>spent 6 years on self improvement
>became proficient at a number of different hobbies
>hit the gym hard every week day, lose a bunch of weight, look good for the first time
>improve my standing in the work world, train up and receive a ton of extra responsibility and compensated very well for it
>make friends with work colleagues, gym friends, other hobby buddies, etc
>never been better physically, mentally and financially
>have landed zero dates in the past 6 years
>hitting diminishingly low returns on all the above
I'm not sure what really else I can do to improve my chances of ever meeting and dating girls, let alone getting engaged and married to one. I have tried all kinds of activities. I have joined running clubs, work out groups, book clubs, took cooking classes, dance classes. I've gotten into photography heavily (favorite is astrophotography, got a nice full frame Canon for it), I've volunteered my efforts for family weddings and comic/anime conventions. I've learned to be more expressive and assertively direct through DMing with my tabletop group, some of the few true friends I've made over the years. I love learning new things and am endlessly fascinated with how things are the way they are. Financially, I own my own 3br 2bath. I own my own car, and I'm frugal with money.

All that aside, I do know my weaknesses. Even with running and lifting for years, I am probably a 4/10. I'm average for my height (5'9). None of these are deal breakers; having good charisma can easily make up for that. I'm shy. I'm much improved than before, but I still always feel on edge or I feel like they think I'm a liar or something. Obviously some shit went down for a couple of years where people weren't going out in 2020, but I have not been out with anyone, and I've tried it all. I've tried about half a dozen dating apps, I've tried to have friends whore me out to their mutuals, I've had family try to set me up. Zilch.

I've hit the limits and I see no way to change my fate.