>>81663653
If I'm being totally honest with you, this post makes my skin crawl. If we were in a relationship I'd be more offended that you felt you had accurately sized me up and tried to keep me in my place than I would be happy that you said you loved me. I'd be sour that you had characterized my own striving-towards something better as something somehow alien to myself, and I feel like the true appreciation of a person that is meant by "I love you" consists partially in recognition of the things they care about or want. I would feel disrespected, and I would feel as though you thought you were speaking to me as one greater than me, and therefore able to define what my limits are as a person, rather than as a fellow in cooperation with myself.
I feel like a a lot of men would feel similarly disrespected by such a comment, and I don't think most of them would spell it out like this past "I feel disrespected." Even packaged with "I love you," no man likes being told that the thing he wants to be or tries to be isn't part of how you see him. That's like, "Oh honey, stop trying to be cool, we all know you're not cool, but that's okay because you're my Cookie Monster Snuggleb-" Man, fuck off.
Doesn't help that this is the kind of dumbass comment that makes dudes second-guess every little thing they try to do. Fuck, can I sign up to go back to the gym? Is that "me" enough or is that trying to be something I'm not? Can I wear this hat, or does that not fall into whatever definition you consider to be authentically me? Can I pick up a new hobby? Or would you basically call me a poser for trying, in some infuriatingly sweet way?
Nah, fuck that. Be aware: We hate this.