Thread 83069943

people over 25 please answer, does it ever get better

A little. Not really. You might get some false hope.

t. 27

>>83069943 (OP)
You will twist down the gizzard of the demon for all eternity

It gets both better and worse.
The best I can tell you is that you need to value your (relative) youth more, cuz people don't value their youth in their twenties enough and only wake up to how important it was when it's gone.
Even if it feels like your life is shit and a mess, it's shit and a mess and 25, which is much different from it being shit and a mess at 35.
If there is something you need to be doing (careerwise, fitnesswise or whatever), but you're not doing, you should change that asap.

i'm almost 40 now. it seems to come in waves, like sometimes things are really bad and then they get better and then bad again. what does get better as you age is your emotional regulation, I struggled in my 20s in ways that are less now in that respect. maybe hormonal. I'd say what weighs on me now is more depression and the weight of things piling on me, the guilt of my mistakes, the realization of who I am (maybe not a great person). I see why male suicide rates are so high as we age, it gets hard to go on when you don't have anything to look forward to.

For me everything stopped feeling so fucking dramatic and important. I lost A LOT of opportunities in my twenties, pretty sure I have some sort of mental illness, but I'm in my early 30s now and I just kinda feel content now. But consider that I'm not working a dead-end wagie job now, I feel like awful jobs is what truly drives people mad and suicidal. I'm basically NEET now (technically I have a gig but that's really low amount of money)

>>83069943 (OP)
It gets worse. Much worse.

>>83070002
Im 33. Kissless virgin. I live in a one room unit owned by my parents. Basically a neet but I do some online selling through ebay and Amazon. I stopped caring a long time ago.

>>83069943 (OP)
It hasn't.

Only normies say that because they posted here when they were 17-21 thinking it was over because they're late bloomers or they hadn't gone to college yet.
These people end up making it through college, likely making freinds or meeting a girl, especially if they're white, and then they get a job and they really start looking attractive to women.

(not OP)
>>83069950
>>83069960
What's the point of keeping living then? Is it better to just an hero?
>>83069991
>the only good thing in my life is slowly being lost every second
It doesn't make me happier desu

>>83069943 (OP)
Linear time is an illusion

>>83070034
>>the only good thing in my life
It's not the ONLY good thing, it's A GOOD THING that's easy to waste.
You're in the process of wasting it. I've been there myself and I'm telling you, from the future, to try to not waste it all.

>>83070034
>What's the point of keeping living then?
Not them, but for me its mostly drugs and other instant dopamine sources. I don't see a reason to end it immediately when I can have at least some sort of hedonistic pleasures left and feel good in a moment. I do a lot of tramadol and amphetamines.

>>83069943 (OP)
it depends on whether you have a decent career or not
if you do have a nice job then things can get a little better. even if you dont find a gf then you can do anything you want, and also your chances of finding a gf kinda go up a little bit because... you know, money.
if you dont, then your 20s and 30s and so on will be just bedrotting

>>83070047
>try to not waste it all
No one wastes their youth on purpose, sometimes there are simply no other options.
And when youth ends, what else will be left?
>>83070066
>*my face reading that*

>>83070093
>*my face reading that*
Fluoride stare?

>>83070093
>sometimes there are simply no other options.
You're more in control when it comes to creating options than you think.

>And when youth ends, what else will be left?
Lasagna.

>>83069943 (OP)
t. 32.
It's just different. You'll likely have the same angst and profound appreciation for life and its complexities as you do as a youth, but now with the growing realisation that you're expected to 'deal with it' a lot more than you used to.
Whether or not you chose to 'deal with it' or chose a different path of life depends on your paradigm for existing.
You learn that life isn't about 'happiness' per say, rather the journey of life itself is the reward of living. Whether or not that speaks to you depends on your temperament and life experiences too.
Fundamentally we are alone, but can enjoy the company of others as we journey across this weird path of existence called 'life'.
This isn't just from a NEET perspective either, have lived numerous lives the past few years.
If you end up living a normie life though then it's pretty good imo, life just 'makes sense' moreso than other forms of living.
Take all our perspectives with a grain of salt, but I don't suggest an heroing, wouldn't you like to know how it all pans out?

