What do I have to do to find a boyfriend without giving in to men who are just super aggressive (in a bad way) or gross men? I'm like a 6/10 twinkhon with an okay body and every time I post self people ask how I'm having trouble finding someone.

my standards for a man are:
>don't be obese
>be taller than 173cm (my height)
>don't be extremely sexually forward
>don't be a bottom or have bottomed in the past
>don't be an absolute loser without a car without a stable job living with your parents

are my standards too high? is the problem with me and not the men? Every guy treats me like im some gross man who would fuck anything that moves like they do. I'm touch starved and needy as fuck, but don't want to lower my standards.
i want one man to be ravaged by not give myself up to a bunch of random strangers over and over.