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6/21/2025, 2:31:38 AM
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Jealousy is a lot like a pain receptor. You don't call someone weak because they feel pain when they get stabbed, that's a normal system warning, saying something you value (in that case, your person) is threatened. Jealous is very similar. Jealousy is what you feel when value, loyalty, and fairness, thing very much worth fighting for, are threatened. It's a natural emotion, and it's not a matter of being clingy but rather being aware of those things, and wanting to act to preserve those them. In poly relationships jealousy still happens, but the differemce is those people try to rationalize it away and after above their own biology instead of using it as useful data. And that's why they always fail. That's also why a lot of normal marriages fail for that matter, for not respecting those things and letting jealousy fester under the surface instead of letting it breathe and be resolved. If someone says they don't believe in possessiveness in relationships, ask them, if they were in business, would they let their business partner split company equity with strangers? No? Then they do believe in possessiveness, at least where value and investment are concerned. A relationship has value and is an investment, in yourself and humanity, and as a means, not a means to an end, placing them as even more important than business arrangements. This makes jealousy far more necessary in other instances where it's already necessary. Wanting exclusive access is logical, on both sides. It's healthy, psychologically and biologically. It's risk management. It's not a coincidence that the people who successfully listened to these things and respected them built stable civilizations and lived joyful married lives, while the ones who didn't lived in either unstable barbaric empires that crumpled in on themselves, or died alone on the fringe. Learn from history and recognize the patterns. That's all you have to do to verify everything I'm saying.
Jealousy is a lot like a pain receptor. You don't call someone weak because they feel pain when they get stabbed, that's a normal system warning, saying something you value (in that case, your person) is threatened. Jealous is very similar. Jealousy is what you feel when value, loyalty, and fairness, thing very much worth fighting for, are threatened. It's a natural emotion, and it's not a matter of being clingy but rather being aware of those things, and wanting to act to preserve those them. In poly relationships jealousy still happens, but the differemce is those people try to rationalize it away and after above their own biology instead of using it as useful data. And that's why they always fail. That's also why a lot of normal marriages fail for that matter, for not respecting those things and letting jealousy fester under the surface instead of letting it breathe and be resolved. If someone says they don't believe in possessiveness in relationships, ask them, if they were in business, would they let their business partner split company equity with strangers? No? Then they do believe in possessiveness, at least where value and investment are concerned. A relationship has value and is an investment, in yourself and humanity, and as a means, not a means to an end, placing them as even more important than business arrangements. This makes jealousy far more necessary in other instances where it's already necessary. Wanting exclusive access is logical, on both sides. It's healthy, psychologically and biologically. It's risk management. It's not a coincidence that the people who successfully listened to these things and respected them built stable civilizations and lived joyful married lives, while the ones who didn't lived in either unstable barbaric empires that crumpled in on themselves, or died alone on the fringe. Learn from history and recognize the patterns. That's all you have to do to verify everything I'm saying.
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