do you have any moves/lines to safely test the waters with a girl who's maybe still nervous about admitting things? i've started hanging out & side texting with someone i've previously only known through our mutual friend group. we've gotten drinks once now and hung out at her place. there's a lot of mutual complimenting and asking questions. we're both texting first and trying to make plans. i'm openly a lesbian she has said she is bi but has also confided in me she shortly after we started talking that sometimes feels like she's only straight compulsively.
that's like sooooo many signs except there hasn't been much touching, and none of our talks have ever fully turned into flirting. but i've also learned over the time i've known her that she has a lot going on that holds her back in those ways.
i think if i just come right out she will pull back & it won't necessarily be because she's not interested?
i want to give her the opportunity to come out of her shell and explore any feelings she's having without crossing any of her boundaries. i really, really, really like this girl and am happy to let things develop naturally and end up where they do. our relationship wouldn't be much different at the moment if we were dating so i'm very pleased with it. but i also am used to girls who are more open about this stuff, and don't want to let things settle if she's trying to move further but maybe having trouble overcoming anxieties that are keeping her from saying it.
thank you sorry i reworded this 3 times to try and make it short but it didn't end up short. i'm also a nervous nelly.