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6/20/2025, 4:42:50 AM
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Hieromonk Grēgorios wrote a book that I really enjoyed about how to frame the married life and I think it touched on the importance of one's mindset in dealing with marriage and love. It helped me reframe my understanding on the value and purpose of marriage and the eternal bond created by it.
From personal experience, I feel that "sexual compatibility" as a term is somewhat overemphasized The longer you are with someone, the more each person tends to adapt to one another. There can be times when there are discrete compatibility issues, but I feel like those would be secondary to faults in the overall relationship (i.e., not a cause themselves by an effect of something else).
My experiences with my now wife began awkwardly and grew into being amazing over time. That intimacy and connection which has developed completely and vastly outclasses what "skills" or "techniques" I experienced when I was younger and playing the field. I only look back at that with regret now. If each person is committed to one another and God, then you will get the best of everything.
I don't want to try to come off as an authority though. I am married, and closer to 40 than 30, but my wife and I are merely Orthodox catechumens. We started both as a couple degenerates, an atheist and pagan who found God rather recently.
While it may seem so, the grass is not greener on the other side. There is the point that you will truly earn your "crowns" in marriage by remaining chaste until then.
I guess I must ask, have you not asked your spiritual father about this? 4chan seems like one of the worst possible places for authentic advice, especially on topics such as these. The only reason I stay here is simply the inertia of having been here since nearly the beginning.
Hieromonk Grēgorios wrote a book that I really enjoyed about how to frame the married life and I think it touched on the importance of one's mindset in dealing with marriage and love. It helped me reframe my understanding on the value and purpose of marriage and the eternal bond created by it.
From personal experience, I feel that "sexual compatibility" as a term is somewhat overemphasized The longer you are with someone, the more each person tends to adapt to one another. There can be times when there are discrete compatibility issues, but I feel like those would be secondary to faults in the overall relationship (i.e., not a cause themselves by an effect of something else).
My experiences with my now wife began awkwardly and grew into being amazing over time. That intimacy and connection which has developed completely and vastly outclasses what "skills" or "techniques" I experienced when I was younger and playing the field. I only look back at that with regret now. If each person is committed to one another and God, then you will get the best of everything.
I don't want to try to come off as an authority though. I am married, and closer to 40 than 30, but my wife and I are merely Orthodox catechumens. We started both as a couple degenerates, an atheist and pagan who found God rather recently.
While it may seem so, the grass is not greener on the other side. There is the point that you will truly earn your "crowns" in marriage by remaining chaste until then.
I guess I must ask, have you not asked your spiritual father about this? 4chan seems like one of the worst possible places for authentic advice, especially on topics such as these. The only reason I stay here is simply the inertia of having been here since nearly the beginning.
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