I'm starting to consider a man being in therapy a HUGE red flag in dating now and I'm wondering if any other women are noticing this?

It seemed for a while, like say the last 5 years or so there has been this huge push to get more men to see therapists and work on themselves and everyone seemed to think this was a positive. But it seems actually this has been not a good thing, from my own personal experience I'm been on dates and a few relationships with men in therapy, and they are using it like they have unlocked a new superpower. I've had therapy-speak weaponized and used against me, and it more and more seems like this is just teaching them to be more manipulative, more cunning and sly. They now have an array of various tactics at their disposal unknown to them previously, and they are using it to trick us and use suggestion and coercion.

So back to my original point, I'm currently dating this new guy, it's been going well on our last date Saturday night he tole me he was in therapy to help repair some trauma and to work on his self. I really thought we had a good thing going up until then, and that is making me take a hard look at all of our previous dates and interactions and looking for clues on him using this against me. I hate feeling like this, like I have to be on the defensive because guys are so well versed now in additional manipulative skills, but what else can I do?