how do i learn to be content and talk to people? im 39 and i have been without love or affection for a long time. the idea of talking to a woman now is almost unthinkable. i wouldnt even know what to talk about. beyond that tho, it fills me with dread. i dont want to l fail and be rejected. when it happens, i am filled with despair.

now, i am not happy anymore. i feel sadness and see a society in decay. people are incredibly ignorant, esp. women. i cannot approach them and talk to them with this huge cloud in my mind. i know what it must look like, this sad man who wants them to do the work of lifting him up. i swear i am not hopeless but i cannot get out if this situation without some sort of encouragement of validation. i do not have the self-esteem anymore to do it. but that is the problem, no woman will want to waste her time with me. i had a gf once, she was very sweet and i made her incredibly miserable.

tl;dr how do i be happy so i can talk to girls?

>>279536696
i dont believe incels know what women want