>>937088441
You're making an implicit projection of what your definition of a gay man is, and your definition seems to hinge on whether or not he acts outwardly "gay" in public. Frankly I don't make a habit of wearing my sexuality on my sleeve, and it makes me fairly uncomfortable when people do. That's just a perspective and I think I've given plenty of disclaimers to demonstrate I'm not particularly homophobic. For what it's worth I've topped, bottomed, fucked MTF and femboys and 2 of my previous LTRs now live as men. So I'm not stranger to the world of queers. One of the reasons I was never comfortable with the prospect of actually being gay was just how repulsive and irresponsible I found the community. In the early days it was the real threat of disease, but also the vanity, disposable sex, and dysfunctional nature of relationships that was the norm in gay NYC in the early aughts. Maybe that's better now, but it's all the more reason why people don't need to act out as much as they do.

I think as I said earlier, it's more from a place of disdain for self centered and unserious people who live their lives like nothing else matters. Pic related btw.