Thread 83068957

How do you deal with regretting things. How do you move on and out it behind you then start solving the problems instead of dwelling on it and avoiding things or sulking

>>83068957 (OP)
Time will do it. I look at the cringe things that I did as evidence that I've grown since then, cause you know, I regret doing them, that's how I look at it.

>>83068957 (OP)
You just do
Shit happens, man
Until death, all defeat is psychological

you give up
theres no hope in fighting yourself

>>83068957 (OP)
just suffer and find something else to care about

>>83068957 (OP)
Just keep doing new things. If you stop doing things all that's left for you is dwelling on shit that already happened.

>>83068957 (OP)
It doesn't matter what you do.

>>83068957 (OP)
meditation, self reflection, try to understand the mind and learn to control it. Not in a forceful way, but in a way you can let go and allow the thoughts to evaporate. Emotions and memories only get activated when we give it our thought energy. Sometimes it's automatic, like being triggered, but a lot of times we're allowing it to happen by ruminating

almost like that exercise, "You are now manually breathing"
similar is the rumination, over time it becomes unconscious habit. start to at least "Manually ruminate" and then you can "Manually not ruminate" and start to shift your brain's neural pathways

Regret is just you wanting to go back in time and make different decisions. You just have to learn to accept you are who you are right now. Understand it is what you who made those choices and learn to love yourself and understand you made the best decision you could make with the knowledge you had at the time. It's all going to be fine. Everyone on this board is a narcissists and they have a hard time loving themselves unless their perfect.

>>83068957 (OP)
you need to be able to forgive yourself youre a better human now
we only realize what we really had when we lose it