>>40245174
>I'm afraid of changing an established dynamic.
Maybe it is not the most comforting thing to hear but.. people are multitudes, always. Telling them won't reveal anything that you won't need to learn to get close enough to them anyway. You need people close to you right now, and that needs a change in established dynamics. Distance is comfortable, but isolation kills. I will be here no matter how things pan out.
>Probably someone where the relationship is built around that sort of thing.
In that case, perhaps we need to talk about local lgbt communities and the like.
>It's how I was already kind of thinking I should treat transition lol
Perfect!
>I keep feeling like I should give up on trying to improve my situation and just let myself rot forever... I know I shouldn't, but it feels safer.
That is normal to the point of bordering on universal. Comfortable stagnation, change being scary, these are some of the most common demons people fight day to day. They are hyperactive offshoots of otherwise healthy mechanisms: risk aversion and inertia. Without the former we would probably be dead, without the latter we could constantly change our minds and go nowhere. You are doing the right thing pushing back.
>>40253328
It is difficult. There is nothing wrong with a bit of a honeymoon phase but a lot of couples isolate themselves too much from their friends. Having no common friends and using the other as the sole source of comfort and human interaction spells death for almost every romantic relationship. It's like a chair with two legs. I noticed that these kinds of relationships die down as people approach their 30s, except of course for the divorced-to-be kinda couples. I can only assure you that it isn't on you, and that it isn't always like this.
>>40256435
>I hope Siganon knows that they rock.
Awh.. thank you, Anon. I'm really, really trying.
>>40262910
>I wish I was useful to the ones who love me
What makes you feel you aren't?