>>83070102
It's not at all encouraging to know that to live life you need to avoid being sober as much as possible to escape living in real life, it's almost a paradox, and I'm sure it will end badly...
>>83070103
Well, if everything goes wrong, I'll come back here in order to pass your message on to others, I guess
>lasagna
-__-

>>83069943 (OP)
I'm in my 40s and I can say: with that distance I see how totally stupid I was with 25, and how totally stupid everyone is with 25. Because at that age you have no life experience and just can't understand life, the world, politics etc. And it's sad to see all the zoomers falling for the same traps and baits from the media that I have fallen for with 25.
So yes, it gets better, you start to think after 40.
(problem is: the world isn't getting any better)

>>83070145
>and I'm sure it will end badly
Works better than immediate suicide.

I think it gets better. I'm not as dumb and not as much of a know-it-all as I was in my twenties. I don't make all those mistakes because of it. There's less arguments, I'm more skilled, have better decision making skills, I'm respected more, etc. The main con is the usual age related bs like looks dimishing and pains.

>>83069943 (OP)
No, it will consistently get worse in new and interesting ways you never expected.

>>83070170
I'm >>83070213. I totally relate to the part where zoomers falling for the same tricks previous generations fell for. I cannot believe how stupid I was at their age. And they're just repeating it.

>>83069943 (OP)
no. there were some positive moments but overall its a downtrend for me since 22

>>83069943 (OP)
>does it ever get better
No.

Just turned 21 and it's never been more over
Though I've been felt this way since 17

>>83069943 (OP)
For a while you'll just keep breaking up further, in many new places and more thoroughly in old ones, until you are no longer capable of sustaining consciousness, then it gets infinitely better.

Remember, you're asking in a place where everyone is very biased to being hopeless.
Life is what you make of it, and since you're very young, you will have plenty of opportunities to turn it around.
So I can say without a doubt, it does get better.

>>83069943 (OP)
I'm 28 chopped virgin unc status. It gers worse but you care less so in a way it gers better.

For me its the exact opposite of what most people here say.
It doesnt get better. It gets worse. I felt pretty content during my 20s bc life got better, I had more freedom and my own money. But starting with 30 all you missed out on starts to hit hard. I used to not care, now I cant think of anything else. Bc its too late. Its over, really. Everything I should have done should have happened 10 years ago. Now I will never be able to catch up. That fantasy of finally meeting nice people who will accept you didnt come true. With 30+ you are the creepy old dude who doesnt really belong anywhere, if you havent established yourself with others already.
Lost time is never found again. Remember that anon. Ive heared that sentence too late.

>>83070425
>It gets worse
that's what almost everyone here say thoughbeit

>>83069943 (OP)
32
yes but you have to try
actually try, dont just think about it and wait
being alone gets easier, but i cant really control that.
work on parts of life you can control/change
much happier than i was at 16~

>>83069943 (OP)
Fuck no, whatever you improve on will be shat on by the rest of life death spiraling in a billion different interconnected ways that you can't influence. Soon we won't even be able to weather the storm, everyone will have to become lawless to survive.

>>83069943 (OP)
kill me plz

I honestly wish I had given up sooner. All that effort and hard work for nothing.

>>83069943 (OP)
I'm not over 25 but I will say that it won't get better and never will be

>>83070455
You have to do it yourself. No one is gonna help you with that

>>83069943 (OP)
Im 28. No it doesn't. At least not for everyone.
>>83070114
No offence but your post was really bad. Actually you know what: Yes offence. Fuck you.
Your post was really fucking bad. You said absolutely fucking nothing with that wall of text. It wasnt even pretentious. It just sucked nigger dick.
It feels good to insult someone haha

>>83069943 (OP)
No but I got better at dealing with the fact that it doesn't get better. I used to be violently suicidally depressed and now it's mostly okay as long as I don't run into beautiful girls or old friends who became successful

>>83069943 (OP)
No, it gets harder but you also kinda don't give a damn.

>>83069943 (OP)
>people over 25 please answer, does it ever get better
Not really. But you do get used to it.
If you're lucky, you can NEET, enjoy some copes, and disassociate.

>>83070485
This. I'm high on weed and benzos 9 am on Monday and no longer contributing to your fucking gay society.

>>83070425
>Now I will never be able to catch up
who gives a fuck, if you want to do something then go for it, who cares what others think and if you're doing something 'incorrectly' or not at the right 'time'. That's normie tier shit.

>>83070485
Be proud you tried anon. You can't do more than your best.

>>83069943 (OP)
It gets better if you deal with your issues instead of ignoring them.

