All that's ever been said about about your cube aids is that you can draw out their strength. (You) being a good leader and a kind, thoughtful person is what draws them to you, and after years of story, your own reputation has started to precede you.

There's a reason why botes all start at "stranger" and can drop to "disappointed" with misuse, you meet the botes and grow closer to them over time like any human relationship, and you can also (though rarely) fumble them.