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>he threatens suicide if I even suggest something is wrong with our relationship
Sorry to hear it’s this bad between you two, Seraphanon...
There’s no way for me to phrase this politely:
Your husband sounds like an emotionally immature asshole who would happily trade in you and your childrens discomfort in exchange for longer naps and less work for himself.
Everybody needs friends, and ideally most of us need to see some of them at least once a week. Thats just how we are, as social animals.
Denying you the right to maintain this need on grounds of it causing him displeasure, then outright refusing to work on the insecurities that contribute to him feeling like this and slinging all responsibility for it onto you, is incredibly selfish and mean, not just towards you, but towards your children. I can’t tell you what to do, but no matter what you sacrifice for his comfort, and no matter how good you get at it, it will come at the cost of your childrens future understanding of relationships and marriage. If your basic needs arent being met - if you’re running around doing everything while he gets to slack off and have his way 100% of the time - that will become the basis for their default.
Even if I know it isnt easy, I would suggest finding a safe place where you can relocate to with your children and divorce him before things escalate or before you break entirely. This is no way to live - and no life to offer them.