and old injuries I don't think I have arthritis but who knows lel
>I think that's more of stuff wrong with me than my size
Like what?
>bullied
What is wrong with people? Working sucks enough as is I don't understand why someone would want to make it worse. Life is just difficult. Being NEET is great in comparison but it gets depressing.

>>83024950
I knew she had a problem a with it from the beginning. She tried to ignore it because she liked me in other aspects.
As the relationship developed, I hoped that maybe she would open up to me more and we could get over it together.
The topic came up one day, as it had many times before. But I wanted to be more direct this time, so I just asked her if being latino was truly a problem for her.
She ghosted me for a while and then came back to apologize and tell me that it did represent a big problem, and that it would never work.
She wasn't evil or anything. Just had hangups about it she couldn't get over.

I struggled a lot, because I truly loved her. And otherwise, we got along very well. I went from anger to sadness for a while, but I couldn't be too mad at her, because I knew she wasn't evil, just a bad circumstance. It still hurts though.

>>83024751
this is all me but the male counterpart. would you ever date your looksmatch that way we can be lazy together and watch welcome to the nhk and other sad anime affirmations of our life?

>>83025101
what hangups were there? racist parents?

>>83025078
>but did you ever like it?
No, it wasn't a sex thing. Just not actually liking me.
>>83025091
Physical therapy can help you, bodily sensations like that will only get worse with age.
I'm just a bit clumsy, that's all. I don't know, a lot of them were very unhappy with their lives and I was an easy target. I didn't mind working, I just want to not be mistreated but it's probably not possible considering my lot in life. Some people are just meant to be losers and I'm one of them.

>>83025181
>Physical therapy can help you
I would need surgery as far as I know and the outcomes of that are mixed. I do stretches which help a little and avoid certain movements which helps a lot.
>a lot of them were very unhappy with their lives and I was an easy target
Bullies do tend to be like that, not that it excuses their behavior. It's all a big cycle of suffering.
>but it's probably not possible considering my lot in life
Why do you say that? It's not a big ask to be treated with respect. I don't think anyone is meant to be a loser and even if they are, there's no excuse for the mistreatment.

>>83025259
>I would need surgery, as far as I know, and the outcomes of that are mixed
Ouch, that really sucks. But I'm glad stretches help you. I had an injury before, too, and those resistance band exercises helped me a lot.
>Why do you say that? It's not a big ask to be treated with respect
It kind of is. It's pretty much happened to me everywhere in all aspects of my life. I've accepted it

>>83025364
>that really sucks
I'm used to it at this point, it's been stable for 16 ish years at this point so it's not getting worse at least. The bands do work really well
>It kind of is
Well, maybe it is given how people are, but it shouldn't be. Have you ever had good people in your life? I don't know what's going on that everyone is mistreating you, but you shouldn't have to accept that. You're still a human being, you still deserve some modicum of respect.

>>83025102
I don't think I've been capable of enjoying anything for a long while now, including wallowing in misery

>>83025396
>16 ish years at this point so it's not getting worse at least
Oh wow, that's a long time. Are you older or did something happen when you were very young?
>Have you ever had good people in your life?
Not really, which also makes sense. I am too messed up for good and healthy people to want to be around me.

>>83024287
>im a narcisisst
Narcissists never identify as narcissists....

>>83025542
>Are you older
I'm in my 30s very unfortunately
>I am too messed up for good and healthy people to want to be around me
In what way are you messed up? I've known a lot of people with terrible issues who still manage to find some decent people. I know it's harder. I have my issues too and finding people is difficult for me as well, but it's not impossible.

>>83025181
>No, it wasn't a sex thing. Just not actually liking me.
sorry black femanon i would say id be different but then id be lying. was it guys you met off soc or r9k?
>>83025518
was worth a shot but I know what you mean. you cant enjoy anything anymore? Im at that point not really wallowing in pity just sitting indifferent to the world, dont care if the world burns down because I cant have my own

>>83025598
>I'm in my 30s very unfortunately
What's unfortunate about that? I'm in my late 20s and hope my 30s will be a much better experience.
>what way are you messed up?
Nothing really extra beyond what I outlined in my original post ITT. But I don't know, I just find it safer to keep to myself since when I "put myself out there" it's usually pretty absurd. Where do you usually try to meet people? It's usually gone better for me online for the most part.

