I always took making coffee for your s/o to be a sign of love. I've been making my bf coffee the way he likes it every morning for a year now. He only takes it black, but I still brew it for him until he's ready to get up.

He finally offered to make my coffee for me but he gave me this weird look when I told him I wanted queso in it. I feel like queso gives it a creamy flavor and takes the worst of the bitterness out of the coffee. He refused to put the queso in my coffee and it hurt my feelings because I never complained or made fun of him for just taking his coffee black.

Should I just let this go or is it fair to ask my bf to respect my queso coffee the way I respect his black coffee?

I don't socialize with men very much, and I'm kind of like as much of a "guy friend" as we have in my friend group. I'm also kinda asexual in a 60/40 kind of way so I feel like I handle guys better than they do most of the time since I don't fall for their stuff as easy.

I try to look out for my friends since they're all more delicate and used to people looking out for them than I am. Which is why when I went home with a guy last night and they freaked out when I didn't call back the next day was so weird.

They acted like they thought I'd been murdered and I was just supposed to know to call them first thing as intuition. They're mad at me now because they said I wasn't being "safe" but it doesn't feel fair that I have to abide what they say is safe or I end up with everyone I know calling me to make sure I'm ok when I'm only doing the most mundane shit ever.

They said I'm not careful enough. I feel like I'm supposed to be the one looking out for them so the fact they think I can't look after myself in this kind of thing really hurts.

I want to let them know I'm more capable than they've given me credit for. I'm hoping somebody with good ideas comes along to help me with that