My perspective of my avoidant girlfriend:
>doesn't give a fuck about me most of the time
>doesn't bother to check my messages or reply most of the time
>doesn't bother to reciprocate love most of the time
>can't communicate for shit
It's nice when we meet in person (if I can even manage to set a date), but when we're apart it becomes very dry and difficult.
I keep trying to excuse her behavior with the fact that she's avoidant, but honestly, knowing what it is doesn't make it any easier. From time to time I still start heavily doubting whether she's just using the fact that she has an unhealthy attachment style to deflect any responsibility in this relationship. Surely you can't just say you're avoidant and leave it at that? Can any self aware avoidants chip in on how to deal with this?