>>83025677
>What's unfortunate about that?
The inexorable march of time. I just want to be young forever is all.
>Nothing really extra beyond what I outlined in my original post ITT
None of that sounded really awful to me, if anything you sound the typical person I talk to. I find it safer to keep to myself too. Nothing really absurd has happened to me but people are just difficult to be around for long for me. I pretty much exclusively meet people here. I don't know how to do it irl and I feel like most people irl would not be as tolerant of my weirdness. Where do you go online to meet people?

>>83023932 (OP)
Severely inbred, no guy has ever been okay with it and I don't blame

>>83025765
How inbred exactly? Are you like Hapsburg looking or did you turn out fine? Health issues?

>>83025727
>I just want to be young forever is all.
I feel like if I can tough it out, my life will get better with age (maybe this is just cope).
>tolerant of my weirdness
What's so weird about you? And lately it's been 4chan for me, but I've also met people more locally through some online hobby groups. I haven't been doing that lately though.

>>83025860
>my life will get better with age
I think that's how it goes. My 20s were easier than my teens, my 30s have been easier than my 20s. I hope the trend continues, I hope it works out for you too.
>What's so weird about you?
I'm quiet, require a lot of privacy, don't like doing things, am mostly a shut-in, go through phases of needing to be completely alone, and never really feel comfortable around other people. I've never tried meeting anyone local, I don't think I'd really want to. What are your hobbies?

>>83025898
>I hope it works out for you too.
Only time will tell.
Doesn't the loneliness get to you? I relate to most of those things, but I feel the urge to be around people even occasionally. Do you disappear a lot?
>What are your hobbies?
Nothing special. I used to go hiking with a local group that met somewhat regularly. Almost all of my other hobbies are solitary.

>>83025811
Badly enough that I avoid telling people if possible, it only ever repulses people. I don't look fucked up at least, but it's still a problem for friends let alone partners

>List your shortcomings in detail.
well
>im an autistic neet shut-in
>im kinda scared of men and intimacy
>i have kinda high standards because i want one perfect guy forever
>that perfect guy is my crush and i cant get over him
>i dont like having friends or talking to people (outside of r9k, except my crush)

>>83025982
>Doesn't the loneliness get to you?
Not often. I can be alone for months at a time without even noticing. I do get the urge to talk to people sometimes but it's not usually very strong. If I am talking talking to someone I won't disappear but I'll usually talk less or just tell them that I need to be alone for a bit. People typically don't take any of that well, I think they feel rejected or like I'm trying to cut them off which isn't the case but I can't blame them for thinking that.
>hiking
I haven't been in a very long time but I used to enjoy doing that. All of my hobbies are solitary too. In high school I used to play Magic and DnD, but that was a long time ago. Even video games I only play single player now.

>>83026019
Well I mean you can't be blamed for what your parents did.

If you don't have any serious health complications it wouldn't mean anything to me, but I know I'm kinda weird.

>>83025765
If paternity tests were forced we would probably find this happens more than we thought. Some days I wonder why I look more like my mom's brother than I do my "dad". When my parents got divorced my mom told my ex that her brother was r*ping her when they were kids. Or she was a kid. He wasn't quite so much. The same brother she had a close relationship with my entire life.....

>>83026052
>Not often. I can be alone for months at a time without even noticing. I do get the urge to talk to people sometimes but it's not usually very strong. If I am talking talking to someone I won't disappear but I'll usually talk less or just tell them that I need to be alone for a bit. People typically don't take any of that well, I think they feel rejected or like I'm trying to cut them off which isn't the case but I can't blame them for thinking that.
I knew someone like that before. It did feel a bit like rejection, and they specifically said they'd never message first too.
>Magic and DnD
Those are pretty big now. Groups are pretty easy to find if you ever want to get back into it.

