Scrambling post order a little to fit character limits..
>>40125255
Lemme preempt and say you did great coming here.
>I feel like I need to change my outlook on something.
>I am in love with my best friend and she is in love with a depressed bastard that doesnt give her much attention.
>I shouldnt *have* to be the one to make her feel like the perfect woman she is - that *should* be her SO.
It is definitely an issue, as much as supporting your SO is important, a support NETWORK cannot be a single person. This is what is actually meant with "a partner is not a therapist"; of course it is important to check up on one another but every person needs more than one other person for support to distribute the load. I get your perspective, as someone who has no emotional stakes and has seen this shit play out plenty as well. You are in pain, and you want to let go of a relationship that can't work out as things are. That is very mature of you, admirable even. Of course it's also a kinda self sacrifice that has its own nuances, such as her probably not being aware of your feelings, and you justifiably fearing what could happen IF she knew...
But you also want to be a good friend and want to stop the downward spiral. Here's an interesting approach: flank her. Target the SO, not her. One of the most immediate things he needs is other people. And convincing her of that would be important too. Forcing the fucker not to isolate. Fighting depression is doing things you hate (in the moment) for reasons that feel meaningless (in the moment), after all.
>>40130593
All the best, shinjinon.. Fucking hell.. I am so sorry.
>The trip is a bit of a blur but I know I got a plastic tray to put some of my potted plants on and some other inexpensive items I had written down on a list prior to going. Their rechargeable batteries are supposed to be pretty good :)
Oh nice! Where will you put the plants?