the friend who does that is also the person that downloads new mods for it every day.
I can never just join because our Vintage story server now requires I Download the 160+holo life skins pack model replacer the food never spoils mod. Redstone elevators conversion mod and the flying nissan mod that shouldn't interfere because he went straight from copper to steel when the rest of us logged off.
or with whatever fotm friendslop, we need another 160+ hololife skin + sound pack and then a carry more mod etc etc. always removing the defining look and challenge of every game.

it's been half a year since I last played with him which is sad but telling.