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7/1/2025, 2:53:59 PM
>>76324914
I actually think YOU'RE the one that's viewing this from a male lens.
>The dynamic is secondary if they all look like prettyboys or are switches.
This is exactly what I'm talking about.
They all look like prettyboys because their looks aren't what makes the dynamic. How they act with each other is what makes the dynamic.
In other words, the dynamic is HIGHLIGHTED by the fact that they all look like prettyboys.
Also, "switches" are a cultural myth.
A woman who likes to be taken out to dinner and bought things while also liking to be dominated during sex isn't a fucking 'switch'. That is normal limbic behavior.
Submission to a partner that has been preselected for dominance is only limbically sexually arousing to women if they determine that man to be safe.
It is an evolutionary mechanism.
There is no such thing as 'switches' objectively, there is only normal behavior and fetishes.
Your problem is that you are thinking about this from the male gaze standpoint.
Your looking at the men in yaoi, seeing the lack of Chad-like physical traits, and assuming that the sexual dynamics are non-important because of it, and that yaoi's appeal is no different than that of an obscene taboo or fucked-up fetish for mentally ill people.
This isn't how the women who write and read yaoi think about it. It isn't about gay sex at all.
It illustrates a massive sexual asymmetry between men and women that most dudes never come close to grasping,
If you want to know more about this without me rambling, look up how the salience network in the female brain reacts differently based on dominance prelection in the different phases of the menstural cycle.
They are hardwired to preselect a dominant male, and then prone them for saftey before limbic arousal is possible.
Arousal is far more cognitive than visual with women, and their social dominance detection is far superior than men's is. Even preschool girls who haven't even developed sex drive outperform men at it.
I actually think YOU'RE the one that's viewing this from a male lens.
>The dynamic is secondary if they all look like prettyboys or are switches.
This is exactly what I'm talking about.
They all look like prettyboys because their looks aren't what makes the dynamic. How they act with each other is what makes the dynamic.
In other words, the dynamic is HIGHLIGHTED by the fact that they all look like prettyboys.
Also, "switches" are a cultural myth.
A woman who likes to be taken out to dinner and bought things while also liking to be dominated during sex isn't a fucking 'switch'. That is normal limbic behavior.
Submission to a partner that has been preselected for dominance is only limbically sexually arousing to women if they determine that man to be safe.
It is an evolutionary mechanism.
There is no such thing as 'switches' objectively, there is only normal behavior and fetishes.
Your problem is that you are thinking about this from the male gaze standpoint.
Your looking at the men in yaoi, seeing the lack of Chad-like physical traits, and assuming that the sexual dynamics are non-important because of it, and that yaoi's appeal is no different than that of an obscene taboo or fucked-up fetish for mentally ill people.
This isn't how the women who write and read yaoi think about it. It isn't about gay sex at all.
It illustrates a massive sexual asymmetry between men and women that most dudes never come close to grasping,
If you want to know more about this without me rambling, look up how the salience network in the female brain reacts differently based on dominance prelection in the different phases of the menstural cycle.
They are hardwired to preselect a dominant male, and then prone them for saftey before limbic arousal is possible.
Arousal is far more cognitive than visual with women, and their social dominance detection is far superior than men's is. Even preschool girls who haven't even developed sex drive outperform men at it.
6/27/2025, 3:03:15 AM
>>76304762
>>76304780
>>76306172
Counterpoint; Humans are biological social creatures, and trying to eliminate the natural mentality of comparison and competition is antithetical to human nature.
High school party culture is objectively stupid as you've outlined, but that doesn't stop incels and betas from seething at the fact that they were excluded from it.
No amount of 'convincing' will make it sting any less for them. It's not about whether parties are productive, it's about the natural human distaste for social exclusion.
For a human to, as you put it;
>move past this factory of artificial suffering
then they would have to deny their humanity itself, because comparison and social competition IS THE CENTERPIECE of humanity.
You can't convince a bird not to fly, even if they isn't anywhere for the bird to go.
You can't convince a dog not to run around the house in circles when it's excited.
And you can't convince ANY ANIMAL out of falling into their natural biological mechanisms.
The only people who subscribe to what you say are chuds, incels, and warped minds. People who are so clinically off the deep end of isolation and hatred that they need to cope by convincing themselves that they can exist as "lone wolves" and don't actually need social attention and positive affirmation from others.
It's a lie.
The true answer is to just win the competition through whatever means you can. Some people really are just fucked.
