I'm closet LGBTQ, but still living with my strict Asian parents since the 2025 job market sucks. At dinner tonight they were guilt tripping me for having to live with them rather than going out into the world and stuff, and were begging me to put the phone away at dinner, clean the toilet every week etc.

I reminded them I was a legal adult and I wasn't willingly living with them anymore. They kept pushing back, defensively justifying their control of me. Rn they even have access to my wardrobe and hairstyle preferences, which is why I haven't started any sort of HRT, and don't even visually pass or socially transition.

Realizing this, I asked them a hypothetical: "mom what if I dyed my hair red? I don't want to, but WHAT IF?"

Mom retorted that if I did, she wouldn't stop me if I paid for it myself, but she'd criticize it in my face, also mentioning HR would have a fit over it when I interviewed for jobs.

I then asked her what she'd do if SHE were HR and was interviewing equally qualified candidates but one had dreadlocks / wore a hijab / were LGBT. And she straight-up said she'd hire the other candidate because they'd be "cleaner", also saying "Asians just ARE more qualified" etc. I.e. mom straight up admitted to SUPPORTING HIRING DISCRIMINATION. So did my dad too when he joined in.

Finally it escalated so badly my mom told me to go to hell and called me a loser.

I admit I might've been a bit of an ass when refusing to clean the toilet, but I just think my parents' reaction went a bit far. I'd never tell my parents to go to hell.