>>83069943 (OP)
It depends on you, as generic as it sounds. Life gets hard but you can't break under the pressure.
Don't give up and don't give into negative thoughts (I'm too old, only bad stuff happen to me, etc).

>>83069943 (OP)
You start to care less. Thats not really a good thing if you're a loser. Also your body starts to break down. You get fat more easily, you can't run like you use to, things that once took a day to heal like twisting your arm the wrong way now take 3-5 days to heal.

>>83069943 (OP)
Asking a question like that on /r9k/ will always yield negative answers. Remember, happy people don't visit this place.

this life is hell ofc

>>83069943 (OP)
despite being only 25, im financially stable: can afford groceries and clothes without looking at the prices, somewhat mentally sane, but a total fucking loser when it comes to relationships. for me, it did get better, because as a child/teenager i could only dream about owning the latest toys, ipod, and gaming consoles. as for owning a big house with garden, having a loyal wife who doesn't cheat and nag, children who don't troon out and get brainwashed by tiktok, is more unattainable that it has ever been.

>>83071860
Where can one get unbiased answers about that type of question? The church?

>>83069943 (OP)
you have until 30-32, after that it's over

Yes. The pain was really, really bad when I was younger. It doesn't hurt as bad when you are older. It does hurt don't get me wrong but the anguish I used to feel just isn't there. You get used to it. It doesn't get better you just get the areas in your brain used to the misery. You know that depression where you feel weak and sad and even breathing makes you want to cry? It still happens but not so bad where there are chest pains. You can also buy alcohol and drugs to numb it more easily so that really helps. Routine also helps. I was way more miserable at 23 than I am at 31

>>83069943 (OP)
it depends on which area of your life you want to "get better", and whether or not you put effort into it
in my case it was my professional life, i worked hard and it got a bit better, so there we go
but on my love life, i want it to get better but it's been like 6-7 years since i put in any effort at all, and it's been on a steady decline since
maybe now i'll actually try to revert it but i fear i may be already too old for what i want at 29

tl;dr it usually gets better if you consistently put in effort and actually want it to get better

im 32 and my life got significantly better starting last year. i even have a gf now

>>83069943 (OP)
No not really. You just learn to cope with it.

>>83069943 (OP)
It gets better only when you take life by the horns and do what you dreamed of. Your dreams dont have to be massive and your first steps wont satisfy you but they will be the foundation to long lasting satisfaction.

>>83069943 (OP)
It only gets better if you start taking steps towards making it better right now.
If you choose to do nothing, if you just wait for the universe to change in its own, it will get worse.

>>83070034
>What's the point of keeping living then?
eventually the demon will choke or at least get full

>>83069943 (OP)
NO, but if you try really hard you might get better which could make life better. Even if you're subject to so many things outside of your control you should always think of yourself as being in the driver's seat. Your life is as you make it.

>>83072120
>eventually the demon will choke or at least get full
I hope you're right...

Honestly as someone who is actually is 25 I truly can't say a definite answer. Some days I'm happy but other days I'm not along with being suicidal allowing my past to haunt me. Having my own place has helped my mental health but I still fall into old habits from my time as a NEET. It only gets better the earlier you start planting the seeds for your future even when most things in life are unpredictable. As many anon's here have said shit gets worse when you don't take advantage of your youth because you will never get that lost time back. Not to sound like a normie but it does better when you attempt to put your best foot forward.

>>83069943 (OP)
I doesn't. I doubt it. I'm now almost 29 and I'm still a kissless handholdless hugless friendless disabled robot incel I was 15 years ago. It is worse because I can't dream anymore that I will become normal and things will improve once I'm 16, 18, 20, 25,...

I have a void in my brain where the emotional intelligence is located

If you are not disabled maybe it can get better. Sometimes I have moments where I think I'm normal like omg I want to get nipple piercings then I remember I am a freak. Now I have stopped taking antidepressants. Maybe I will get the piercings. Fucking myself with dildos will. Be more fun

I'm skeletor. 191 and currently 73 kg

Yes but not on its own. You need to make it better.

>>83073292
Are you a gril? why would you pierce your nipples if you're a guy

>>83069943 (OP)
It feels like everyone other than me is doing good so if you are a sperg and here like me it never gets better.

>>83069943 (OP)
It gets worse, but you learn to cope better and abandon stuff that's causing you suffering.

>>83069943 (OP)
Not really you just get used to it