Dug up an old image, it's a bit corny but some might need to read this.
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It would not be whining, Anon. I want to hear your troubles.
>I want to not make everyone around me miserable. How does one achieve this?
Tell me about your circumstances and the ways you feel you make others miserable. Also of course about the people in your environment.

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>>39910919
Welcome back, Anon.
I'm sorry to hear things didn't go smoothly by the looks of it. If one on ones are your strength then we should leverage that in your favor, you never got her contact right?
>Also I guess I was upset that I was read as just a dude.
What conclusions do you draw from processing it this way? Originally I addressed a lot of points you made that.. from my outsider cis guy perspective read like dysphoria thoughts, but I cut most of that since I felt like I am trying to rationally dismantle a feeling you had in the moment that has already passed. However, if you ever want to talk about trans stuff, do prod me. I might be cis but given my experience talking with a ton of people in very similar situations.. perhaps I could add something useful. I won't press this however. I feel like detranners face pressure in every direction by default so I try my very best not to butt into things there.

As for your trans colleague: could you perhaps invite him to your place, or to hang out with him at for example a cafe? It's my go-to to have quality 1 on 1 time with people because just like you I do TERRIBLY at parties.
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I'm sorry to hear, Anon.. I think I know which anon you are, we talked before right?