>>83026135
>It did feel a bit like rejection
I try really hard to make it not feel like one, but it's hard to balance "I need to not talk right now" with "I still want to talk to you". I usually message first at least. Have you ever managed to talk to someone for a long period of time? For me it's usually a few months before things fall apart.
>Groups are pretty easy to find if you ever want to get back into it
I still like Magic but I don't think I'd want to play with anyone. Too much commitment. Even playing vidya with people is too much for me, makes me feel like I wouldn't be able to get away if I wanted to. It's irrational, but it's hard to fight that feeling.

>>83023932 (OP)
Idk, men dont like me
Only had first dates

>>83026169
>I try really hard to make it not feel like one, but it's hard to balance "I need to not talk right now" with "I still want to talk to you". I usually message first at least. Have you ever managed to talk to someone for a long period of time? For me it's usually a few months before things fall apart.
At least you're upfront about it. And yeah, I have some online friends from 10+ years ago on my contact list I catch up with occasionally.
>Magic
I never really got into trading card games. I don't like the aspect of paying to win. I like regular card/board games though. I get what you mean with multiplayer vidya. I don't really game much but I've pretty much always played single-player games.

>>83024966
that sounds much like me

>>83026183
You ever got pumped and dumped?
How did you get dates?

>>83026204
>At least you're upfront about it
Yeah I know how I am and I'm trying not to surprise people with my shortcomings. I do have one person that I've known for about 15 years now, but we only talk once every couple of years. They're a lot like me so it just kind of works out. If you can maintain those friendships for so long I think you must be a decent person though.
>I don't like the aspect of paying to win
I never played competitively, just with my friends, so we were all using sub-optimal decks. I'd never be able to justify paying 100s or 1000s for a good deck, that's too crazy for me. Boardgames are fun though, used to play with my siblings a lot but they've all moved away at this point.

i want to hug all of you

>>83026256
> You ever got pumped and dumped?
Never, just kissing
>How did you get dates?
Dating apps, men are not very picky anyways

>>83026183
what were the dates like? was it over food or something entirely different

>>83026257
It's good that you have someone you've known for so long you still can catch up with.
>If you can maintain those friendships for so long I think you must be a decent person though.
Thank you. I don't think friendships are a good indicator of character, though. A lot of bad people have tons of friends, and there are a lot of good people with no friends.
>Boardgames are fun though, used to play with my siblings a lot but they've all moved away at this point.
I'm glad you have those memories with them. If you get together for the holidays maybe you can play again

>>83026285
Just drinks and chatting
cant decide if the worst one was when the guy made me pay for his drinks or the one where a guy faked us going for a walk just to end up outside his apartment in the worst neighbourhood in town at 1 in the morning

>>83026324
Stupid question but I want a female perspective; Is being invited to go for a hike a red flag? I like hiking but I feel like a girl would see it as me trying to get her alone in the woods

>>83025160
Yes.
I thought I could work really hard and prove I'm a good man. But no.

>>83026349
Its ok when you actually know each other or its a group of people
Most wouldnt accept going into the middle of nowhere with a stranger

>>83023932 (OP)
As weird as it may sound to most of you, but one can be single by choice.
Not being single is not necessarily always preferable to being single.
This is however wisdom that most only can gather once having some experience.

>>83023932 (OP)
I'm hideously disfigured. I would feel ashamed to ruin a guy's life with my presence.

>>83026379
Alright, that's what I figured.

I guess trying to figure out first date ideas is probably a lost cause for me anyhow

>>83026437
Disfigured how?

>>83026450
Burn victim. I can't go out in public because people freak out and children scream and cry, it's that hideous.

>>83026473
>Burn victim
God damn, sorry to hear. Burn stories are some of the worst ones.

You mind if I ask how it happened? How much of your body was affected?

>>83026473
The intrusive thoughts sometimes say I should burn my face off

>>83026324
feel like drinks is always an invitation to fuck after and you got to be careful of that with people spiking drinks when youre not looking anyways.

>>83026524
Car accident in HS. I was unconscious and on fire for a time before they could get me out. Most of my body was burned as a result and I'm just lucky I even have hair on my head left.

>>83026528
I would recommend against that.

>>83026564
I would totally sleep with you to boost your ego

>>83026594
You say that but just recently there was another woman on this board in a similar situation, burn victim in Australia. A seemingly nice and charming guy off this board offered to meet up, go on date, sleep together, etc.