>>76304780
>>76306172
Counterpoint; Humans are biological social creatures, and trying to eliminate the natural mentality of comparison and competition is antithetical to human nature.
High school party culture is objectively stupid as you've outlined, but that doesn't stop incels and betas from seething at the fact that they were excluded from it.
No amount of 'convincing' will make it sting any less for them. It's not about whether parties are productive, it's about the natural human distaste for social exclusion.
For a human to, as you put it;
>move past this factory of artificial suffering
then they would have to deny their humanity itself, because comparison and social competition IS THE CENTERPIECE of humanity.
You can't convince a bird not to fly, even if they isn't anywhere for the bird to go.
You can't convince a dog not to run around the house in circles when it's excited.
And you can't convince ANY ANIMAL out of falling into their natural biological mechanisms.
The only people who subscribe to what you say are chuds, incels, and warped minds. People who are so clinically off the deep end of isolation and hatred that they need to cope by convincing themselves that they can exist as "lone wolves" and don't actually need social attention and positive affirmation from others.
It's a lie.
The true answer is to just win the competition through whatever means you can. Some people really are just fucked.
6/14/2025, 4:09:11 AM
>>76258690
Anon I can save you. Listen to me.
You need to condition your neuroplasticity to conform to social dominance by creating positive feedback loops and being brave. This only works if your bravery is rewarded positively though.
There's a reason why shaky hands is called "nerves", it is literally indicative of your nervous system being overloaded.
Think of it like a scary rollercoaster. You feel a ton of nerves beforehand, but once you ride it, you aren't scared of it anymore. You effectively just became dominant in that situation, since your neuroplasticity has calibrated your nervous system not to be overloaded by it. The same can be done for talking to bitches
If you talk to a bitch and it goes terribly, the negative feedback loop (bravery punished) will make you fear the situation more and become less brave, so start with small easy wins and condition your nerves for dominance.
You cannot consciously affirm the belief that you are a Chad to yourself and expect that to work. You need to let your neurons adjust themselves subconsciously before you can exhibit social dominance. We evolved to have these feedback loops from ancient primates being challenging for dominance. Your inability to talk to women isn't a mistake, it is your nervous system preforming correctly, and saying: "You are not the dominant one here".
It aint bluepill nonsense, it's all biology.
Dominance ISN'T aggression, it's the exact opposite. It means being calm under pressure, and being seen as powerful.
Aggression, on the other hand, is the state of being threatened. And is universally unattractive.
Ovulatory women subconsciously preselect dominance cues, while men subconsciously preselect fertility cues (mostly visual). So even if women don't wanna fuck, or don't consciously value social dominance, they still subconsciously detect it and crave it.
If you're 6'2 and aren't super ugly, then you absolutely can pull bitches if you exhibit dominance. You can't fake it, you need to BE it.
Anon I can save you. Listen to me.
You need to condition your neuroplasticity to conform to social dominance by creating positive feedback loops and being brave. This only works if your bravery is rewarded positively though.
There's a reason why shaky hands is called "nerves", it is literally indicative of your nervous system being overloaded.
Think of it like a scary rollercoaster. You feel a ton of nerves beforehand, but once you ride it, you aren't scared of it anymore. You effectively just became dominant in that situation, since your neuroplasticity has calibrated your nervous system not to be overloaded by it. The same can be done for talking to bitches
If you talk to a bitch and it goes terribly, the negative feedback loop (bravery punished) will make you fear the situation more and become less brave, so start with small easy wins and condition your nerves for dominance.
You cannot consciously affirm the belief that you are a Chad to yourself and expect that to work. You need to let your neurons adjust themselves subconsciously before you can exhibit social dominance. We evolved to have these feedback loops from ancient primates being challenging for dominance. Your inability to talk to women isn't a mistake, it is your nervous system preforming correctly, and saying: "You are not the dominant one here".
It aint bluepill nonsense, it's all biology.
Dominance ISN'T aggression, it's the exact opposite. It means being calm under pressure, and being seen as powerful.
Aggression, on the other hand, is the state of being threatened. And is universally unattractive.
Ovulatory women subconsciously preselect dominance cues, while men subconsciously preselect fertility cues (mostly visual). So even if women don't wanna fuck, or don't consciously value social dominance, they still subconsciously detect it and crave it.
If you're 6'2 and aren't super ugly, then you absolutely can pull bitches if you exhibit dominance. You can't fake it, you need to BE it.
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