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6/28/2025, 11:14:29 PM
>>40193335
Welcome back, Anon! Nice to see you. Dating might do you well. I understand your reservations, and sure, a partner is not a therapist, but you are progressing and working on yourself. And it might be that intimacy is going to help you reach your goals faster. Besides, potential partners should also have a say in whether you are stable enough, which they can only have if you put yourself out there.
>my heart and my mind feel separated from one another and I get sad.
that is perfectly normal, Anon! Really!
>I feel like there is a split between my thoughts and what in reality I look like.
That's also perfectly normal. I hope seeing yourself from the outside gave you a bit of confidence! You aren't less yourself for contradictions like this, not any more or less than I at least. I hope that is a relief to hear. I'm also super happy to hear you cleaned your room! If it could have been mold, keep an eye on it. And if it comes back get mold treatment and make sure to kill it off fully.
>>40194467
>Yeah we all spend time at eachothers places and such.
Very good. So the main issue is that they struggle to relate, basically. But they don't need to deeply empathize to sympathize. I'm cis too, but I understand on a very basal level the themes of grappling with fundamental aspects of your identity, the pain of masking essential aspects of oneself, the othering and alienation when people around you are not at all like you. I can derive sympathy from my own experiences. And I can even relate through them, even if i cannot in good conscience say I ever felt the same. Nonetheless, it sounds like you need other tranners in your life, too. All of that is to say that it is great you talk to them about things that are outside of their own realm of experience. Yet, I think having someone who has been through those struggles would probably ground you. Are there any lgbt circles around you, locally?
>Trying to get laser but so far no luck.
Ah, lack of availability?
Welcome back, Anon! Nice to see you. Dating might do you well. I understand your reservations, and sure, a partner is not a therapist, but you are progressing and working on yourself. And it might be that intimacy is going to help you reach your goals faster. Besides, potential partners should also have a say in whether you are stable enough, which they can only have if you put yourself out there.
>my heart and my mind feel separated from one another and I get sad.
that is perfectly normal, Anon! Really!
>I feel like there is a split between my thoughts and what in reality I look like.
That's also perfectly normal. I hope seeing yourself from the outside gave you a bit of confidence! You aren't less yourself for contradictions like this, not any more or less than I at least. I hope that is a relief to hear. I'm also super happy to hear you cleaned your room! If it could have been mold, keep an eye on it. And if it comes back get mold treatment and make sure to kill it off fully.
>>40194467
>Yeah we all spend time at eachothers places and such.
Very good. So the main issue is that they struggle to relate, basically. But they don't need to deeply empathize to sympathize. I'm cis too, but I understand on a very basal level the themes of grappling with fundamental aspects of your identity, the pain of masking essential aspects of oneself, the othering and alienation when people around you are not at all like you. I can derive sympathy from my own experiences. And I can even relate through them, even if i cannot in good conscience say I ever felt the same. Nonetheless, it sounds like you need other tranners in your life, too. All of that is to say that it is great you talk to them about things that are outside of their own realm of experience. Yet, I think having someone who has been through those struggles would probably ground you. Are there any lgbt circles around you, locally?
>Trying to get laser but so far no luck.
Ah, lack of availability?
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