>Married 17 years, 3 kids
>Sex died 3 years ago, she rejects every advance.
>Constant nagging, fights, says I don't do enough
>She went to help her sick dad for 2 months
>House was peaceful without her
>Realized I wanted a divorce
Told her when she got back, she begged for therapy
>I refused, not getting gaslit
>Backed off divorce for the kids
>Told her I don't love her, just staying for them
>She tries to be sexy now, but it’s dead for me
>Still got needs though.
Thinking of asking her to open the marriage so I can get laid elsewhere.
How the hell do I convince her without turning it into a war?