I'm FTM and my gf is MTF. I'm a repper bc I'm 4'11", and I feel like presenting as a man being that short would be hell. So I just tomboymode.
I didn't mind because my trans gf always let me feel like a guy when we were together, but lately she's been protective since I started working nights and it makes me feel like she doesn't actually see me as a guy and she's just humoring me.
I tried to talk to her about it and she's all "gender neutrally, I'd worry about anybody who's small getting bothered and being real you're tiny" and it fucked me up. I've just been coasting on auto pilot the past week and everything feels pointless now.

I want her to respect my manhood, how can I show her that I can take care of myself?