I have two young kids. One was born in Country A, the other in Country B. I used to be with their mother – we moved abroad together years ago, but we’ve been separated for almost two years now. She stayed in another country with both kids, I went back alone.

I officially acknowledged paternity for one of them. The other, I didn’t – I was going through a really dark period back then (death in the family, mental health stuff). I want to fix that now, but she’s blocking everything.

She recently went through my phone without permission, saw that I’d been talking to other women, and lost it – even though we’re not together anymore. Then she deleted our entire WhatsApp chat history, out of spite. That chat included a lot of stuff where she talked about drinking, drugs, and suicidal thoughts. I was keeping it as evidence, along with other messages where I expressed concerns. Now it’s all gone – I only have a few screenshots left.

She seems mentally unstable. Her older daughter (from a previous relationship, around 13) hasn’t been to school since 3rd grade. And now she wants to travel around Europe with the kids.

I’ve tried contacting legal services and government offices – but nothing’s moving forward. I feel like time is running out, and I want to get my kids out of there before something bad happens. But without full paternity or custody rights, it’s almost impossible.

What would you do in this situation? Is there anything I can do from the outside? I'm honestly at a loss here