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pigs have it. horses have it. drunk teenagers have it. really drunk adults that shouldn't be having it have it.
I'm thinking the general obsession with sex while fewer and fewer people have access to intimacy has elevated fucking to the status it just doesn't deserve. It's not playing the violin. Thing goes into the thing and they move around.

It seems like this then makes a large part of the satisfaction a consequence of expectations: men looking for a brand new 10/10 reserved princess that becomes a cockslave in the bedroom, women wanting to get slammed into the mattress by chad with the keys to a coveted life. These usually are not reasonable expectations and lead to dissatisfaction with the sex you have.

The only approach I consider is >>81844888
Commitment is is about re-ordering your thoughts to become someone whose instincts align with making your partner feel loved. Yeah, underlying attraction is necessary, but the impulse just can't and wont hit the same forever. We shouldn't give sex a pass as if it is so special that it can't be tamed.
I think men have a stronger affinity for this phenomenon as evidenced by the frequency that their that their fetish wiring goes off the rails. It's an evolutionary adaptation to make men want their aging wives.
And we're at peak coddling of the women's lizard impulses at least in public sentiments.
Better sex has to come with deliberate exchange and communication.