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Asuka craves the unconditional, tender motherly care that she didn't receive from her mother (e.g. being fed and held), but also the element of personal validation that a relationship with a guy she deems respectable would bring her
Basically, Asuka wants a man to be her mommy
Shinji wants to feel needed and useful as to justify his own existence to himself, which he considers as inherently worthless, while simultaneously having an affinity for authority figures that can guide his actions when he doesn't know what to do; but he also doesn't want to be a simple beast of burden, he wants to be treated with the "gentle touch" mentioned in the intro and shown affection
Basically, Shinji wants a woman (preferably) to be his daddy
Freud would cum at the very thought of this