>>40459161
>I cried for ~45 minutes today. It was the first time I cried in like seven years. I have a reason; but regardless of that, I feel so much lighter.
I am glad you got that much needed catharsis. It's so, so important to have that pressure valve. How are you today?
>>40460803
Tell me about your friend, your struggles, how therapy is going. We're here to listen. Things often are hard, but you don't have to figure it out all on your own.
>>40463235
>I usually start talking to people, I spend a lot of effort on them
very good
>pending actual time doing stuff together
perfect
>some months of this
important: do you feel the extent to which you spend time with people exhausting? Like, it will always take some effort to make room for people in your schedule, but do you feel your efforts sustainable or do you risk burning out?
>only for the other person to not give a fuvk despite my previous efforts.
In other words one of the core issues is that you invest a lot in advance and then find your efforts not reciprocated?
>Exceptions exist.
How do those go, or do they also just fizzle out but differently so?
>If I keep hunting down the person they might still throw me a bone.
Difficult. Okay so there are different things to this: are we talking about you always being the one to initiate conversation, or outright drive it? Do people you engage with rarely share things on their own if prompted? One big issue is when people basically never really expand upon anything. You know, like: "what are your thoughts about.." and all you get is basically a one sentence response.