Has anyone been able to course correct a codependent relationship? My girlfriend is prone to episodes of heavy neediness, jealously towards any friends of mine that is a woman, angry outbursts if I'm 'slacking' on romance, or sex. We live together (I thought it would help haha) & I'm genuinely excited to spend time with my girlfriend when I have a chance & it often turns in to me arguing "why are you complaining when we can just make plans & enjoy our time together now?"

As if I'm supposed to quit my job & pour 40 hours a week into making her feel good. I definitely fed into this codependency at the beginning of our relationship, we have been going to couples therapy talking about the matter, but at this point it feels like all talk no change. I don't want to sit down & talk about our childhood for the actual 40th or 50th time I want to have a healthy sustainable relationship.

I'm sick of hearing that she will be less clingy or less demanding. I'm a cheesy lovey dovey guy & I'm not shy about that, I'll take her out & make her feel special every chance I get but it I feel like I NEED to do it or else she'll blow up on me it just destroys my enthusiasm.