He recorded it, posted the pics/clips all around, insulted and made fun of her, and then ghosted her. She killed herself. I'm not looking to get taken advantage of like that, sorry.

>>83026564
>lucky I even have hair on my head left.
I've heard most don't. Does it still hurt, or is it mostly cosmetic damage?

>>83026627
>another woman on this board in a similar situation,
Holy shit what? Are there any articles or anything about it or was it quiet? That's horrific. How'd you find out?

>>83026643
I saw the threads and the fallout, it happened just like 3-5 months ago or so. I was potentially open to meeting someone from here in person before that, not anymore.

>>83026666
Quads of truth, and I don't blame you. I don't want to say too much outside of the mods who have my post history atp but I was also hurt badly by a guy from here. I did not succeed in taking my life though. You're making the right choice

>>83026666 (checked)
For what it's worth I wouldn't let an anecdotal experience keep you from trying to live your life.

I understand we have very different situations but human cruelty is a constant. Some people suffer a lot because of it, and some people get lucky. But the only way for good things to happen is if you try.

>>83026535
> feel like drinks is always an invitation to fuck after
Its just like 1 glass of wine in a random cafe while chatting, not a club or anything

>>83026731
That doesn't sound bad. I dunno. First dates just seem super fuckin weird to me.

>>83026473
can't you wear a mask or gauze or something to cover it up?

>>83026627
maybe stop chasing after clearly non virgin men then? I laugh at the girls suicide because she deserves it if anything. if you are only looking for men you are attracted to on r9k you are in the wrong place. those men are not actual robots and will only pump and dump you. we've warned you women about this for years.

>>83024751
Practically everything after the first point is fixable, please start wanting it.

>>83026802
Nta but virgin guys from here are also capable of this. I don't know why you think that changes much. You even make threads about "practice gfs" for losing your virginity to specifically. This guy could've been one of those

>>83023932 (OP)
>Fembots

there's no such thing

>>83026799
>just go around cosplaying a mummy lol

>>83026564
>>83026473
That's really sad. I would definitely enjoy hugging and petting you. I think I would kiss you too. And if your body has good proportions (hips shoulder ratio, not very overweight, existent butt) I would also definitely rail the shit out of you multiple multiple times, then kiss on a forehead and hug with you.

>t. 27 y.o. virgin terrified of women

>>83026564
God that's awful. I'm so sorry nona. I pray you find someone you love.

>>83026862
I mean maybe it could make the kids laugh instead of scream and cry? sorry

>>83026824
ive never been apart of one of those threads and id take any femanon girlfriend i can get but femanons only want to add the same guys that other femanons add. there are eboys here who have entire harems of femanons at their fingertips. im willing to take any femanon that wants me

>>83026864
Not her but
>as long as you're hot, i would rail the shit out of you
Yeah anon it's no wonder why you're a virgin kek.

>>83026923
You can say that you're not like those guys, but you're Anonymous and you have nothing that sets you apart from them. And when you say shit like "I laugh at the girls suicide because she deserves it if anything" then that's a serious indication that you are just like those guys after all.

>>83026962
Don't bother replying. I didn't really read his full response until you pointed that out. Holy shit. We need to stop coming here, it's just adding extra trauma

>>83026949
I wrote this considering her body is burned too.
And yes, I can only get erection if I view the body as hot. Doesn't work other way.

>>83026949
the average woman is already hot

>>83026962
>>83026994
why should i feel bad for a girl who would have ghosted me regardless just to end up dead because femanons selection of boyfriends is all the same. femanons have all been groomed by the same discord faggots that we literally know them by name on an anonymous message board

>>83027038
I hope the same thing happens to you, or worse inshallah

>>83027038
>why should i feel bad for a girl who would have ghosted me

Ahem
>why should I feel bad for someone who didn't give me what I want
You realize that's what you said right? And that's like sociopathic behavior, not in the "Oh I'm a real sigma chad" way but the "dipshit who can't function in society" way.

Thank you jannies/mods for getting rid of him, I forgive you for past sins